My dad is having s*x with a 16 year old!!?

Question

my father hasbeen seeing my ex best friend - she is 16 and he is 57, he also has 9 kids off diffrent girlfriends, my mum died 2 years ago and left her 7 kids behind, the youngest is 10 and he is a diabetic, he is neglecting all my brothers, if his "girlfriend" is in a mood then so is he and he hits my younger brothers because of it - im 17, iv told lots of people like adults and nobody islistening! i dont know what to do because i dont want my brothers to go into care so dont really wana tell anyone but i dont know hat to do - the are having s*x to because he addmitted it and we found condoms in his room. they both have addmiteed they love each other and th eboys are suffering because of it..

my dad says he will kil himself if he loses her - infront of my younger brothers. im jsut so scared please somebody help! i have nobody.

Answer 1

OMG, you really need to tell the police.  I'm sorry you are having to go through this, but your dad is a sick man (not terribly perverted, but definately not normal).  He needs help and so does your friend.  Your brothers will be ok, you just need to do the right thing.

Answer 2

Jezza Jezza Jezza!!! There is no ferral family situation that Mr Kyle can't sort out!!!

Answer 3

i feel for you ur to young to have to deal with this do you have an older relative who u can confide with if so you should do i wish u well

Answer 4

well you are old enough to get a job so why don't you get a job find a place move in it with your brothers . rent a place move in and start a new life or tell a realative aand move in with them and start a new life just move out okay move into a safe place with your brither and be a mom and a dad for them

Answer 5

u dont have nobody

you can talk to me if you like

its disgusting and your father is abusing her

also abusing your brothers like that

i know it is really hard get out of that house

go to the police and tell them you are leaving home and they should put you up in ahostel and place your brothers in foster care

please do this or you will regret it for the rest of your life

you ar mature and sensible better than they are

hope is not lost

do the right thing

Answer 6

Baby, your dad is a criminal and he should be stopped today, this minute.  He won't kill himself b/c people who victimize little girls think too much of their own pleasure, and they don't care about anybody else.  

I'm sorry baby, but you call 911 and ask them to send someone to help you.  They will.  I promise.  Do you know the 16 year old's parents?  Tell the police everything you know - dates, times, give them as much information as you can.  Have faith.  Have courage.  Take care of yourself because you must.

Unfortunately (or fortunately) the 0800 11 11 number is for the UK only.

Answer 7

ew that is discusting.

you need to contact officals, hes breaking the law.

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Answer 8

Say wah???

Answer 9

ACCTUALLY HAVING s*x WITH A 16 YEAR OLD GIRL IS ILLEGAL SO YOUR FATHER SHOULD THINK OF THIS AND TO BE HONEST I THINK YOUR DAD NEEDS HELP HOW WOULD HE FEEL IF SOMEONE HIS AGE WAS HAVING s*x WITH HIS DAUGHTER AGE 16!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Try phoning the Samaritans. I'm sure they'll help.

http://www.samaritans.org/

Answer 11

Your 17 right. God, feel really bad. Seems theres other kids with worser situations. The best I"m able to say is try to hold on. Things may not get better, just think that as soon as you turn 18 your able to walk out from it, and legaly at that age I think, if that going on than take your brother and sister, in to your care. Its f.. to say,  turn on him and report it. Even if its your father. Think he just lost it, and it dumb your having to pay for his actions.

Take Care--

Manna-Na

Answer 12

He sounds like a pervert, report him to the police.

Answer 13

you should disown him and her!

Answer 14

wow..so do you have any grandparents?..if you do..then find evindence of this and prove your not lying...wow..im really sorry this is happing..you and your brothers need to stick together..but see how long do you have before you turn 18?...when you do get an apartment and have your brothers live with you..i hope everything goes okay..i really wish that wouldnt have happend

Answer 15

I truly feel sorry for you young lady. I'm assuming you must be from england, (mum) and have heard they have a more liberal view of acceptable behavior for a grown man.

The only suggestion I can think to give you is try and find an adult male older than he is and you must seriously be able to trust him and announce to daddy dearest you love him and r gonna marry him. And make sure this man you can trust implicitly, that he has very different views actually opposite views of your dad as much as possible. Someone he can't possibly stand.

If you were from here in america, this is a no brainer. statutory rape reguardless of the girls view. Your dad is so selfish. I'll say a prayer for you.

Answer 16

If he's neglecting your younger siblings then you can report him to social services, or the police if they are left to fend for themselves.

Unfortunately as your ex friend is 16 she is considered old enough under British law to decide for herself whether or not to have s*x and who to do it with.

It does sound like an awful situation for you to be in and like your dad has no respect for you, your siblings or your ex friend. Maybe a counsellor can help you to sort things out in your own mind so that you feel ok. There are lots of voluntary services that offer counselling for free and it would give you the opportunity to be really listened to, treated respectfully and talk about the chaos that's surrounding you at the moment.

Your reaction in finding the situation difficult seems quite a normal reaction to an abnormal situation.

Best Wishes

Answer 17

There are two issues here.  1) The relationship between your father and this girl, and 2) the way he is treating his children.

If you are in the UK, like it or not, agree with it or not, the police or the authorities would not be interested in the relationship and would not take any action.  The girl is over 16, the age of consent, unless he has had relationships with younger girls in the past.

The problem you need to deal with is the way he is treating you.  The most effective way to solve the immediate problem would be to inform the police of his abuse of his children.  However this is likely to lead to having the children taken into care.  You don't say if you have any other adults in the family ... uncles aunts etc or others you can talk to.  If you have you can try talking/writing to them.  They may help and may let you and your brothers stay, suggest something or talk to your father.  Others have suggested Childline etc.  Good idea.  Do you have any teachers at school who you could talk to?    

You may also find that he may want to talk to somebody about his relationship with this girl.  Again and uncle or aunt could help.  It is obviously not a good relationship (regardless of the age difference ... and they can sometimes work).  However, I guess that the more people criticise him for having this relationship the worse he may become.  The agrievation is probably clouding his common sence, making him a little stubborn and with less of it would probably see that it is not actually such a good idea going out with a moody 16 year old!

Answer 18

he needs help tell him you will dissown him if he doesnt stop

Answer 19

Call the police.

Answer 20

dont take this the wrong way but perhaps you could ring childline or even samaritans (youl find both numbers on internet or phone directory) tell them how worried you are etc they will listen and give u advice , it may help , samaritans can even meet and befriend you as i think u need a friend

Answer 21

go to the Jerry Springer show

Answer 22

go to your local council and speak to social servoces and children welfare officers.

your girlfriend shouldn't be anybody elses but his business, but if she is affecting his duties towards his family, you might want to tell your old friend what a ho* she is.

Make sure that your teachers and local council know that your father turns violent on your brothers and is neglecting his family.

Answer 23

Ignore the moral aspects of the relationship but point out where your father is failing in his domestic duty.

Your friend will soon get tired of the old boy and he will get over her, whatever he says.

Answer 24

lucky old sod

Answer 25

You need to tell the police. What's worse, your brothers having to go into care where people will take care of them and keep them safe, or having one of them end up dead or in the hospital because your dad got into one of his moods and beat the kid. Do the right thing and tell the police. Be your brothers angel and get them out of there as soon as you can.

Answer 26

Oh gosh you sound like you're in a pickle. Ring childline and you need to tell them the serious urgent bits first so they do listen! You really also need to talk to your ex-best friend as an urgent desperate matter and get her to perhaps calm him down.

Hope that helps.

Answer 27

Call the cops.

Answer 28

that is really bad, if that was hapening to me i would bloody kill her as well as him, i think you need to phone the police about it. you need to get evidence first to show you are not just making it all up.

Answer 29

Darling my heart goes out to you, what an awful situation you are in. First here is a cyber hug from me! *Hug*. Now take a deep breath and try to calm yourself.

I think your dad needs to grow up! Not only for seeing a 16 year old but for not looking out for your as he should, treating your siblings horribly and saying he will commit suicide if she leaves him!. You sound very mature and wise, but i truely dont know what to advise for the best.

I would suggest you give childline a ring. Im the same age as you and they really are very nice people who truely will help you get out this siuation!. Its a free number and WILL NOT show on your phone bill. Ring when you are on your own and tell them this, they wont ring your dad or talk to anybody about what you have said unless your ask them or unless they think they really reallly really need to.

The number is: 0800 1111

Thinking of you at this time, your all going to be alright x