My dad hates me, what should I do?

Question

Basically I work for my dad (have done for the last year and a half, but the commute was killing me, so I managed to find a job closer to home (I don't live with my folks any more, I live just up the road from them). Now though, since I handed in my notice, he doesn't talk to me much, and when he does its only about work. To make matters worse, my brother has just started working for him and so naturally my father loves him coz of it (My bro does still live at home). He is always taking my bro out to the pub and for meals etc etc and I never get an invite. And to add to it, my bro makes sure he rubs it in my face. What do I do? i can't desert them coz they are after all family and as much as they annoy me, I still love them. When I tried talking to my mum she just said stop being rediculous. Am I being rediculous? What should I do? I feel like I've been pushed out of my own family :(

Answer 1

Maybe your dad feels hurt because he may see it as you dont want to work with him. Talk to him about him and tell him it isn't him and you love him.

Answer 2

Did you explain to your dad why you quit?  Tell him why, and let him know you still love him.

Answer 3

Your father is the one being ridiculous, but your mother is kind of right too, you do seem to have blown it out of proportion, i dont think they're pushing you out its just your dad having a petty strop, my dad does the same LOL just keep going round there, dont avoid them otherwise it will make the gap even wider, he'll start seeing sense soon

Answer 4

Your dad doesn't hate you, take it from me that would never happen. He may have his nose put out of joint, but that's about all. Ignore your childish brother when he goads you about your dad and get on with things the best you can. Your dad will come round believe me.

Answer 5

yes u r being rediculous!

for u they have done so much that u r today capable enough to find a job.

cant u work for ur own family.

join him again n u'll find everything going easy.

Answer 6

It just sounds like your Dad is upset maybe you could move closer to the job so the commute isn't so bad? That would show your Dad that the job is important enough to make the move for? Or you could sit down with him and talk about it and explain the commute was to much for you?And I think he is using your Brother to make you as upset as you made him! And your Brother is eating it up with a big spoon. As long as you let him see that it is bothering you he will continue to push your buttons.

Answer 7

With all due respect to your mother, even if your fears are unfounded, the fact that you feel like this should not be dismissed out of hand. Could you talk to your dad about it? I know that I would be devastated if any of my children were feeling like this as a result of what I said or did, even if it was not correct. However, I would be even more upset of they felt that they could not talk to me about it. If you cannot talk to him, could you write a letter to him? How about couching it in terms that you are aware that you may be wrong but you want to know what you have done to upset him or lose that closeness if you are not wrong. I suppose you could also say that you would like to regain that closeness. In trying to talk to him, may I also advise you to listen to his point of view. If you want him to listen to you it would only be fair, wouldn't it?

If you cannot talk/write to your dad, how about approaching your mum again?

I hope that helps. Good luck