My dad's going to jail?

Question

My dad is going to jail the first day I go back to school (Sept. 10)

He hasn't really told us anything, but I know from encrypted emails he sends to his friends (I know all of his passwords to his emails).

Anyway, I've been very depressed lately and I've been crying every night because a lot is going on right now. How do I cope when my dad goes to jail?

He's going to jail for a lot of different white-collar crimes I have a very hard time believing he committed! How will he be treated in prison?

I have no friends who can comfort me because they think my dad will higher some hotshot lawyer and everything will be done with. My brothers don't seem to care about this and my mom is an alcoholic who makes everything seem 100x worse than it really is.

What do I do? At night I listen to these sad songs and I just cry and I get really depressed at night... which no one realizes because I'm supposed to be the "strong" one in my family. A school counselor is out of the option, I went to them because my friend was anorexic and they didn't help whatsoever!

Answer 1

well... unfortunately theres not much you can do. white collar crime is more embarassing than anything if you ask me. especially if youre well off... truth is , your dad has to deal with this and its really not your problem (well it is.. but you get what i mean) it really depends on how h**l be treated there... he might go to a minimum security jail with other guys who have done the same crime and they really arent like jails at all. or h**l be thrown in with other criminals. its his cross to bear. you cant stop your life and cry all the time. he made a mistake you shouldnt be paying for it. .. obviously you have to be the strong one if your mom is having her own problems and your brother apparently runs away from his.

youll be ok. just keep your head up and learn from his mistakes.  

Answer 2

You obviously love your dad. I guess he loves you too. He is being secretive b/c he does not want to hurt you.

So hug him tightly, tell him you love him, and that you are there for him no matter what trouble he is in.  Ask him what you can do to help.

If he tells you about his problem OK, If he says he is going to be "away for a while" dont argue. Just say you know about the jail and will pray for him to be protected and safe..

DO NOT tell him about the emails.

Answer 3

Nothing can take away the pain that you are feeling right now. Maybe you should talk to your dad about this. Let him know what this is doing to you. If anyone can help to ease the pain right now, it would be him.

Answer 4

Well first of all you will still be able to see your dad in jail.  I know it might be hard to do that but I would rather seen my dad in jail then not at all.  It sounds like you love him very much and you should.  No matter what he's still your dad and he is a person just like everyone else and people tend to make mistakes.  Hope that helps and keep your head up girl it's not the end of the world.

Answer 5

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this. I know what your going through I somewhat had this sort of expierence. Although my family was there to help I still had to cope with some stuff. I got through it though& miracelously enough I'm living a very very very happy life right now.

I want to bring some joy to you too& the only way that can happen is God. You have to have a relationship with God& that's what Christianity is about just to make it clear. It is NOT a religion. He took my pain away& He can definitely take yours.

Psalm 94: 19

19 When anxiety was great within me,

your consolation brought joy to my soul.

1 Peter 5:7

7Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

There is no one NO ONE in this universe better than God.

Not only will take yours pain and sins away but He'll restore your happiness and joy& will bless you immensely.

He did that with me& He works in so many wonderful ways.

I didn't write this just so that I can "lure you in to a religion" a lot of people think that but like I said it's a relationship. I did this because I care about people who have to deal with these kind of things and I feel like it's my job to tell you that the only way that you can fell better is God.

Zephaniah 3:17

17 The LORD your God is with you,

       he is mighty to save.

       He will take great delight in you,

       he will quiet you with his love,

       he will rejoice over you with singing."

I will pray for you alright?

any questions email me [e-mail]

I hope everything turns out. Pray to God at night, maybe join a youth group& talk to a good person from there because I know they can help. I'm so sorry for what is happening to you but things will get better. GOD BLESS!!♥

Answer 6

You need to talk to others in your situation,

when visiting Dad, ask the guards if there

is such a program!

Good Luck

Your life is not over, don't let this ruin

your growing up.  Put your mind to

bettering yourself so that you don't end

up in jail also!

Answer 7

PRAY!!! God loves you and can help you. "Ask and you shall receive." Just say your prayers and whatever is in God's plan will unfold. =)

GOD BLESS!

Answer 8

There has to be someone you can talk to, even if there aren't any good friends to turn to. What about any cousins, aunts, uncles, family friends, teachers? You have to get this off your chest somehow,  who is the person you trust the most?

Answer 9

Find a hobby get your mind off things, participate in extracurricular activities, Pray, meditate.  IDK some things i like to do.  You are your Dad's responsibility.  Not the other way around, find a mentor someone you can hang around and just shoot the breeze, start a journal! I like mine because i can reflect back on how much progress ive made.