My dad killed my mom and my boyfriend thinks I should get over it?

Question

Me and my boyfriend got into a fight yesterday, and he told me to grow up. He said, "You really need to f**king loose the attitude and grow the h*ll up!" A couple weeks ago, he said, "You need to f**king get over the fact that you dad killed you mom and grow up!" To me, its impossible to get over the fact that my dad killed my mom.

I don't know how I should handle this, I have been with him for two years now. When he gets mad at me he says EVERYTHING that's on his mind, like everything and he thinks I'm just gunna let it go.

People say that I deserve better, but other than when he gets mad at me hes fun to be with. I don't know what to do or how to handle this?

Answer 1

he obviously doesnt realize what hes saying. if he does, idk, hes f*cked. theres a lot of guys that are fun to be with that wont say that. good luck with yer situation

Answer 2

ok Your dad killed your mum that not exactly something you can just get over.if your boyfriend doesn'tt understand that then he not worth it. if you haven'tt had some counseling that i seriously suggest it. but also remember people say things they don't mean when they are mad so maybe sit down with him and tell him how you feel. if  he isnt understanding then you'll know that you can do way better

Answer 3

I'm saddened to hear about your loss.

I think it's important to tell your boyfriend that since he hasn't been through a loss like yours, he shouldn't judge you how you choose to handle it. You need to speak to him and ask him to keep his opinions to himself. That is very insincere of him to say things like that to you. I could never forget the fact that my own father use to beat on my mom therefore, I could never forger or "get over" if he'd caused her death.

Be strong and don't let him get u down. If he does, find a new man. Trust me, in the beginning it will be painful but once you find a new man, you will enjoy it.

Answer 4

scare him. make him think he is going to lose you if he doesn't change his act. if he seems like he doesn't care then obviously you should find someone better. but if he loves you he will wake up and realize whats happening.

Answer 5

WHY THE HELLL!! would u be with someone who talks to u like that telling u to get over ur mothers death!!! however she passed..that'ss a hard thing to do and its serious!! hee needs to grow up!! i would dump his sorry *** and find a guy who has respect andisn'tt a dumb low life jerk!!

Answer 6

Your both at fault, he's probably right in that you should get over your mom's death if its been a evry long time. On the other hand your bf is very inconsiderate and needs to learn respect and manner.  

Answer 7

You need to dump that loser.

Why? Why do you think you should keep him?

Death is a serious issue. It doesn't matter if it happened yesterday, or 10 years ago. Death is a serious issue, that requires sensibility, kindness, tactfullness, and common courtsey.

Especially if the death was as tragic as your father ending your mothers life.

You bf must go, he is a loser. And no one deserves to be spoken that way no matter what the topic of conversation is.  Especially if it is THIS TOPIC.

That guy, is a creep. A selfish , shallow creep.  GET RID OF HIM.

Over time, your feelings will change as to what happened, maybe not change but, you will be able to handle it, accept it, and deal with it better as time moves forward.

Especially if  that creep of a BF isn't around you anymore.

Answer 8

you will never get over it but you can get therapy to help you come to terms with it better

Answer 9

I'm sorry but WHAT THE FU*K! he should be supporting you & NOT insulting you. its your mom & your dad how could you get over the fact that your dad killed your mother one of the most important people in your life. i dont think that you would EVER expect that from your father. your probably in shock & devistated. he need to grow the h**l up. & learn that you need him. hun im sorry but you deserve way better hes the biggest jerk iv ever heard of [other than my x-s] dump him.

hope i helped, jacky =]

Answer 10

First ask yourself what your definition of love is.My defintion of love is understanding,trust and loyalty.overall,being able to comfort your loved one when they are hurt or scared or whatever may be wrong.right now,your boyfriend is not being understanding,resulting in the fact that he may not truly love you or hes just not the one..i know two years is a lot,but as you said whenever you fight he says whatevers on his mind..when you find the one,your soulmate,he wont tell you to grow up.of course you'll have your fair share of problems but he would never judge you or critcize you over such a personal matter..i would say dump this guy.if you want to stay with him and work it out,tell him what you told us..if you think its not enough,go out there,be single for a while and maybe seek professional help so that you can come to terms with your mothers killing.god bless you and good luck sweetie!