My cousins wedding is.............?

Question

not segregated, and in our cultural, the grooms side dances more than the brides family, but i dont want to dance with all of those guys there, and if i dont dance, my aunt and uncle will get mad, and i dont want my cousin getting mad, cause they came to my brothers wedding, segregated, and danced, so we have to do that for them.

i mean i am going to do dabkeh, but not dance.

and his sister is trying to make it all perfect, its annoying. what to do?

Answer 1

Sallam,

its ur decision, but which one is more important to u, Allah(swt) being displeased with u or people. Also dabkeh has become an accepted part of some cultures, but still its dancing.

when in highschool, i refused to take dance classes, hardest weeks of my life.. my teachers hated me, the students made ignorant remarks.. and i was outcasted, because they didn't want to understand.. but i had something better, i had Allah (swt) to turn to. in the end i know not dancing was better for me now and in the hereafter. these are worldy problems, just a test.

inshAllah Allah(swt) gives u the strenght to do whats right.

Answer 2

dont dance.

thats haram

im sorry but let them be mad , u shudnt dance.  

Answer 3

i tell you something, all of my relatives always get upset with me because i don't accept their invitations to their crazy weddings, a wedding celebrations is not a party!

Answer 4

Tell your family that you are a Muslimah and that you intend to practice Islam properly.  If they say something to sway you to the shaitan's way, show them proof in the Qur'an and hadith you're right in refraining from the dance.

Answer 5

hard decision i know!

but what can we do! we are put in postition like those sumtimes!

ppl sumtimes fail to understand how we feel about it!

its not their fault rlly! its no1 fault!

but u have to do ur best at it!

making sure that no one would say the usual stuff

`she is very strict muslim and she is taking it too seriously and its annoying``

we have to protect the image of islam! so do urbest! or rather! do the very least to please them and please allah!

hope this helps!

goodluck!

Answer 6

Practice what you preach and if it is Islam, then choose Islam and Allah's words before anything else.

Make the wise choice and live with it no matter who thinks otherwise.

Wasalam.

All the best.

Answer 7

well explain to them why you dont wanna dance and maybe they may understand...

clarify the islamic popint of view as well or show then the answers to your questionns

Answer 8

Listen to yourself...you follow a religion that prohibits dancing at your own sister's wedding.  What are you thinking?  And what kind of God would prohibit joy on such an occasion?

Answer 9

Go there in a modest abaya - they won't make you dance after that.

Or, speak to your folks beforehand so they don't force you to dance.

In Pakistani weddings, in the mehndi (henna) party, it'ssegregated and so is the main event (unless the fam is modern)