My dad doesn't trust me? he yelled at me and never has before and i can't stop crying..help me!!?

Question

my dad thinks that if i go to a boy girl party that i would have s*x i told him i wouldn't cause im 11 and that if a boy asked me i wouldn't but then he said that what if he took advantage of me and i just froze and then i yelled its not fair and he screamed no like super loud and i can't stop crying he never yelled at me before he never told me no and my friend told me to sneak out but i just dont know what too do the partys still on till 12:45..PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Answer 1

Under no circumstances should you ever sneak out to go to a party. Your parents will not know where you are, and parties are where people behave in out of control ways.

A boy/girl party for 11 y.o. kids is not reasonable if it occurs in the late evening. If it's just an afternoon thing, there should be parents or adults around just in case anything happens. Only when children reach the age of 15 or 16 should they even expect the possibility of being left unattended at a party.

If your father yelled at you, he was probably impatient and upset at having you argue with him. Ask him, when you and he have both calmed down, if you can talk to him about what kinds of parties are okay to go to. Ask him what you can do to ensure him you will behave safely and that you will be safe if you go to a party.

Answer 2

Talk to your father, be rational and don't yell at him!! Don't sneak out because he'll find out!! Try to be grown up when you talk to him...try to understand his side of the situation...

Answer 3

i agree that is unfair but i wouldnt listen to ur friend

just miss it and go on with ur life

listen to music or eat something u like and or watch a movie

ur dad is looking out for u, try to respect his decision if u can

Answer 4

Do not sneak out, you will be in more trouble than you need to be. Your father just expressing his feelings towards that issue. Kids are starting to have s*x early and thats not good. There are too many STD'S to name, not to mention AIDS has went up too. I'm not saying you gonna have s*x or nothing like that. Its all about being safe than sorry sweetie. If only your father would listen to you and know that he could trust you, things might work out.

Answer 5

I'm sorry, you're 11 years old.  Unless it's in the afternoon, there is no way you should being going to a mixed gender party as you are too young, your father is doing what is best for you because he is and adult, and he has to make decisions that are in your best interest.  Your dad most likely yelled at you because you are 11 and just threw a tantrum. Now you can't stop crying because your daddy yelled at you?  That just proves his point, and mine. It isn't about trust, it's the fact that you are a CHILD.  

Answer 6

Do not sneak out... if you are upset at your Dad yelling at you for wanting to go... you won't be able to handle what'll happen if/when he catches you sneaking out.  Plus, he really won't be able to trust you if you sneak out.

A boy/girl party at night for an 11 year old... I'm sorry but I think your Dad's probably making a good call.  It sounds like a situation where you could get into trouble and ultimately, it's your parents job to make sure you aren't in situations that are more than you can handle.  

There will be lots of parties.  Missing this one isn't the end of the world.   Try not to mope... it'll just make your Dad more upset.