My dad isn't paying child support?

Question

Now my mom is really mad and wants to turn off my phone and internet so I can't talk to my dad! That way, he pays. Then, she will turn the phone and internet back on. Please give me a better idea! If I don't come up with a better idea than the one she has, I won't have a phone, I won't have internet (which will really hurt me in school), and I won't be able to talk to my dad!

Answer 1

Tell him that she's threatening to cut YOU off so HE pays child support.

You see how wrong this is?

Your mom is going about this the wrong way!

Call him and explain that your mom is going to cut off your internet and phone until he pays child support, so that you can't talk to him. He's likely to get angry at your mom for this, of course. Your mom could always take him to court over it, but me with my extreme empathy and understanding for people's situations, I don't think this is the best idea.

Or try and sit down and have a talk with your mom and dad and explain to them how this will hurt you in school and socially.

It's a difficult situation and I was in a similar one, but there's always a way out.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Wow, maybe you should be thinking about the food and shelter he's not providing for you and unleash your anger on him too!  Doesn't he care if you eat or stay healthy or get a good education?  Talk to him in person if you can and look him in the eye and ask him why he doesn't give a rats a** about you.  

Answer 3

cheyenne is right. Maybe you could tell your mom about using a private child-support collection agency. Once the amount is awarded, this can be done.  

Answer 4

your mom shouldn't punish you for his wrongs..that's between her and your father and you shouldn't be thrown in the middle..if she really wants to make him pay then she should see a professional who handles cases like this instead of making you suffer

Answer 5

As a mom who doesn't get any child support, I understand why your mom wants to turn off your phone and internet. If she is turning it off because she truly won't be able to afford it without the support payments that is one thing. It sucks for you but I would imagine if she is anything like me she already makes lots of sacrifices herself when money is tight. It may just be a financial reality that those things are a luxury and not a right- buying you food and clothes, paying the gas and electric bills, and keeping you in a safe home is going to take priority over cell phone and internet.

If she is only going to do it to force your dad to send a check- then that is not right. You could always sit down with her and ask if there are any other ways to cut expenses that would not include cutting you off from communicating with your dad.

Answer 6

OK, first of all, you need to realize that there is more to it than just communication. Once you have realized that, approach your mom, and try to talk to her about "how you feel"

When approaching your mom, make sure you talk about why you need it, and how cell phns/internet will help you out.

With your dad, simply don't talk to him, unless he pays. It is his job as a father to do that, and maybe he needs a break be4 he is ready to help out.

Answer 7

warn him  

Answer 8

You should remind your mom that it is HER divorce, not yours.  This is not fair to you.  She needs to take the legal steps to get the child support.  Threatening to disconnect your phone and internet is just plain immature on her part.  

Answer 9

First of all...there are ways to get child support paid... without using your children as a pawn!  Your child should never be put in the middle of adult issues. She is hurting you to get at him and that is wrong, I am so sorry that you are going through that.  Could you talk to your mother and ask her to go to the court house and talk to someone. If child support is being paid to her personally, she should file to have it done through the court house. If it is going through the court house, she needs to notify them that she is not getting paid.

Next...why is your dad not paying? Although, again you should not be getting put in the middle...has his pay decreased? What changed to make him stop paying? If it is something out of his ability to change, such as pay decrease, then he needs to go to court and get it lowered to something he can afford.  There are so many means to get an answer without hurting you in the process. I have been there! It is hard for the mother, but she should never use you as a means to hurt him.  Actually, you may want to go to your councilor when you go to school, they can be a huge help in domestic situations like this. They can be an advocate for you!  

Answer 10

I just had an idea! like the people said talk to mom I think we should give her a good example like the Israel thing. They cut of the power so the Hamas would leave but it is hurting the Israeli people more than the Hamas. In other words it is hurting us more than our dad so did you try convincing her? That example might work. Really don`t know I will think of more stuff. I like the person who said it is their divorce not ours we shouldn`t be the ones getting punished for it.  

Answer 11

why should you have to suffer because of something someone else did or didn't do? Tell your mom to stop acting like Hitler and punish the people that deserve to be punished. Not you. The question you should be concerned with is NOT how to get your dad to pay child support, it should be why the FUJK is my mom taking this SHlT out on ME?  

Answer 12

Sorry to hear that.  Perhaps you can talk to some of your Dad's relatives, like his parents or brother or sister, and ask them to talk to him?  Also, make sure your mother knows that you need the internet to do your homework.  Is there another adult in your family or school or a friend of the family who could serve as a mediator?  You shouldn't have to bear this burden.  Try not to worry too much because there is not much you can do to change other people.  Good luck.