My dad's gf is 2 years younger than me. Should I accept her as my future step mom?

Question

My parents separated in 2003. Now both of them have new partners. My dad, 45 years old got a gf who's just 23 years young. I feel uncomfortable everytime she's around the house. I respect my dad so much and I dont really like the idea of him bringing his gurl in the house so i dont talk to her at all. But she's pretty, what should I do?

Answer 1

that is wrong...

Answer 2

Is she going to become your future step mother? Like has your dad proposed? Until that happens I wouldn't be worrying myself sick about it.... a lot of relationships break down long before that stage.

If it looks like she will become your step mom try to get to know her and treat her more like a friend than a mother... at the end of the day you're older and have more life experience than her so it's not like she will be able to guide and advise you like a mother.

Just take it as it comes, don't panic. good luck!

Answer 3

You should accept her, than if she treats you fine, that's that, if she treats you like a slave or makes you unhappy, be strong and shout at her, if still cannot work, slap her in the face... if still can't work, wack her breast and kick her ***! If you are a gentle one, than try and talk to your papa... be happy!

Answer 4

Try treating her like a human then maybe a friend. You may never feel like she is a parental figure but you might learn to trust her like family.

You might want to think about moving out and giving your dad some privacy now that he is single again and you are what 25 now?

Answer 5

Well, it's gonna be really awkward because you're gonna have a stepmum two years younger than you( lol I gotta admit that's funny) but I guess you could try to make small talk with her and I guess be polite.

Answer 6

try to steal her lol jk same thing with my mom they broke up soon cause he wanted "to live his youth" he was 20 she was almost 40

Answer 7

maybe he got her for you?  

Answer 8

omg, i would be bad, thats horrible, like she could be a mother figure when ya older than here. i would try and hook ya dad up with someone his age on the sneak. or flirt with his girlfriend to see if she makes any advances on you, if she does then ya know she aint no good for ya dad, tell him to bin her!!!

Answer 9

it sounds as though you are jealous of her looks.  you should be happy he has someone that makes him feel good.  ignoring her is not the answer. you should get to know her you may get to like her.  you are being bratty by treating her badly.  what does your dad say about your actions?  he is probably upset with you.  

be nice it may not last.  and he will blaim you when they break up. good luck.

Answer 10

Your one lucky b*****d!

You've got an ALL-IN-ONE step mom:

she can be a step mom, friend, a sister, a nurse to ur dad, or a gf (when ur dad dies).

Answer 11

That must be very upsetting for you.  I think it's worth a little face-to-face with your dad, conveying that you're concerned about the situation.

But if they become serious, you may just have to get practical.  If they are married he will side with her, not you.  If you want to continue to have contact with your dad you may have to suck it up and learn to be polite.

On the upside, you're already an adult, so technically she would never play a real "step mom" role with you.  She will be your father's wife, but you need not consider her a mother figure.

Answer 12

your dad is sugar daddy..lolz

Answer 13

DADs got GAME!!

You're 23 and still at home, whats up with that!

Let your DAD and MOM live their lifes,

they may both make mistakes, but let them enjoy/endure them!

And you say she's "pretty", are you attracted to her, or her to you!

In any case, this would be WRONG, stay away from her, if you're thinking wrong things, but not away from DAD.

Let him enjoy his "BARBIE"

Answer 14

Future stepmom might be quite hard to swallow considering she's young enough to be your lil sis.  I know we can be quick to judge about major age difference (??? what she's aiming for in hooking up with your father). But then again, if she's nice and responsible (i.e. has a job) and assuming your dad is happy (of course he is) then think of it this way...just be happy for your dad and be thankful that he's not out in bars drunk,or having s*x with different prostitutes and get sick.  Oh and one more thing, at least you don't have to take care of your dad when he really gets old...stepmom to the rescue LOL!!!

Answer 15

Maybe you can let her in your life a little. Even though seperations are hard because you wish your family was all happy again, with your origional mom. It must be hard for you. But time will let her in a little, into your days and you could maybe like the things that your father sees in her, if she's a good person to be around. This is how your life is, and your fathers you cannot change the things that are around you. You just have to cope with them, and the best way for them to happen is by you making what is best of it! Hope I could help you. She might understand you a little more than your dad though too which is a benefit, because she's almost as young as you are which is a little awkward, but there are many people experience the same thing as you in this world! Believe me. Also talk to your dad if you haven't about this situation. Tell him that you only want the best for him and if he loved you, he'd want a relationship that works for his WHOLE family, such as you hun. I'm sure he doesn't want his son growing up uncomfortable. If you need any help just feel free to contact me!

Answer 16

I think you should treat her like a friend or a sister...Your dad is now the envy of all the males around him...maybe you and your dad's gf can be friends...talk about hair...fashion...go shopping whatever...Its totally unrealistic for her to be like a "mom" to you...Be friends and be happy!

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