My coworkers suck.?

Question

So my job consists of me and one other person on shift taking care of people who are mentally disabled. Some of the women who work in the home seem like they don't really like me... Is it possible to be totally unable to relate to other females? What can I do differently? I try so hard to be nice and to not make anyone mad. Last night I had a dream that I was getting mad at my coworker because she ratted on me for doing nothing at all; they like to tell the boss that I was not doing my job and then I get in trouble. I want to quit so badly but my boyfriend got me this job and he would be mad if I quit. Also, he thinks I should just ignore them and keep the job; I am miserable at this job, what should I do? I love my boyfriend very much and he seems to always know whats best for me... and for some reason he thinks I need to keep this job... how can I tell him I don't want to work there anymore and keep him from getting mad at me?

Answer 1

I have worked with women like that. In fact, one job I really liked had this awful woman that worked there. A lot of people complained about her. Eventually over time we were able to work well together. We had our occasional bouts of not getting along. Focus on the job. Be nice like you are. But don't get sucked into the negativity. Just focus on what you do, ask questions, be positive, and think of the patients that need you. In time, things should get better. But don't worry about getting them to like you. It doesn't matter all that much. They will respect you if you essentially stand up to them by doing your job and ignoring their pettiness or stupidity.

Give it another try.

Answer 2

It is your job, dont ever let others force you to quit, NEVER!

The secret is continue being as nice as you are to them

you will be pushing hate feeling with you good attitude

dont worry most ppl get angry and mad at new ppl joining them

so it is normal, by time they will get used to it

and if you just work hard, mind your own business and just be nice

they will eventually loosen up

What if they dont?? ( i know u maybe asking this)

Well in this case still dont leave your job and make all you can to prove your self in your job, (u are not working for them)

Another thing you can talk to your boss about it( that is last option i guess)

Answer 3

I would talk to my boss about it.

Answer 4

I've always said, "If you're not having fun, you need to find a different job." In my opinion, you really need to.

If your bf gets angry at you, then he has some issues. He should support you in your decisions.

I'm sensing some control issues on your bf's part and you're allowing it. "he seems to always know whats best for me... and for some reason he thinks I need to keep this job..." Who's running your life?

Answer 5

Your boyfriend doesn't have to endure this job.  Go ahead and look for something else. Meanwhile, cover your ***.  Document everything, so they can't get you in trouble.  Request a transfer. You can always work in other houses.

Answer 6

As another person said, your b/f sounds controlling and he is not in the line of fire, you are, and if this job is stressing you out to the point where you are having nightmares it is time to quit. Register at three employment agencies, post your resume on monster.com, check your local classifieds, and tell your b/f you cannot jeopardize your own health over a job. If he LOVES you, if he CARES about you, if he VALUES you as a person, he will SUPPORT you and understand...if not, then you need to re-examine the whole relationship.

Answer 7

If you're getting stressed it's time to leave.  It's not work anymore, it's slavery.

Tell him.  I supported and backed up my wife in similar situations when she decided to quit.

Answer 8

quit

Answer 9

No job is worth being miserable.  Tell your boyfriend the truth ....you are very unhappy and it is not a good job for you.

Find a new job and if he is understanding and loves you, he will accept your decision.

After all, it is YOU that has to get up every day and do this job, not him.

Answer 10

You sound like me in some ways.  Read my questions I've been accused of not having a backbone.  I'm a kind hearted person.  I've never been the sort of person to snap back with a rude response.  

You really need to assert your independence though.  If you don't like the job look for another.  If your boyfriend were mature he'd support your decisions and not want you to stay where you're unhappy.  How much do you need the money?  One thing that tends to happen is people leave jobs.  The rude people may leave.  I've experienced that.  I've been here a fairly long time and I've had some real ****** co-workers.  In my opinion, women are the hardest to work for.  They are the ones who will make rude comments about how you dress and other inappropriate comments.  Men are simply glad to see you at work!!!  

I'd rather work for and with a man than a woman anyday!!  I think you should stick out the job for at least a year then decide what you want to do.  Don't try to be "friends with co-workers.  It doesn't work.  Be polite and even pleasant but never confide in a co-worker.

Answer 11

You know what is best for you,  not anyone else. If this job is making you have nightmares and making you unhappy, I would say time to move on.

Answer 12

Are you able to switch shifts or areas of the nursing home/facility?

Are you able to work for another company that does something similar?

Are you able to confide in your boss about the nasty women you work with?

Whatever you do, don't just quit and give up looking.

If I were you and I was truly ready to leave, I would secure another job before you left this one.

That way, your boyfriend has nothing to be mad about.