My cousin is trying to copy the name I chose for my baby.

Question

My cousin is about 1 month further along than me. She was hoping for a boy and had decided to copy my nephew's name exactly(first and middle name). She found out it's a girl and asked my sister about Amirose and my sister told her people might call her Amarosa. Then I found out mine is a girl and my name is Mari so my sister told me to name her Amari kind of like my junior. But my husband and I already had picked a first name. So she helped me pick a middle name with is my husband's nick name and middle name together...Jaylee. Because we had said if it was a boy we would make him a junior. So we made her name like his little junior. Plus our first daughter has his middle name in her middle name...Analee. So we have our girls with his middle name...lee. Okay so my cousin knows this and she has her whole life copied everything we do her parents do this too. Like my sister recently got married and my cousin wants to do it at the same place, same music, same band, and everything. So she tells me I think of naming mine Amirose Lee. So I tell her we already picked our name out it is Selena Jaylee. And she goes oh Selena that is one of my names too. So she says I guess I'll not do Selena. After she had just told me that her name would be Amirose. She says she isn't sure what she will pick. So I tell her well our name is picked and that is that. She asks me like 3 times if I will change mymind and I say no. No matter what that is my baby's name but I have a feeling she is going to copy it. I am not going to tell her to change her name because it's her choice but how dumb is that. Lee has nothing to do with her family names and now she is saying she was going to pick Selena too. When her choices before were Christina and Lois. I'm just annoyed because I am trying to be there for her but what do you think. I know there is nothing I can do but we put alot of thought into the name and she just goes okay I think I'll do that one too! Would you say anything or what would you say when she keeps asking you if you will change it? Thanks.

Answer 1

Name it what you want. Your cousin can do the same who cares.

I like Haylee more then Jaylee.

Answer 2

If you knew that she likes to steals names and ideas, why did you tell her the name? You should've seen it coming. She sounds extremely immature. You should to ahead and use the name, Everyone will know she stole it since that is what she does. In the future, just don't tell her anything!

Answer 3

Tell your cousin you've changed your mind... you've decided to name your daughter Amira Lee.

By the time her daughter is born, she will either copy your choice and name her daughter Amira Lee, or she'll pick something else she's already discussed before (Amirose or Analee, or something like that).

Then when your baby is born, use your REAL final choice, Selena Jaylee.

Answer 4

You could walk up to her and tell her you changed your babies name to just something

say Callie Rose or something liek that and see if she changes it when the baby gets here and then don't tell her what you have picked out i never done that till me and my sister was pregnant together and i had the little boy name Tyler Nicholas picked out and well her little boy was born 7 weeks before my little girl but we did not know what we was having till she was born but she took my name

so the best thing is keep it quiet around people who are pregnant

but try this and Well for me i would let her have the name Selena not that good of a name i would think of something better cause that is not the best name  

Answer 5

This same thing is happening with my sister and our cousin, but it's actually an accident.  They both like the girl name Brooke and my sister likes the boy name Brady and my cousin likes Braden.  They are a few weeks apart in their due dates so hopefully one of them has a boy and the other a girl or there will be issues.  It really will be confusing to the kids if their names are exact or similar and they are that close in age.  I think you should talk directly to your cousin about this problem, and if you think of any more names, don't tell them to her!  But try to remember it could just be a misunderstanding or a coincidence that you like the same names.  Good luck!  

Answer 6

Ask this in family, we aren't problem solvers, we just help with naming kids.

Answer 7

I am really sorry but your one paragraph was so hard to read.  It rambled a bit and I lost the point of what you were trying to say.

I suspect your cousin has pinched your baby's name.  So what?  name your baby what you want!

Answer 8

Choose a name between yourself and your husband and stay tight lipped about it until after the baby is born and the birth certificate signed.  It prevents people from making judgement on the name you've chosen or from copying it.  

(the one I hate is when someone says they absolutely hate that name and then give it to their child...or maybe that is code for "I want to use that name")

Answer 9

You can name your baby whatever you want to - and she can do the same.

Let it go.

Answer 10

I would just change it, I've had people steal names and ideas from me I just came up with better ones and didnt tell anyone.

and honestly you should not have told her the names if you knew how she was cause I have a bunch of people like that around me and I watch what I say to them.

Answer 11

I would go about my business with the plan to name my child as I had originally intended. The only thing I MIGHT say to my cousin is that the children are going to be mighty confused when they're together and someone calls out the name with both of them responding - not to mention that others will think it strange (family, friends and strangers alike).

Then I would proceed to tell EVERYONE in the family what you have decided to name your daughter, so there is no confusion as to who had the name first. Surely another family member will step in, speak up and voice how stupid it is (not to mention immature) for her to try to use the same name.

Otherwise, don't worry about it. You have a lot of more important things to stress over - although stressing at all during pregnancy really

isn't a good thing anyway.  

Answer 12

i understand your frustration, but seriously, aslong as you both have healthy bundles of joy, thats all that matters really...

Answer 13

It's your baby and your name, stick to your guns and don't change your baby's name. If she names her baby the same name, take it as a compliment that you have good tastes in names. However, you could also select three or four combinations of the names to take with you into the labor room and when your baby is born, select the name based more on what your precious baby looks like. ( Word of advice, if you change your baby's name, DON"T tell your cousin, that way she can't steal it). Just keep telling her your going to name the baby Selena. :)

And if your cousin is depressed or negative, it's important to keep talking to her, but you don't have to listen to her negativity.

Answer 14

Well, name her Selena Jaylee that's such a pretty name! Also stop telling everyone what you picked. However, just because your cousin is a copycat doesn't mean you can't name your child something you love! Go for it!