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My dad died when i was 10 and i am now 13, I miss him sooo much, ADVICE??

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So, my dad died at age forty, i was 10.. I will admit i was a real daddy's girl! I am really close to my mom but i just miss my dad sooo much! I am now 13 and it has been about 2.5 years since his death. I am definitly better than i was when he died but i feel like, right now it is just sooo hard i feel like i am feeling the pain i did when i found out he was dead. Please help? Any advice for coping with the pain!

Thank you!

God Bless....

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Oh my God. I am so sorry you have had to go through this. I have never been in a situation like this, so maybe my advice is no good. But try to keep yourself busy, while keeping your Dad's spirit alive. Try getting together pictures of him and your family and making a scrapbook. It will help you remember the good times instead of just how you felt when he died. Once again, I am soo sorry for your loss. May God bless you and help you heal.
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i know how you feel. my dad died when i was really really little and it hurts even until this day! but unfortunatly I am still feeling the pain and dont know what to say to help confort you. just remember the great times you had with him and never forget him! good luck!
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NEVER FORGET ABOUT HIM! make his birthday a special day the pain will always be there somewhere never try to make it go away talk to your mom about him talk to people who knew him.know that he wouldn't want you to miss out on life... but I know even though I have lost people that i love alot with out them dying that the loss will never just go away you just have to make the loss not hurt so much. BUT NEVER TRY TO FORGET! just head to the futur with the happy memorys the moments that you remeber laughing. the bad time are the ones that make it pain so much

I wish you a happy futur
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Hey hun... my dad died when I was 17 and it has been a long hard 6 years for me. But I can tell you that it does get easier. There are a lot of moments that are very sad and you will wish he was around but think about how he would want you to be happy and to live life as full as you can. I know that going to "visit" him at his grave helped me a lot too. I also write him letters when I get sad and low.

I was a daddy's girl too and trust me, the pain seems unbearable. But find peace in the fact that it gets easier, and as much as it hurts now there is hope for tomorrow. (wow that sounds corny!)

Just live life the way that he would want you to. Full, Joyfully and Happily. And cherish his memory.
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The only real thing to help you cope is time. I lost my Uncle Denis who might as well been my Dad at age 15 I'm 18 now and I'm not going to lie there will be days you feel like it just happened yesterday but try to remember the good things that happened and laugh don't cry when you think about it. Also crying DOES help it won't bring him back no but if you talk about how you feel and let it all out you will feel much better. I hope you get over this you are so young this must hurt you a great deal! My thoughts and prays are with you! :D PS if you need anyone to talk with I'm here :D
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I'm incredibly sorry for your loss. It definitely isn't easy and I don't know how much of the pain will really go away but maybe you can tweak your thinking a little....

For example, celebrate the life that he had with you and your family. Think of all the happy stuff. Don't let his absence hurt you as much. Be strong for you, for him and your family and feel blessed for the beautiful memories he left you with. Write them down in a nice diary. Trust me, as time will pass, things will start to fade. Make a nice journal of every memory. Make a scrap book in his honor with pictures and other stuff but make sure to make it's colorful and happy.

Celebrate his life and all the happy moments and cheer him up all the way from heaven.

All the best dear.
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i'm sorry for your pain as i feel the same, as my dad passed away 6 years ago, but i think this is the kind of pain that we have to live with.

time will heal the pain but slowlly, take care :-)
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I know how you feel my grandpa died when I was 10 and that was 8 years ago, a week before xmas and I had a hard time dealing with it months after he died. the only thing I could tell you is talk to people and be around your friends alot and live life to the fullest cause that is What your dad would want you to do for yourself. don't shut yourself from your friends and your family I did that and I had to go to counceling for my depression and I also shut myself off from my friends and now I don't talk to them no more I have'nt talked to them in 6 years now so I don't realy have friends but only online. so please don't shut your friends and family out of your life cause it's not good for you.

I hope i helped

And stay happy it's ok to cry when you feel down but stay happy and hay make your friends lol thats what I do when I feel down. :D
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I am so sorry your dad died at such an early age.  There will be times when the hurt of loosing him will be stronger than at other time.

But it will get better.

You have your life to live and he would have wanted you to have a good happy life.  Not thinking about him all the time.

God gave us memories, remember the happy times you spent with you dad, don't think of his death so much.

When you can think of the happy times you spent with you dad, the pain will go away.

Blessngs
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Oh sweetie. My heart goes out to you - the pain does get less, but the only thing you can do is to remember all the great things you 2 did together and stand by your mom. Your dad would have wanted you to have your life, dream your dreams and keep loving the loved ones at home. My dad died 13 years ago and i still think of him and miss him, but i am an adult and we cope with things differently. So just try and be strong - sorry but nothing we say will make it better for you. We can only try and understand your pain.
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This is rather a difficult situation. On one hand, you have your mother's love and on the other, the longing for a father's love and affection that you know you cannot get.

Deep within, it is those feelings that you had got when you were with your father that is making you feel low. More so, when you think of the time you both had together.

The only way in which you would get solace is by meditation. The more you talk about it, the more you would feel you are moving away from any answer or solution. Sit comfortably in any place, close your eyes and think of the feeling of love and affection of your father. Think of God and speak to him about the way in which you feel. Surely some solace would be derived out of this effort.

take care and best of luck.
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