My dad hit me? ?

Question

Earlier on today, my dad found a little mark on the carpet, from my hair straighteners. I mean really little. So he got really mad, and told me to give them to him and throw them away. I refused, it took me like 4 months to raise £60 to pay for them. So then he's like "your useless" "I'll give you a beating" etc. So then I got mad and told him a piece of my mind. He's always starting trouble beetween him and my mom and brothers. He even tryed to arrest my older bro for absolutely nothing. So I said to him "your a fat ugly waste of space" "we all hate you" "**** off out of my life you hairy *******!" Then he tryed to hit me. My mom went in the way so he couldn't do anything. So I said to him "I hate you, I want nothing more to do with you!" and he punched my skull. (My mom was still there, and moved him away from me),

I've got a bruse there now. I don't care about that. But I feel absolutely nothing for him. He's done this thing before and I'd forget with hours. But I can't even picture his gross face in my mind, all I can think about is when he causes my family h**l, gets drunk, fuels my anger. I think I hate him. What should I do?

Answer 1

This is a really difficult situation. I can't condone shouting or swearing at your father. However, there is no way that an adult should EVER hit a child (no matter how old you are).

You need to speak to somebody, either the police or a child support agency such as ChildLine (0800 11 11). They are a free, confidential service for young people who need to talk to somebody.

I really hope things get solved soon, but if you want to talk please contact me via my profile as I am more than happy to help - I was a peer mentor when I was at high school (only a couple years ago) so if you wish to talk, contact me :-)

Answer 2

hey, no one has a right to hit you especially not your dad, sounds like he has a few issues that need sorting out.

does he only do this when he is drunk?? never mind that he shouldn't be doing it weather he is drunk or not!!

i cant imagine my dad wanting to hit me but what i can imagine is what i would feel like if he did!!

i think you should first report him to the police, if you are to scared to do this wait til he is not there eg// has gone to work. or go to your mates and do it!!

you need to have evidence to do this tho otherwise you will be left in the situation where your dad will know u have reported him and be so angry, and you will still be there for him to hit!!

get your mum and family together who have witnessed what he has done! take pictures of the bruising and any other harm he has caused no matter how little!! it can all be put together for evidence!

i think normally people in these situations do not speak out cause they are too scared of what the consequences will be and what will happen if that certain person gets them, i totally understand that must be really hard to think about!!

your mum really needs to think about what is best for her family and do something about this! you and your mum can stop this if you both come together and report him.

you will also be doing him a favour if he is an alcoholic he will get the help he so desperately needs!!

look at it like this if he can do this to his own daughter what is he capable of doing to someone else??

you could phone childline i suppose but i would ring the police and let them sort it out

good luck

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Answer 3

There are several ways of getting in touch with services offering help to young people and their families who are concerned about domestic violence.

Please try: 0800 11 11 - Child Line UK. Free and confidential, wont show up on the phone bill.

Answer 4

call the police...

Answer 5

If his behavior really is this consistently terrible as you described, then you probably should report him to social services.  He's robbing you of having a healthy human development.  

At least take pictures of where he hit you (good pictures--try it with and without a flash).  Talk to your mum about it.  

If you decide to talk to your dad about it too, it may be a good idea to do it with your mum present; at least with one other person there with you.  

So, report him to somebody.  Contact one of the domestic violence helplines.  

And if this ever happens again, call the police immediately.  Tell your father to his face that he's sunk low enough to hitting his own daughter.  It has to stop.  

Answer 6

You don't have any right to cuss your dad out no matter how mean or angry you are at him.

My dad would have done far worse.

But he still doesn't have any right to do that.

Tell someone or get like family counseling

Answer 7

If he is abusive towards you and the rest of the family, and there is physical evidence of this abuse, then you should go to the police and press charges against him.

It sounds like he has issues as well as a drinking problem.  

Answer 8

Let your teacher (if you're school age) see your bruising.  Social Services will then come on scene without you 'snitching' on dad.

Answer 9

Take him to court what he did to you is wrong. Mabye you give him a taste of his medicine and hit him back.  

Answer 10

Dude thats so sad.You might need to talk to someone.

Answer 11

You can report the assault to the police. If you're under 16 you can report him to social services for assaulting a child, threatening behaviour, verbal abuse etc. You have a right to live in a safe secure home without feeling threatened or being assaulted.

If you're at school maybe you could talk to a teacher, the nurse or school counsellor of they have one.

Your mum has a responsibility to protect you and remove you from harm. If she feels unable to do this because she is frightened she should seek help from Victim Support or a womens refuge or family.

Good Luck and best wishes

Well done for standing up to your dad!!!

Answer 12

He had no right to hit you this is bang out of order!!

You made a mistake with the mark! Mistakes happen!

He doesn't sound fit enough to be around you & your family!

What you could do is go to the police & tell them hes hit you!

Answer 13

it's time to tell the authorities...

Answer 14

to be honest the law is that an adult (your farther) is not even alloud to do harm to there kids , there not alloud to push hit or smack / abuse.

if he hits all of you and rows all the time you can get him arrested.

but youll have to talk in the police station on your own and i gaenty that they will sort it out. becuase why would a girl go lie about her farther beating people. or you can talk to your school teachers and they will get invold with the school police or even the real police and they will come and talk to you.

take this advice.

you should do something about it.

Answer 15

First you should call the police

Second you need to sit Mom down and ask her where her priorites are?

Mostly? you need to find someone who can listen to you and help you work through the anger.Dont keep it all locked up inside.

No matter how you slice it what he is doing is abuse

Answer 16

call child services or women indisstress

Answer 17

He needs help. You need to talk to someone; a teacher or doctor for advice.

Answer 18

  P O L I C E.  The man has tortured your whole family and WILL continue to do so.   Unless he agrees to seek emotional help then he should be banned from your moms home in ORDER to protect YOU all, and for any chance for THAT man to get help for HIS problem.

Answer 19

I would discuss these feelings with your mum and then consider calling social services. From what I have heard, he seems very violent and really shouldn't have responded the way he did no matter how bad the insult was. Though I have to be honest, it was a bit harsh of you to call him such things, after all he is your dad and as his daughter you shouldn't really insult him like that.  

Answer 20

You need to call the police don't let him get away with child abuse. You need to get away from him before it gets any worse.