My dad died a week ago and i need some help?

Question

we dont no how he died it was a freak death or heart faliure but at night i hav trouble breathing cuz of it my mom thinks im doing better but i miss him so much i stop breathing at night and i dont want to tell her cuz she is going through alot right now.... i miss my daddy sooo much and i cry wenever i hav to say his name please help meeee! i dont want to ask my friends this cuz they hav helped me so much already please tell me something to make me better

Answer 1

Sweety... I am so sorry for your loss. I will pray for you.

For now, maybe you should talk to someone about how you feel like a psychiatrist or maybe a therapist. Do you have asthma? Go see your doctor and see what is wrong.

I wish you the best of Luck

Feel better honey

Love and Blessings

Answer 2

I'm sorry about your loss, but the best thing you can do about it is see your GP. They will have a range of solutions to help you emotionally as well as medically if you're having problems with your breathing. So yeah definately you should go see your doctor.

Answer 3

First of all, I want to say that I truly understand how you are feeling right now.  I lost my dad about 3 years ago.  He also died suddenly (I was only 20).  I lived out of state, so I had to find out over the phone.  When I heard my mom say that, I honestly felt like I died on the inside.  I couldn't breath, couldn't speak, just tears.  The first few days up until the funeral, I cried.  I couldn't eat or drink anything, and I only slept a few minutes here and there, from pure exhaustion.  It was weeks before I could get through even 1 day without crying, at least a little.  After a month or so (or less, I really don't remember) I felt like I couldn't talk to my mom or my siblings when I felt like I needed someone to talk to because I didn't want to upset them.  If they ever brought him up, I felt really relieved because we could actually talk about him.  One person I relied on A LOT was my husband.  He didn't say anything that helped me, he would just sit quietly and hold me and listen.  That helped more than anything.  I understand how you feel about not wanting to burden your mom anymore than she already is.  I really do.  But try to remember that she has also lost someone she loves, and she also needs to talk.  You two can be there for each other.  My situation was a little different because my mom and dad had divorced years before he died.  I remember feeling angry at my husband sometimes, because I wanted NEEDED him to say something, anything, to make me feel better.  But in truth, I was just going through one of the normal stages of grief.  I wasn't really angry at him, just at the situation.  It's been almost 3 years, and I still cry sometimes.  I think I always will.  But you do get to a point where you can funtion in your life again, and then you get to the point where you can actually feel happy.  It just takes time.  If you need someone to talk to, I'm more than willing to talk to you.  You can IM me under garciajennifer.  But do try talking to your mom.  If you feel bad about upsetting her, why not go to her and ask her how she's doing, then ask if she wants to talk.  Either way, you really need to talk to someone.  You WILL get through this...

Answer 4

Hi Fiona, the passing on  of your Dad is probably the strongest pain that you will ever feel, but there is something that you must know, he is with you , he is right there, the way that he cared and loved you hasn't changed,  just because his body is not there doesn't mean that the spirit within him has gone as well,  we are not  just made of flesh and bone there is much more in us that doesn't change, when we pass on  its not the end its just a change,   when my father passed away  i was no where  near him , i had no way of knowing that  he had passed away, no one told me  , and he wasn't that old, his health was also good as well , from the night that he passed away little things started happening  in my house little things that made me think there's something strange happening , the thought that he had passed away  crossed my mind the first night and stayed with me in the back of my mind for the next 4 days, i didn't want to believe that he had passed away and that's why i didn't look into it  , when i did find out i looked back and realized what was going on , his spirit was with me  , so i set down and spoke to him , it made feel good because i knew that i got a chance to tell him everything i wanted to tell him , after that i felt a calmness  , i knew that he felt the same way as well , for now i go on living , i miss him , but i know in my heart that one day i will see him again and that's when we will  be together again, there's much more there then we  can all understand ,  for now  take care of your self and your Mom ,

Answer 5

Honey, you broke my heart.  I am so sorry.  I know that won't help.  But maybe telling you about my granpa will.  He raised me so he was my dad to me.  He was a great man.  Funny and goofy and stuff.  He was only a mechanic but he was a hard working man.  Sometimes he would embaress me when I had friends over asking us to do long division problems when I was young.  I always thought that was weird.  Oh yeah and he would always lean back in his chair at the kitchen table.  After I got holder and had kids of my own, he came to stay with me for a little while.  I did not know he was getting ready to die.  He had gotten older and was doing some pretty goofy  things by then.  He went to another state to see my uncles and passed away there.  I was so glad that I got to be with him but I felt really really bad because if I knew I might have said something done something I don't know, just made SURE he knew I loved him.  I do remember him talking about heaven.  Maybe he knew he was going.  And he did tell me that if he gets there first, he would come see me.  And that has kept me happy somehow.  If I were you I would watch a few movies when you're feeling down and don't want to talk to anyone.  Movies about angels and things like that. Not scarry or drama movies. I KNOW!!!  Watch Bruce Almighty with  Jim Carey.  That is a good one.  It's funny if you want it to be.   Maybe it will bring at least some peace to your heart while you grieve.  Keep it light and not too serious for a little bit.  You will need to hurt for a while so don't feel bad about that.  Just try to think of him and feel that he is OK and still with you.  Because I definitely believe that about my POP.  I wish you luck and my thoughts and prayers are with you.