My dad hates me and i feel unwanted?

Question

my dad hates me because i don't do what I'm told.well i do but its like this he will tell me to do the dishes then the washing then my room and make my sisters bed and empty the bins and ........ Most times i forget a few things cause I'm only 13 but if i do he threatens me.I want to run away but i have no where to go and I'm basically scared to come home sometimes. I dint want to run away cause my mum loves me but i have 1 brother and 2 sisters and there always messing up the place and things. They never get told to do anything and if they do they just ignore it. I cant ignore it as I'm the oldest and my dad says I'm the most responsible but he says will always be one step ahead of me.I love him but i cant do this.one day he slapped me cause i talked back to him and my sisters are spoilt rotten and always hit me. I cant hit back as I'm older and i would get shouted at.My brother is autistic but hes not stupid and he get told to do nothing to.Only yesterday my brother slammed the door on my face and i have a bruise on the side of my face. I feel like a little slave and i feel unwanted and im sick of it. What can i do?

also i think i am suffering from depression and stress?

help

Answer 1

If there is a serious problem thats making you NOT want to go home, I suggest talking to an adult who you trust. Better yet, talk to a professional. Maybe talk to your schools counseller and ask her to get you in contact with social services. Its completely wrong for a father to hit his child, good luck hun >3

Answer 2

well if your old enough...get out of there! it seems like your a cinderella there sweet heart. i bet your dad does love you but he just doesn't know how to show it!  

Answer 3

tell your father what you think and share your problems with your mother....i feel pity for you and i'll pray for you =[

Answer 4

As the oldest of 4, I can totally understand you. I hated it.

Yes, I was always told that I have to set an example because I was the oldest, etc. And I felt my siblings were way too spoiled and they never got punished for anything, while I did get punished for every small thing.

I did what I was told to do and I almost never forgot to do all my chores (13 isn't really ONLY - you can surely do it if you really put your mind to it.

It is the unfairness of the whole thing that really gets you isn't it. It used to make me so angry, feeling like an outsider having to do EVERYTHING my parents ordering me to do and on top of that I had to worry about my spoiled siblings because they soon enough figured out they can easily blame me for everything (only my sister didn't do that)

My 2 youger brothers used to hit me and if I ever hit back I didn't get shouted at - my dad actually used to beat me because, hey, I am older and I should know better then to hit such helpless creatures. In the end I somehow managed to ignore them as much as I could.

I got beaten by my dad a lot, slapped by my mom, and I really felt unwanted.

The one thing I never did is find the courage to find a quiet moment and tell them how I feel.

I do realize now that my parents were under a lot of stress and that they actually needed one of their kids to behave perfectly as they had other 3 to worry about. Things changed a bit when I got older, but it never really got great. I always resented them for how they made me feel (I didn't even mind the beatings as much, I just hated feeling like I am some sort of an outcast)

I suggest you quietly and calmly talk to your parents and tell them everything you told us here. Find a moment whenthey are not stressed out, perhaps when all the kids are off to bed.

Do what I never had a courage to do and see if it changes anything.

If you feel like it, em me and let me know how it goes.

Good luck.