My dad is very clingy and overprotective.

Question

HIya, I'm Breana, obviously. Anyways, I'm fourteen and going into high school when school starts up again, and I really wish my dad would get over his annoying clingy-ness and being so overprotective. I don't want to come off mean about it. But I mean seriously, I had my girl friend over and we were sitting in my room the door half open doing our nails and he walked in every two minutes to check on us. I dont' get what he's so afraid of me doing in my own flipping house. I'm a good kid, I don't lie to him, I don't skip school, I have all A's and I try really hard at everything. But he's just hovery no matter how much I tell him to stop. Jeez. How do I make it end?

Answer 1

He probably thinks you're too good to be true.  It's about the age of 14 that things start going off track.  I think he's just worried that things may go wrong and be out of his control.  Just talk to him...tell him that you love him and never want to do anything to make him disappointed in you.  He sounds like a good dad who just wants nothing but good things for his baby girl.  (by the way, that's the way he will secretly always think of you)  Have patience with him.  This is the first time he has ever had to parent a 14 year old.  He's learning too.

Answer 2

He loves you and he's concerned for you.

I'm the same way.

Answer 3

Maybe let him know that he's smothering you a little.  You're growing up, and that can be TERRIFYING for a dad.  He doesn't know how you'll turn out, whether or not you're going to chill with the right crowd or make the right decisions.  You seem articulate.  Why not sit down with him and discuss your concerns?  Tell him that you know he wants you to be safe, but that you've got a good head on your shoulders and would appreciate some space (and a little bit of credit, amirite?).  

Tell him you trust him and that if anything in your life is going wrong that you'll come to him, and mean it.  The best thing in the world is an open, honest relationship with a parent, someone who has your best interests in mind and who will ALWAYS have your back.

You need to remember though, that you will always be the little baby he changed and raised, so it's definitely hard for him to see you grow up and go off to high school.

Answer 4

Tell him how much you appreciate his care and concern.

Answer 5

He loves you and is trying to take care of you.  Sit him down and TALK TO HIM!  He probably feels left out and afraid, so just check in with him, let him know what is going on, talk to him about your life, make him feel like he is a part of your life and you're not shutting him out and he should relax a bit.  If he doesn't, then sit him down and tell him nicely that you are a good girl and you would like just a little space.  Be nice, he's just trying to do his best!

Answer 6

oh my gosh my dad is the same way. he will stand over me and watch me like a hawk and he still wants to tuck me in at bed.  I don't want to tell him and hurt his feelings either.  

Answer 7

fathers r like that.its best if u tell him to stop or just scream at him  

Answer 8

Hes affraid you and your friend were going to get it on.

Answer 9

well first of all, hun, most dads are overprotective, and there's nuthin u can do about it. u jus gotta live wit it.

*SHINE ON*

Answer 10

Tell him that he is upsetting you by being overprotective. Say that you feel like he doesn't trust you and that hurts your feelings. Say you'd understand more if they were at a public place, like a mall, why he might want to check up on you, but having him watch you at home makes you feel like a baby.

Explain that now that you are getting older, you need to learn how to take responsibility for yourself and that if you are constantly babied, you will never learn how.

Answer 11

Sit down and talk to him.  He's probably just freaking out because to him you are growing up really fast.  You sound like you have your act together and you aren't doing anything wrong - tell him that and see what happens.

Answer 12

he loves you and doesn't want you to get hurt.......but if he doesn't let you hang out with (good) guys he's gone too far !

Answer 13

Well tell him that sometimes youd like a little privacy

Answer 14

have you watched the news latley?  he's just scared that you'll end up pregnant like every other teenager.  Just keep doing what you are doing.  Talk to him.  Thats the only way you'll get anything accomplished

Answer 15

you can make it end when he stops loving you.

Answer 16

Show me a dad who isn't clingy and overprotective then you got a real problem...lol

Seriously the best thing for you to do is sit him down and talk to him...

you should be happy you have a dad that cares about you because a lot of people dont even have that, so i know its annoying but just think about how lucky you are for a while...

Good Luck and remember talk to him...

Answer 17

By spending time with him and telling him a bit about you and your life every now and then. If you're closing him off of course he's gunna barge in and see what you're doing.

My dad does the same thing (just when I'm texting one of my friends who's a GIRL). He always gets paranoid that I'm talking to boys and stuff.

I don't exactly let him in my life though because my parents are divorced and I don't know him as well anymore as sad as that is. But I know if he were more involved with my life and stuff he'd stop worrying so much.

Good luck with your dad :)

Answer 18

talk 2 him

Answer 19

it wont end

Answer 20

theres alot of bad things going on in the world that's why he cares, because he loves u. if u really want him 2 stop then talk 2 him about it =]

Answer 21

Just say your a teenager, and you need your space.

Make sure you hang out with him still, and tell him whats going on with you just tell him your older now and you need privacy.

Assure him your not doing anything wrong just tell him whats going on in your head,

Answer 22

talk to him about it.

if he doesnt listen and STILL bothers you, talk to your mom.

She should be pretty understanding.

And most dads are annoying and clingy.

Tell him not to worry.  

Answer 23

awee

okay, what i would do if i were you is i'd sit him down and say something like this:

Dad, I'm FOURTEEN now, and i'm going into high school. I get good grades and i try really hard, and all of my friends and me are good kids and aren't into anything stupid like drugs and alcohol and stuff like that. I'm really careful and i think that you are being kinda overprotective of me. Do you think we could try something new and let you trust me more? I promise, i wont do anything bad, all i want is some more freedom and not being watched constantly. It's kinda weird when im with my friends thats all =)

just sit him down and talk nicely.

Answer 24

the best thing to do would be to talk to him about it... which i know isn't always easy

Answer 25

Hi Breana.  It sounds like your Dad just get's worried about you and in today's world he should be.  I totally understand about the whole overprotective thing.  I would sit down one on one with him and talk to him about it.  The best thing to do is be honest.  I'm not saying sugar coat anything but be nice about it.  Just tell him that he can trust you.  Ask him if you've ever done anything that told him otherwise.  That's the best way to go about this.  If that doesn't work, he'll just have to realize he has to let go in his own time.  But in the end, you know you're dad best and no one on here can tell you how to handle it.  This is just my suggestion.  Anyways, Good luck and God bless!

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Answer 26

Your Dad probably sees you growing up and misses the little girl that you once were. I suggest that you sit him down and talk to him about it heart to heart. Explain to him that your getting older and he doesn't need to watch over you like your a baby in a crib. Avoid yelling and telling this to him in anger, it won't help, trust me! Tell him your not a little girl anymore, and stand up for yourself! But just try to relate to him by thinking what it must me like in his shoes. Hope this helped!

Answer 27

You're still his baby. My dad is the same way. I think, for you, it might be hard to completely make it end. You're 14, still a minor, and stuck in the limbo between an adult and child.

If it's truly an issue, let him know that he can trust you. To back that up, let him believe it by doing things for him, not lying, keeping your word, ect. I can guarantee his clinginess and overprotectiveness won't stop over night. It'll take a good while.

Best of luck!

Answer 28

he thinks youre a L*****n..?

Answer 29

yea that is hard

but hey dont worry

you can live through it

why dont you do more adultly stuff? to prove it?

Answer 30

Some dads and moms are just like that. It just means they care about you. Heck my parents are still somewhat like that and I am 21.  You can't make it end... he's a grown up. He may even take what you say to him if you decide to talk about it and work with it for a while but more than likely he will continue to do it. But you can try to talk to him tell him you need a little space that your a good girl he has nothing to worry about.

Answer 31

look

youre going to have to get used to it cause all dads are like that with daughters like my little sis has the same problem you do

maybe its just that your going into high school and hes scared you might change lots of my friends changed last year when they were freshman

but what do i know im only a year older than you