My dad has just decided to disown me?

Question

I share a flat with my older brother Patrick and this morning Patrick saw our step sister in my bed and all her clothes on the floor leading to the bed. I've fancied my step sister since I was fifteen and we've been step siblings for almost 11 years. Both me and my step sister are twenty living away from home. Patrick told my dad after our step sister left feeling embarrassed. My dad said he'd cut off all contact with me if I go anywhere near my stepsister. Which is near impossible as she's almost everywhere. I know it's not wrong to be in love with her because we are only related my our parents marriage. Is there anyway I can still be in contact with my dad and have a romantic relationship with my step sister?

Answer 1

you are a dirty boy, you should be ashamed.  

Answer 2

lol dats like the film teeth boy i no u must be finkin its ok cause were not blood related but justt fink 4 a moment bout the people that u'll be hurting

dats all i got 2 say

Answer 3

get your dad and step mum to get a divorse :D

Answer 4

youre gross and yes it is wrong.

Answer 5

Wow. That's a big problem. I would try to talk to your dad reasonably, try to see why he finds the relationship to be wrong or unhealthy, then work with that to try and convince him. How does your step mother feel? Try talking to your step sister, ask for her help in convincing your father. You might want to consider a family therapist.

Just one question though: Why did you post this question in Beauty and Style?

Answer 6

You're twenty. Think about that for awhile.  

Answer 7

Sorry dude.  No way at all.  At least I do not see it happening. Wait till he calms down and explain yourself if you want

Answer 8

Well, mate...

I am sorry for you.

I can say that you should try to understand that although you're not blood related to her, she is your "half sister".

You must comprehend that it would be very weird having a romantic relationship with a sister.

I have to say that your dad is right. You can have any other girl and the one you've picked is not the right for you.

Family doesn't mean blood. Family is beyond blood. Family means mum+dad+sisters+brothers.

Even though I ain't religious nor a believer I am 100% sure that this is wrong.

Try to imagine the other way round: Imagine that you were going out with this girl. You'd introduce her and her family to your dad and your family and your dad would fall in love with her mum. You wouldn't feel comfortable, would you?

Just do some thinking about the whole thing and make your own conclusions.

You are a 20 y.o. man and you should've known better.

Answer 9

Right Ok. Imagain If You Have Kids Together That Is Just Embarrasing He/She Would Be Like ' :O My Dad Is Married To His Sister :S Eww'

Shame On You I Can Understand But Think OF The Poor Kids

Answer 10

She's not actually your sister and you've obviously grown very close which isn't abnormal and it takes two of you. Has she been disowned too or are you taking them blame for the two of you? If your dad considers her to be like a daughter it probably feels wrong to him. He's raised both of you as brother and sister which probably makes it really weird for him. It's probably natural for him to be protective of his 'daughter' first rather than you. I guess he needs time to mull it over and resolve his own issues with it - which is something he may never do fully.

You're also very young and it's likely this relationship won't last and that you'll both grow up and move on, which could make things uncomfortable for you when you're older and have to see her at family get togethers. Maybe it would be best to avoid her and any such temptation. Perhaps you could have a chat to her about it. How does she feel? How has her mum reacted? Perhaps she could be more sympathetic and help you get back into your dads good books.

Hopefully in time it will blow over.

Best Wishes

Answer 11

ermm i dunno...............but theres nothing wrong with what your feeling towards her as your not blood related =]

Answer 12

Sorry but I think it's wrong of you to be having a romantic relationship with your step-sister. You may not be related by blood but you are related because of your parents marriage. It must be incredibly awkward for the rest of your family to deal with. But like you said - you are both adults now so you can do whatever you like. Just don't expect everybody to feel happy about it. You must realize that it won't be easy for them. :-)

Answer 13

If you are 20 then you are old enough to know what morals are.  Thank goodness your father does. I can understand you liking her/her liking you,  but you both should know where to draw the line.  Both of you need to grow up and find someone else to be your lover.

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Answer 14

um....ew.....isn't tht like illegal or something?

Answer 15

wow...ew, dude that's kind of weird. you should stop fooling around with your step sister and keep in contact with your dad.

Answer 16

If you are not Blood related then it's not legally wrong, but your Dad sees you all as his Children and obviously does not want "his" kids sleeping with each other!

In his mind, you ARE blood related even if factually you are not!

It's hard, but try to understand his point of view even if you disagree with it!

His babies are sleeping with each other, he's bound to be upset!

Answer 17

Don't worry dude if she makes you happy go for it.

If you become an item then he will have to accept it or leave it. Not necessary the best thing to do but it's done so don't dwell on it

Answer 18

its not........but its still kinda like........wtf...  

Answer 19

why ask this twice. u need to give him time. or decide who u wanna be with most

Answer 20

um...wow...

Answer 21

ew, thats sick...doesn't matter if you are blood related or not, what matters is she was brought up as your sister, she is your sister- blood aside....you shoud be ashamed