My cousins a bridesmaid in my wedding which is in 7 months. This past week she decided to get a chest tattoo?

Question

It is across her collarbone. Is it rude to ask her to cover it up? It isn't as if she had it before I asked her to be in it, and it isn't as if its her back, but it is on her chest and the bridesmaid dresses are strapless. It will be shown in every single picture. What should I do!?

Answer 1

Yes it is rude.  She is there top support and represent you,not stand as some doll.

Answer 2

For me, I always find it rude to ask people to change who and what they are no matter the reason.

Many of my bridesmaids are into body modification: funky hair colors, piercings, and ink.

I chose my girls because they are my best friends and I love them for who and what they are.

Despite the fact we're having and English Garden wedding, I would never ask them to cover their ink or take out their piercings. They likely would do so without being asked, but I would actually prefer them to wear and show it all!

Answer 3

i don't think its rude. i think its mean. if it were my wedding the important thing to me would be having the people i love in my wedding, not worrying about a stupid tatoo. its a part of your cousin so asking her to cover it up is like saying shes not good enough to be in teh wedding.  

Answer 4

Well, she's not going to be in every single picture, so I think you are freaking out a tad too much.  Just ask her casually if she was planning on covering it for your wedding (which is not as easy as just putting makeup on it), if she says no, you can either highly suggest it or accept it.  If you can't accept it, then perhaps you will have to ask her to step down.  (In my opinion, that's a petty reason to ask someone to not be in your wedding.)

Another option is to see if your photographer can digitally remove them. (My friend's father blinked in practically every picture he was in, so the photographer digitally replaced the closed eyes with his open ones.)

Answer 5

  i fully endorse body mods and all, but since she didnt have it when she was asked to be in the wedding, i think it would be fair of you to ask if she coverd it up.  

  just out of curiosity, WHAT is it a tattoo of?  if there isnt a way that she can cover it up (those pastes and things dont always work the greatest) is it really that huge or something that people will instantly be drawn to it in the wedding pictures?

  perhaps her hair can be done in a way that it is less noticable?

Answer 6

Have her cover it.  Make sure you consult a professional and get the right kind of makeup to cover and won't rub off on the dress.

Answer 7

have her cover it...its a fair request- she didn't have it when you asked her to be in the wedding party

good luck!

Answer 8

Get her a coordinated shoulder wrap or silk scarf, and make sure that she uses it.

Answer 9

I don't think it would be exceptionally rude to ask her to cover it, but in the end, will it really matter?

I mean, she might be really offended (but she might not be), and will you REALLY care in 20 years when your married to your husband?  When you put it in perspective of a wedding just being ONE day of the rest of your marriage, is it worth the worry and effort?

Just my opinion!

Answer 10

well you can ask her to cover it but you also might think about having her pick a different dress that would cover the tattoo

Answer 11

no it is not rude! i don't want tattoos all in my pictures! i was thinking of getting dermablend, which is a pretty hefty penny pricewise.  she could buy it herself or you could buy it for her as a bridesmaid's gift!

Answer 12

I suppose you could ask her to cover it, but honestly, she's the one with a tatt across her neck. I mean, really. I don't even know how she would cover it up, unless she wore a turtleneck with the other strapless dresses, or wore a scarf or wrap around her neck, which would look weird. Can you ask her to not be a bridesmaid? She might get upset, but she should have thought about that before she got inked.

Answer 13

You can ask her to cover it up, especially since she didnt have it when you asked and chose the dresses.  

Answer 14

As someone who has tattoos and realizes that not everyone likes them, I wouldn't be offended if a bride asked me to be in her wedding and to keep the tattoos covered.

Your options are to either have her wear a shawl or ask her to get a tattoo cover kit (makeup) and cover the ink.

Answer 15

It is rude to ask her to cover it up. It is part of her body now. Besides, depending on her skin tone, she may not be able to cover it up.

Think of it this way. She will have that tattoo for the rest of her life. Would you want her to appear any differently (ex. a new nose) just because it would make your wedding pictures more idyllic?

What I do think you can do is see if another relative asks her if she is planning to cover it with Dermablend for the wedding. If she says no, that's that. You will have bigger things to worry about on your big day.