My dad is an alcoholic and just when homeless and he doesn't want our help. What can I do?

Question

I grew up in foster care so my dad fell kind of guilty. His life is a wreck

Answer 1

If he doesn't want your help, then you can't force him to change. I am sorry, I wish there was more you could do.

Answer 2

he may never give it up.

you must be prepared to see him die of his disease

Answer 3

i don't think u can do anyhting about it if he doesn't want help

Answer 4

There is nothing you can do for him until he wants help and admits he has a problem with alcohol and can no longer manage his life himself.The one thing you can do for yourself is to attend Alanon  meetings to help you understand the alcoholic.

Answer 5

You cant do much if he doesnt want help. If you know where he is you could take him some food. And the guilt thing is just an excuse for the alcoholic to drink. Guilt is there so people will do the right thing, not use it to further ruin lives. He wants to be where he is and do what he does. Keep in mind though if you do take him food or anything else you will be enabling him to stay in his present condition.

Answer 6

You can't do anything for him. You should respect his wishes, too. He is doing what he wants. He'll continue as he is, go to AA or die, and you can't do a thing about it. It will tear your heart out, but you can't do a thing about it..

You can find a chapter of Al-Anon for yourself; it is for children and wives of alcoholics It won't cure him, but it will help you to cope.

Answer 7

Sad to say, you can only help a person who realizes they need help and is willing to accept it. I suppose you could talk to him when he's sober. Ttell him you forgive him for what has happened in the past, and point out to him that he is ruining any chance for the two of you having any meaningful relationship in the future.

Whatever you do, don't start enabling him to continue in his problem. This would include giving him money, rides, a place to crash etc. If you do these types of things out of pity, guilt or whatever, you're just allowing him to avoid the fact that he needs to change.

I would strongly suggest you seek out some counseling for yourself in order to develop the skills to cope with this situation. These types of things have a way of passing from one generation to the next if not addressed. The main thing is you need to work on your life because if it's a mess you really won't be in a position to help someone else anyway. I hope things work out for you. No one can really understand what it's like to be in your situation if they haven't been there themselves.

Answer 8

Have you ever seen the show "Intervention" on A&E??

check this out- maybe your dad can be on the show?

http://www.aetv.com/intervention/partici...