My dad..is getting on my nerves...!!?

Question

He is getting on my nerves SO much lately. im 13. Am i just being a teen? Is this a "normal" dad?? What can i do? i cry myself to sleep every night. cuz of all the stress.

Point 1:

He dosent buy me ANYTHING except food, i babysit alot of my neightbors so he thinks that thats my JOB and that i can buy EVERYTHING eles for myself. inculding: all clothing, all supplies, all nessisities(he made me buy toothpaste and hangers), all the music stuff(made me pay for the piano books for the piano HE signed me up for),and basically everything but food. :( So i cannot buy any thing luxery for myself, cuz i always have to buy this or that.

when i ask him for something he gives me bs. says that if i buy stuff ill value it more*TOOTHPASTE? Oh yeah, if i buy toothpaste and pads ima value it more*

Point 2: Every Friday i watch my show from 10-11*MTV's MADE* and i ALWAYS watch it. Today he comes in and asks, what time are you sleeping at *cuz he wanted to do "it" with my mom* and i said, 11 cuz my show is on, or mby later, cuz i want to see if i can talk to my friends in the states. and he said, go to bed no for being smart. WTF? i didnt do anything "smart". he just didnt want to do deal with me, so i cried cuz he yelled at me alot tonight, for doing something i ALWAYS do. :(

Point 3: He told me that i cannot be a girly girl he told me that i HAVE to do Track or XC and soccer. he told me that i have to do sports in high school, and that i may not be concerened about my looks.

&&; lots more. but i wont make this too long, so yeah, what can i do?

Answer 1

I am sorry. You should talk to your mother and tell her to put this to an end. This is just not right.

Answer 2

Hey forget what the other dude said sometimes its not about how mature you are. Anyways when me, my mom and dad stayed together I went throough something similar as this and I used to always ask why. When I was young my dad used to spend so much time wit me you couldn't keep him from asking me to tag along, but I guess once I hit that age of having my own "agenda" the script flipped. The last thing that I can remember my dad buying me is a bike and that was on my eighth birthday!!! I started working when I was fourteen and the situation only got worse I had to literally support myself when it came t him and my mom was the only one that I could depend on. My dad has told me that he was going to do something or take me soemhwere and we would never go and the bad thing about that is that we lived under that same roof. He talked bad about me said that I was going to be anything, i was going to get pregnant and a lot more. All I can tell you is that as of today I am nineteen I'm a high school grad and in search of the career path that I want to take I have college credits and went to one of the best schools in the nation. As far as my relationship with my dad its just that an occasional telephone call and thats the end of the story. Do what I did I tried constantly to let my dad know how I felt and sometimes it worked but don't expect too much, ask him why he feels the way that he does and tell him that you need more support from him than what he is giving. Talk to your mom also. But the best advice that I can give you is to not let it get you down trust me you can shed all the tears in the world but you eventually come to realize that it is not worth it. Good Luck.  

Answer 3

GROW UP!! How does that sound to ya? Been there done that when I was your age