My dad lied to me. what should do?

Question

i am 23 years old and i haven't seen my dad since i was a baby. he has never paid child support or helped me out financially in any kind of way. i have never asked him for anything. we talk on the phone sometimes but, before yesterday it was a year since i talked to him. i called my dad yesterday and told him that i was starting college and that my pell grant would only be enough to cover tuition but not all of my books. i told him that i would be $200 dollars short. i asked him if he would lend me the money until the middle of september and he said yes and that i don't have to pay him back. we live in two different states so he said that he would do a money gram and would call me as soon as he do it. a whole day has now passed and i haven't heard anything from him. i text him about an hour ago and asked him was he still going to send the money, but if not let me know so i can make other arrangements. i still haven't heard anything. so what should i do now?

Answer 1

keep calling him or get the money yourself

Answer 2

The guy may be having trouble raising $200 to spare.Give him the benefit of the doubt but meantime do what you can to raise the money on your own.If he coughs up great, but if not your not at square one.

Answer 3

OK, so you're 23 years old. I think it's time you learned that this man you call your dad has nothing for you. He has never given you anything of himself in the past, so for you to naively expect him to give you anything now means you are very likely going to get only one thing from him....disappointment.

So if you aren't sure what you should do, I would suggest that you stop expecting to get anything more that you have already received from this man, & free yourself from the burden of expectation ( at least where he is concerned).

Answer 4

well i personally would blow up his phone and just keep on calling him until he answered and then just find somewhere else to get the money  and if he does send you the money then go blow on something that you really want

Answer 5

I think Ruth and douglas gave you very good advice.

I think it would be helpful if you wrote out all your feelings..just start writing and don't stop till you get it all out.

Understand that life is very unfair..it is hard and very sad that there are parents like this..very sad.

Try to be grateful for the things you do have.  go to your school's financial aid office and see if they can give you any directions...try to see if someone can sell you used books like  put ads around campus of your need for certain books.  

Go online and look for creative ways to make some money...or do some babysitting, lawn cutting, paint numbers on curbs, make sandwiches and lemonade and go sell them by some job site where they might sell, wash cars, walk dogs, deliver fliers or something like that.

Also he may come through late, if he does, save that money for next time in an account and use the money you earned to get your own books this time,

Somehow it will all work out, so much of what we worry about often does.  Good luck with your studies and chin up ok? It is his loss..all those years and there is a day of accountability for those who do this to their families...don't forget that..someday he will know the pain he caused you and your mom when he gives an account before God

Answer 6

Listen...if your Dad hasn't been someone that you...or your Mom for that matter, could count on for 23 years, why are you surprised that perhaps he is not a responsible person.  I'm sure that it is disappointing that he is what he is BUT be grateful for your Mom!!  Do what you have to do to get the money and realize that this is one of many life's lessons that is coming your way....I think the lesson is....a biological father is not necessarily a Dad...good luck in school and be proud of who you have become!!