My dad is paranoid, abusive, insane. Help!?

Question

My dad has become really paranoid. He says weird things that make no sense, and blames everyone for his problems. For example, he bought a VERY cheap can opener, then when it fell apart, he said someone from his old workplace came into our house, and did it. Even though the doors are ALWAYS locked.

The other day he was complaining that that same person from his old workplace was tinkering with his car. It kept lurching forward and making a funny noise. Not to mention the transmission is wearing out and the car is only about 4 years old. However I think he's delusional it's an automatic and he's always flipping the switch around like its a manual, and it makes a loud squeek. When my mom or older sister drives the car, this problem DOES NOT HAPPEN.

About the lurching, I have seen him add weird things to the gas to make the gallon go further. My mom and I recently took a 4 hour trip and going 55 the car was constantly lurching. About 3/4 of the way there, we refilled and had absolutely NO problem.

It's all in his head!

ALSO, the other day I went to the dentist for 2 fillings and the dentist suggested I get the one on my left done and the one on my right, and get the other one above the first left done at a LATER date, so that my bite wouldn't get messed up. Well my dad came INTO the dentists room, threw a tantrum saying he wanted the two deepest done, and now I have to go back because I feel like my teeth don't lock together..

He also kept coming in during the filling and bugging the dentist, asking what this or that was, and at one point peeked over the dentist, bumping his arm, cutting my tongue open, and he blamed the dentist.

The dentist stopped working , and asked him if there was a problem he said "I'm making sure ur not injecting her with AIDS or something.."

( on a side note, last time he went to the dentist he went on a 3 hour rant about how they put AIDS in the novacaine..)

which TOTALLY embarrassed me.

I have a GREAT dentist, and now they say they're refusing to take me for another appointment because of how badly my dad behaved.

I asked my mom to talk to him , and she either won't or it's not helping she won't talk to me about it.

He's always stressing me out, and never believes ANYTHING that I say.

For example last november I got a sinus infection AND The flu, right after each other so I was out of school for 2 weeks he didn't believe me and actually tried to drag me out of bed and make me go to school.

I know I was sick because my mom was worried that I was so sick and took me to get a CAT scan of my sinus's and the technician showed me a huge dark spot on both sides of my sinus's where it was infected. I was given medicine and recovered, how ever my teacher didn't accept my research paper and I failed that quarter ( But passed the course!) but he would yell at me every day for two weeks like it was my fault!

This is not even 1/3 of the sh*t he's been doing and pulling.

I'm 15, and he is stressing me out and I'm so anxious all the time.

He has choked me before, although neither parents 'remember' it.

He has also pulled my earring straight out of my ear, leaving a HORRIBLE scar.

IF things don't change by september when school starts I plan on talking to the school social worker.

seeing as the house Im in has mold and im very allergic to it i'll probably be removed but at the same time I just want him to go to a mental hospital and get better, because I love my mom and brother and I don't want to leave my boyfriend or friends. Help?

Should I go through and consult a social worker? Or should I just tolerate it?

Answer 1

I'm worried about you, your family and your dad.  I am bipolar and had outbursts sometimes, but not that severe.  I'm on meds now.  It's very likely he's bipolar to a more severe degree.  He has other symptoms that sound dilusional and paranoid like you said.  I don't know if he's having psychosis or schizophrenia too.  He almost sound psychotic with the abuse, but I'm not a doctor.  His abuse has the potential to get worse. He desperately needs help.  I really want you to see if your insurance would cover a consult or see how quickly the social worker can see you.   I don't know if he's always been like this, but a lot of times meds can help if he takes them as prescribed.  If he does start taking them he may find that some meds don't really work for him and he needs to try others until he finds one that works with his body chemistry.  I had to take different meds until I found the right one for bipolar.  He needs to be patient thru this and as hard as it will be, he needs his families love and support.  It's a chemical imbalance in the brain.  I will pray that you get the strength to consult a social worker and he will want to seek help.  Good luck to you and I'm sorry you're going through this.

Answer 2

Honey, I would say he's mentally ill.  He's bipolar or something.  this is not normal behavior.

You SHOULDN't Tolerate it, because he's SUFFERING.  Yes, please talk to a social worker, your mom or someone else you trust to help get HIM help!!!

Answer 3

Yes you must contact a social worker, your father has something very wrong with him. The thing you have to understand dear is that in his head the things hes doing ARE for the best. He will think that hes doing everything for his family. You need to get help for him before something really bad happens because he is a danger to you and your family. Promise me you will consult a social worker ASAP!

Answer 4

Consult a social worker.

I'll say it again, CONSULT A SOCIAL WORKER.

This isn't normal at all. Your dad is obviously a high strung person, probably has some sort of mentality disorder going on. My own grandfather whom i've lived with has been slowly starting to lose his mind, and with the things you described, they aren't as bad as your situations are, but shockingly similar almost. You're 15, a 15 year old doesn't need this kind of stress going on. You need to be enjoying your life with your friends, activities. Get help from the social workers, and get it done as soon as possible.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Well it seems your Dad is a little  high strung, I think you are more caught up with the fact that you don't like the way he does things. You need to remember that you are a child, be blessed that you have a Dad who can afford to even bring you to the dentist, be blessed you have a Dad who cares enough to rant and rave about your safety. You need to evaluate yourself suga, and if its that bad and he beats you yes you should go to the counselor. But most of all I think you need to be more appreciative and know your place.

Bless

Answer 6

Go through with it. It's serious enough as it is.

Answer 7

You need to talk with a counselor when school starts. Your Dad is mentally ill.

If the mold in the house is bothering you, you need to see a doctor or go to the clinic. Ask them what you can do about it.

If your boyfriend really cares about you, he will keep in touch no matter where you are.

I'm concerned your Dad will do more physical damage to you than

pulling out your earring, which is horrible. Ouch! What a creep.

Answer 8

Wow.

I am so sorry for the things that you are going through.

You really need to talk to someone who can put you in the right direction.  For instance, is there a relative that you trust (other than mom or dad)? Like an aunt or grandparent that can help you get in touch with the right people.

The best way to deal with your father while he is going through this is to stay out of his way. He is unstable and you can't try to reason with someone who is mentally unstable.

If your mom won't help, then talk to someone who will.  A counselor at school might be able to give you assistance as well.