My dad is really srict and i want waer makeup.?

Question

im 13 and my mother and grand father past away recently. i get made fun of at school often. i have REALLY bad self esteem issues. i feel like only mom would understand. i want get my dad to let me wear makeup but he said no because im to young and i get barely decent grades. but thats only because i cant keep focus on my work with all these things going on in my life. no lectures please.HELP

Answer 1

Makeup is nothing to be proud of. It's only a cover to disguise the ugly inside a person(metaphoric ugly).

If the girls tease you, deal with it. You have to toughen up because they'll always be girls that make fun of others.

And plus, at 13, no one is going to look at you nor the other girls.

Answer 2

You & Dad are still coping with the loss of your mum.  Try to have an honest discussion with him about what is affecting you ; (bad self esteem issues) cause this affects your grades. Let him get to know you a little better & you will also learn more about your dad.  Tell him that wearing make-up will make you look better and importantly feel more confident .

Ask him to go shopping with you.  Buy the basics only :

Cleanser , toner , tinted moisturizer ( Burt Bees brand )

clear mascara ( you can use that to groom your brows too) (Cover-Girl)

tinted lip balm ( Burt Bees brand )

clear lip gloss

Cover-up (if needed)

Then when he is used to you wearing that daily , then convince him to let you wear pressed powder , eyeliner , black mascara , blush , eyeshadows, lipstick .  A word of caution though , ask for this when you are 15 or 16. He will be more open to it & by then he will have trusted you enough.

I think he doesn't want you to grow up too fast & appreciate your youth.

Answer 3

im in the same situation as you ,i think only my mom will understand me best best to tell the truth you don't need makeup my dad says until im 15 or 16 i can wear makeup unless i have to do commercials or the other acting gigs

im okay becuase i get my self estteem up by wearing styling clothes they don't really look at your face much then(unless your really ugly which i doubt)

wear very styling clothes that look cute and makes you an envy from people makeup isn't a big nessescity

Answer 4

.i think you should wear only light makeup

so that he won't notice you..

like for example a little bit of

lip gloss might help

and then just use a powder and a light blush on..

its like light pink.

Answer 5

i no alot of people will say this but tell someone about your problems llike a teacher at school or a school conciler im 13 as well i no what you go through my dad was reluctnt to let me wear make up but i new that it would make me feel better about my self    you proberly dont need it anyway so if i were you i would'nt get to hung up about it.at least your allowed to wear make up at your school  im not we get killed for a bit of lip balm :(  tell some of your close friends about how you feel and if they are good friends they will understand dont get sidetracked with these silly people teaseing you and making fun of you they are just stupid people that you dont need in your life sadly every were you go there will all ways be people like this and sadly everyone has to put up with it.  i hope this helps and dont worry everything works out eventually and your not alone talk to some one it will help TRUST ME   :)

lots of people will under stand what your going through and your familys proberly going though alot of stress and tension dont worry be your self dont change for anyone and be proud that you have a dad that cares for you alot and wants you to have a good start to your education.

Answer 6

Sorry for your losses, i also know what it feels like to lose a loved one and im only 14.

If the people at school tease you of how you look, who really cares? They probably have something wrong that they dont like about their body, so they to make themselves feel better by making you miserable. If for some other reason the people tease you, you really should see a school counselor and talk to them about, or even your dad.

You dont need makeup so you can focus on your work. Just ignore those people and do your best at school, and your work.

As a guy in high school, i reckon you dont need makeup to look good. just do your hair nicely and you'll look beautiful.

Also, make your mother and grandfather proud by achieving the best of things in life.

Answer 7

Iam sorry for your loss, i know this must be a really hard time for you, ok you need to think about this, and deal with ur self esteem issues head on- makeup wont make u feel better only worse cus makeup comes of and u cant hide.You need to speak to a councellor and get some confidence if u rely on make up for confidence now u aleays will.

as for ur dad well i guess he still makes the rule but looking back now i wish i never started wearing makeup when i was ur age my skin would be so much better now!!

Answer 8

Go to walmart and get foundation, concealer, brnzer and powder that match your skintone, and a plain black mascara, practic putting these things on until it looks so perfect that no one can tell your wearing it, then wear it o school and he wont know

Answer 9

Sorry for your losses.

I think he is just afraid to let you wear make-up because your his baby girl and he doesnt want to see you grow up too fast. He is your dad and of course he is going to understand if you talk to him. He is probably going through a hard time with the loss of his wife so he might not want to talk about it but if it will make you feel better about yourself then talk to him about it.

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Answer 10

Well just cause you dont get to wear make up doesnt mean you still cant make an effort, try styling you hair nicley and wearin cool outifts. It doesnt matter what anyone else thinks.

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Answer 11

I give my condolences for your losses.

Kids will always find something to pick on you about....It's just how it is.

There are plenty of kids around the world feeling insecure about there appearance for this very reason.

There are other ways to build self-esteem,not just by wearing make-up..

You can go for other alternatives,like certain clothing or hairstyling.

Answer 12

Get to school a little early, go into the bathroom, and put on some lipgloss and mascara.  STOP, that's it, you're 13 and you're young and beautiful!  You don't even need any makeup!

Answer 13

You need to speak to a guidance counsler or something. To try to simmer down the people who talk down to you. You know, I bet a lot of people would understand you, people who are in the same situation as you. Try convincing your dad to let you wear makeup. Just let him know you won't go crazy with the lipstick.. etc. He's just trying to help you. Good luck with everything.

Answer 14

sorry to read bout that but trying to talk and explain everything to your dad and just knw make up aint good for your skin I mean am 15 and i still dont wear make up coz i know the after efects of it

Answer 15

if your dad really wont let u wear makeup try straightening or curling your hair, put cool colors of nailpolish on. remember, life is way to short to care about what other people think about you.

Answer 16

first off, don't forget to consider what your dad might be feeling. lots of teenagers go off the rails when someone close to them dies- i have a friend that when her mum died she started sleeping around with guys and smoking drugs, and she was 13 when that happened. and your dad is probably scared something like that might happen to you, and by asking to wear make-up he probably thinks that's the beginning of your 'rebellion'.

just explain to him that you have bad self confidence issues and it would help you feel better about yourself, tell him your not doing it for guys or anyone else, tell him your just doing it for yourself. and also tell him stuff like "im growing up, and im sensible, im not about to go and get pregnant if thats what you think.."

chin up, those people who make fun of you at school are seriously immature. you also might want to try counseling if you're finding it hard to cope- it might help!

Answer 17

try and get him to buy you totally natural looking makeup. for starters you could get some tinted moisturizer and a light slate coloured eye liner and maybe a peach coloured bronzer. assure him that he won't even notice that you're wearing makeup. my thoughts are that he is just afraid of his little gal growing up.  

Answer 18

Sorry for the loss...

Be confident! Love yourself!

I think this is your chance to talk to your dad...

I think you should also understand your dad because he's going through what you are experiencing now....

Instead of using make-up express yourself by wearing cool outfits....

In my school, we are not allowed to wear make-up so we wear cool outfits.

Even though your mom is not there, but i know she still loves you and wants you to love yourself and to be confident!

I agree with Ellie. Do not care what other people think... Just be yourself!!!

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