My dad molested me (any advice helps!)

Question

no i don't live with him and yes it is a case...

i feel so devastated. he was my hero and best friend and i trusted him with all my heart. now its like i cant trust anyone, I'm mad, sad, confused and so many other feelings. I'm trying so hard to get back on my feet but i feel so sad all the time. My mom just tells me to get over it and its in the past. Also i cant help but feel it is my fault. i didn't try to stop him, i didn't say anything about it, and i just let it happen. i hate myself so much right now. I have a counselor but she really doesn't help. Suicide has crossed my mind but i would never follow through with it. The only time i am ever happy is when I'm at church- my family doesn't agree with my religion and wanting to grow closer to God and Jesus Christ. I have so many questions but ill just leave it at that for now. also I'm just about to start high school and i don't know how ill be able to get through i used to be a straight A student but now...?

Please, if you have any advice it would be highly appreciated to hear it :)

thank you so much!

Answer 1

I was molested as a child. You never forget but if you save one child from the same thing you feel better.

Answer 2

omg im soo sorry!!! i think that u should try to forget about it...... its not ur fault so dnt blame urself....... and thinking about it will make it worse......... im not gooing to say i kno how u feel cuz i dnt....... i think that if u find a friend who has gone through wat u hav....... u would feel alot better about urself cuz ur not the only one  thats had that happen....... i hope u feel better sweetheart

Answer 3

I know its really hard .I've been there but i was raped and for many yrs it was so hard to get close to anyone especially a "guy"but i had alot of counsiling and i blamed my self too for many yrs but u know something we didnt do anything wrong..We're victims i became a christian and i turned my life to GOD and he gives me strength.I just wish u believe in him.Only he can help u.(believe in him) and im sorry to say this but your mom doesnt have a heart.I hope God enters into her heart...I pray you do well in life and ill keep u close in prayers..Good bless u honey..If u need a friend email me.anytme

Answer 4

honey! please don't feel that it is your fault bc IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!!! in child sexual abuse cases, the adults are the manipulative ones held responsible for their actions!!!!! they dare to act out their dirty

desires and forever taumatize the ones that trusted them!!!!!!!! it is very normal for them to find preys that had a relationship with them. and it is not your fault! they planned out everything and led u to do things that they want by playing mind games, manipulating your thoughts and abusing your trust and love for them!!!!!!!

honey, please don't blame yourself for his fault and mistakes... it really wasn't your fault... i would very much like to slap ur mother in her face for telling u to get over it!!!! YOU CANNOT GET OVER IT!! not when the predator was your own father!!!!!!!!

please find another counsellor.. please look up hotlines from non profitable organizations and ask them for referrals!! please give yourself the chance to live your life again!!!! please give yourself the life that you deserve by putting him behind bars and getting the help that you need!!!!!!!

if you are entering high school, please find the high school counsellor or a teacher that you trust (it's ok if she/he is from elementary)!! go find a trusted adult, like your grandma or a mentor and ask them to guide you through this. ask them to support you. don't ask your mother bc she seems to be in denial as well. she might be feeling sad as well and betrayed, so let her be.

look for help for yourself first.

hone... i am a stranger, but i care deeply about your issue.

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!! please, you deserve to grow up being a smart, loving, caring, friendly and outgoing and healthy individual. strive for it.

and some girls would even grow up being spokesperson or speakers to help young girls who are facing the same thing. be strong and get your life back!!!!!

the healing process will be long and painful... but you can do it with some professional help!!!!

Answer 5

Hi, Are the same person as heather..

because she just posted the same question...

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 6

omg i am so sorry to hear that

when it happen did u call the police?is ur dad in jail? if not report it and don't be scared,the pain will be unbearable but be strong

it will take some time to heal so don't rush it

if u feel like ur happy when ur in church then don't stop going

if ur family don't like it then s***w them cuz they don't know what u have gone thru

keep the faith

Answer 7

I was robbed of my childhood when i was sexualy molested by one

of my parents job workers.

we went to court and it was so sad.

well i kow you will never forget this tragic event but try your hardest in school

neer give up.

dont let him be the cause of your bad grades.

again i am so sorry.

Answer 8

You need to tell the police. It is against the law to molest anyone.

Try to get advice from anyone, such as a teacher, a preacher, or a school counselor.

Do things you love, like sports, or go to the mall.

Answer 9

how old are you? you said its a case. what do you mean? do you mean the cops know about it or what? as for your mom im sorry but what a bi*ch. she should be there for you! not say its in the past. i would never forgive my dad for that.

It is NOT your fault!!!!!!! you felt over powered. he was the adult and you were the child. dont ever think it was your fault.

if going to church and being with god is what makes you feel better then you do it. im not a church person myself but if it helps you that is all that matters.

you should deff go to therapy. not a counselor but therapy. let that mother of yours that its not okay and you need help.

as for your dad, do you two still talk? you may want to cut off contact with him for awhile till you can move on and get over it. i mean you will never be okay with what he did and he has no right to think you will. but at least you could be able to talk to him one day and not think about what happened.

good luck.