My dad died 5 weeks ago we wasnt close as he always thought more of my other sisters?

Question

so me and my brother where always the ones left out . they have found it very hard to except that he is dead where as my brother and i find it easy..our dad wasn't in our life's for a long time so why don't we feel upset we have lost both our parents now.our sisters don't want to know us even more now what should we do stick together like we have always done and leave them to get on with there lives?

Answer 1

i would and just let them get on with it they'll come running first

Answer 2

It seems the sensible thing to do.  Males and females are very different from each other and they will probably never understand your point of view.

Answer 3

You stick with those that love you, but do not ever cut off yourselves from others, ok? Take care.

Answer 4

just tell them what you think and move on with your life. let them know that they do not stand between you and your happiness.

Answer 5

So in your family your dad was into having daughters, instead of having sons. In my family it was the opposite. My father wanted a son and he had two daughters. I was the youngest and his last hope for a son. I was always a disappointment to him and I could never do anything to make him proud of me. I loved my dad, because he was my father, but we were never close and when he died, I felt nothing. It's been 5 years and to this day I have never cried. I'm not a cold person, I love my children to death and if something happens to them I get upset and cry. But for the lose of my father, there are no tears.

Tell your sisters that your dad and the girls were close and you understand why they are feeling such pain from losing him, but it was never like that between your dad and your brothers. He's gone now, but you and your brothers are still here and we love you and want you in our lives. Try to be patient with your sisters and in time, when they are able to get past the pain of losing your dad, they may come around. Continue to let them know in little ways that you want to be apart of their lives, but don't push them. Let them deal with this in their own time and hopefully they will come to realize that after losing their father and mother, they don't want to lose their brothers too.

Answer 6

yes that is the answer. people are wrong to think that just because you have brothers or sisters you should be close to them. if they are not nice people or dont gel with you why should you be close to them. you and your brother feel what you feel. dont feel bad about it.

good luck

Answer 7

People react in different ways, I would say give your sisters some space and try to live your life the best you can.

good luck