My dad is a major alcoholic, how can I get him the help he needs?

Question

My dad is a major alcoholic, how can I get him the help he needs?

He has been sick for many years with liver problems and he got a liver transplant but still he is drinking secretly. He hides his drinking from us but we know he is still drinking because my mom tells me all the time and he doesn't know that I know. He is still really sick because he just got the transplant a year ago and he keeps drinking. What should I do?

Answer 1

Alcohol addiction is a damned serious matter. After a liver transplant, it's exponentially worse. As far as how to help him.....

The only way an addict recovers is if they want to. I have been addicted to recreational drugs as well as necessary prescribed drugs. The prescribed drugs, I hated. It was very simple to get over the addiction with help from a rehab clinic. The recreational drugs were much harder because I enjoyed them. Both took only will power to beat. Your father needs to WANT to stop drinking.

You can try talking to him, but addicts always lie. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. Let him know what his drinking is doing to you. Don't hold back any of your feelings on it. Maybe if he sees what it's doing to you and anyone else close to him, he may open his eyes.

Answer 2

it is difficult, but most likely, there isn't anything you can do about it.  you can mention it, but until the person wants help, we can't make them get it.

Answer 3

you should tell him that you know he still drinks and that you love him and you really want him to get help because you need him in your life.  

Answer 4

Have an "intervention"

But he has to admit to himself he has a problem before he can get help.

& he has to hit rock bottom, so he feels hopeless and realizes he needs help.

Answer 5

you can,t do nothing. he is the 1 that has to admit to himself that he is a alcoholic before anyone can help him.

Answer 6

My mother is a serious drug addict, and I've been asking myself the same question for my entire life. The answer is there is nothing you can do for him. This is his problem alone, and no one can face it or fix it but him. Some people try interventions, but this will either help or push him further away. Your best bet is to confront him on the issue letting him hide it isn't helping anyone. If this is the choice he wants to make he should at least be honest about it. Good luck.....

Answer 7

tell him that it is very dangerous to his healthy.make him get occupied with something.buy him non alcoholic drinks to qench his drinking thirst.be near to him most of the time and search for the beer and if you get it take it to him and niecely talk to him about his healthy as said by his doctor.get a couselor for him also.if he asks for a sip during his trial to stop drinking give him a bit so that he does not stop suddenly.make him to go to church also to see the paster.

Answer 8

It is very hard to help someone who doesn't want to help themselves.  I would suggest Alanon or Alateen for yourself and your family.  Both are places that can help you and your family cope with his self-destructive ways.

Answer 9

A very unfortunate situation you have there. If you're religious, pray- and everything'll turn right. Don't listen to your mother- Talk to your father; when he's not... drunk that is... I'm sure he'll listen to you if you put it earnestly. Or you could consult a psychiatrist or a psychotherapist.  

Answer 10

I admire your loving interest to help him. You are a wonderful daughter.

Apparently, AA members have to admit they are alcoholics.

I wish I could offer productive advice to you but I can't.

Thinking about you though, be carefull that you never marry into a similar situation. You may want to help somewhere in AA (or in hospitals, etc.) with people who have already made a committment to get help. You might also want to study psychology, sociology, counselling, etc. and become a social worker. Therein, will lie your success, hopefully.

Good luck, dear!

Answer 11

Try writing to the show Intervention on A&E.  They might be able to help you.  It's a good show.  Good Luck!

Answer 12

There's really not much you can do. Unless he is willing to get help.