My dad grabbed me and now I have bruises?

Question

We got into a fight and when I tried to walk away, my dad grabbed my arm and held it really tight, yelled at me, and then let me go. And this morning I checked my arm and it had bruises on it.

I am really upset- what should I do? It's not like he meant to hurt me, but he did. I just don't know how I should be feeling right now.

Answer 1

Let it go this time. If it happens again then think about telling another family member. Iv noticed as a man, that women/girls bruise very easily. Everyone makes mistakes, give him 1 more chance.

Answer 2

whether or not he thought he would bruise you is not the case, it is whether he meant to physically hurt you to make a point which he did, just becareful because it might become even more next time... but if he was just overwhelmed with emotions and it doesnt happen again then you know it was an accident... just becareful...

Answer 3

he did not mean 2 hurt you he was probably very angry if ur dad isnt usually physical its no big but its okay 2 be a little upset about it

Answer 4

who cares. if he didnt mean to hurt u then wat is the big deal.

Answer 5

well some of us just bruise easily. don't worry too much about it, you guys were just angry with each other.

Answer 6

If this isn't the first time this has happened, and he's left bruises on you before, then you should tell/talk to someone right away.

If this is the first time, I'd let it go. I'd mention that he left bruises, and if he apologizes, then you know it was a mistake, and if he doesn't and says some rude comment, he's probably still mad about the fight.

But I think that he didn't mean to do it, and he just wanted to get your attention.

I know you're upset, and I think you should talk to him.

Answer 7

I don't think he meant to leave bruises on you, he probably didn't realize his own strength or u just bruise easily, i don't think its nothing to be concerned about.

Answer 8

This is not unusual. I'm sure your dad was trying to get a point across to you, and felt disrespected when you walked away from him. If you know he didn't mean to hurt you (and is probably not even aware you have arm bruises), you are not an abused child. Maybe you can tell him (without drama) that he bruised your arm and to please not grab your arm like that.. but be prepared to throw in something about not walking away when he is speaking because you respect him.. and the apologies should go both ways.

Answer 9

I think you should talk to him about it. Tell him he hurt you and you didn't appreciate it. If he does it again. Maybe you should tell your mom,  or any other trusted adult.