My dad is clinically depressed?

Question

I have lived with my dad for about two and a half years. As I have lived with him we have been poor. He gets fired or laid of of work all the time when he does work he works from 10 to 10 and takes a hour each way on the road. We have had to go without food for nights in a row and without electricity for December and January last year because we could not pay the bills. I guess he is very depressed but hasn't gone to the doctor since febuary of 1994. He is always different and gets violent with me I am 6 foot snd 185 he is 6 foot 2 and 260 but I still fought back but did get beat. I am scared he will get to the point where he is mad enough to kill me just give me your thoughts And I am not trying to get people to feel bad for me just want some advice thanks so much

Answer 1

Maybe your Dad  has some problem and he don't want to bother you to think of him. What you need to do now is to show him that you support and love him more even instead of what happened to him.

You can help him in other ways. Give him things to do to make money. If you have some old things that you are no longer using, you can sell online those stuff. there are many ebay alternative site in the internet.

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Answer 2

I feel your pain. I too was raised in a similar situation. You didn't mention if your Dad has an addiction problem or not, like alcohol maybe? But often times people try to self medicate their depression with a substance such as alcohol. It only adds to their problems.

It is hard to get someone to admit they have a problem and to get them to go for help. But first you must take care of you. Please seek help to get you out of the home. If you attend a church or do not, find one and ask the Pastor for help. If you have any close friends or relatives that will let you come and stay that would be good. Your safety is at risk and you can never know what your Dad might do in the state of mind he is in. Please get help. You are in my prayers.

Answer 3

Joe,

     The best advice has already been given above me. You need to live with someone else. How old are you (there is something called being immancipated where you could live on your own if you are old enough but not 18 yet )? Is your Mom still around? Do you have anyone else you could live with?

       I am guessing that you love your Dad but that you do not like being around him sometimes? From what you described i had a very similar set up when i was growing up. My Dad just flat out did not work and sat on Welfare for years. I remember the days of having nothing to eat and havin the power shut off. No Deodorant or Shampoo ect. I remember when my Dad would disappear for 2 or 3 days at a time. And, i remember fighting my Dad a lot (he always won too).  Sometimes he would kick my *** real bad. Is your Dad on drugs? Drink a lot?

  I bet your Dad will be really nice and fun to be around sometimes right? But then sometimes in a matter of minutes he will be really negative and angry.

    Anyway, when i turned 15 i had enough of dealing with all the stuff and i just moved out and lived with friends and sometimes slept at bus stops. By the time that i hit 16 I had moved in with my Mom who was not really fit to have me either. So me and my Mom went about getting me immancipated. Which means that you can live on your own like an adult basically. My life got so much happier after all of that. Once you are out of a bad situation you will see how much nicer life can be.

     If you have someone that you could live with who is better you should move to live with them. I know that it is really hard to leave your Dad because you love him and you know he needs someone to be there for him. And, maybe you fear him somewhat and fear his reaction to you wanting to move. But, this is your life man. It is not your fault that your dad is the way he is and it does not mean that you do not love him anymore. It just means that you need a better situation. If you need any advice man you can E-mail me.

Good luck.

Answer 4

you need to go live with another family member. if your dad is clinically depressed not getting help, you need to get out of that situation before things get worse.. if you really fear for your life, the next time he beats up on you, call the police.