My dad calls me hurtful names!!!!

Question

Well my dad and brothers call me very hurtful names, most are concerning my weight! One that i hate the most is "thunder thighs". There almost always about my weight. I don't think i am fat but i am beginning to wonder. I am a flyer in cheerleading and i wear a small in shirts and a double zero to a double zero in pants. But some of my pants are too tight in the thighs. I have tried to go on diets but they don't last but 2 or 3 days. I have tried to tell my dad to stop but he justs says it builds character. How can i tell my dad to not call me these names. also if he keeps on going like this will it possibly cause me to have a eating disorder?

Answer 1

Ignore him and walk away, each and every time. No matter where you are so he can see how much it hurts. I'm sorry men can be insensitive at times, perhaps he doesn't understand how it is making you feel.

Answer 2

Where is YOUR mom , that she allows her sons and her husband to have such little respect for YOU and Woman ???? You need to sit down with your mom and tell her point blank, I do not like these names I am being called, I want YOUR support in making my brothers and dad stop. IF your parents are divorced, then STILL talk to your Mother, if she is not in the picture, talk to your dad's Mother. NO man should show such disrespect to a female!! You can stop this ...  

Answer 3

You could remind Dad that you got your thighs from him!

Weight issues I think you do not have - your family is enjoying playing with you because you react to them so they do it the more.

Try to hide from them what you really feel when they do this, walk away quietly & go read a book somewhere - anything to show that you are ignoring them & getting on with your life.

They will soon get bored with it when you stop rising to the bait.

Eating disorder? Absolutely not.

Best wishes, UK

Answer 4

You're a double zero! There is no way that you're fat! Besides, most people will tease you about things that aren't very true. The truth hurts way more! Look at yourself in the mirror and you'll see that there is nothing wrong with you!

As for your dad, try explaining to him that it upsets you. I'm sure he wouldn't purposely hurt your feelings. He probably thinks you know how thin you are! Good luck :)

Answer 5

tell him he shouldn't say that kind of stuff because it hurts your feelings really bad, that's all. tell him how that makes you feel.

Answer 6

well you have to sit down with your dad and brother and tell them what you just said. for then to stop calling you name that in the future it could cause you problem...... AND YOU ARE NOT FAT or any were close so you dont need to be on diet if you already exercise  

Answer 7

Next time he say some harsh thing to make realize the reality of what hes doing and you don't be sad cause if you got hips where I'm from then that's a good thing so don't listen cause i bet your a beautiful person

Answer 8

I feel for you sweetie, I think you should sit down and have a heart to heart with your father and let him know how you are feeling and what it is doing to your self esteem.  You are tiny and maybe you should try wearing your pants a size bigger. I don't think you need to be on a diet. Your dad thinks he is playing with you and I am sure he doesn't mean to say the things he does. Just tell him what you just told us in your question. Once you talk to your father, he will talk to your bother. and hopefully things will get better. Good Luck.