My dad pinned me up?:\

Question

Well I'm being made to stay at my dads house for a week and a half,its been about 3 days and i just really want to go home!Hes already pinned me up by the neck and i had marks over my neck for a while,he put a knife to himself and always punches his head,and just shouts.I told my mum i really hate it here and to pick me up and she said no and if u don't buck up your ideas then ill put you in a home you little bit**.I can't go out because no money and my mates live to far away..ive got ages left yet.

and i feel as if I'm trapped!

By the way my dads a alcoholic and my mum smokes weed.

i like it better at my mums because she just leaves me alone,even if i dont really get on with her at least i have my space,and its near my mates.

help?x

sorry for re posting just did'nt write in last details

Answer 1

Your dad sounds mentally ill.  What he is physically doing to you is called assult and that is illegal.  There are also mental and social issues involved her.    The fact that your mother is willing to leave you in the situation with your dad is worrying.  

As soon as you can you need to get some  help.  There are all sorts of avenues for teens in your situation-you just have to reach out for it.  Talk to people you can trust.  A teacher, a friend, a friend's parents-you need someone on your side who can make your day to day living experiences more healthy and safe for you.  Do it today if you can.

This is not your fault as you are not responsible for the actions of the two adults who call themselves your parents.

Answer 2

Aw jessica hun, if your mum won't pick you up, you need to ring someone else. When your father is drinking then he is a danger to himself, but he is more of a danger to you.

You need to be safe, you need to make yourself safe. He has no right to hurt you in any way. If you don't want to be there, then you don't have to be there.

He's already assaulted you once this week, once is more than enough !

You need to report this incident to the police hun ok, your father needs to know that he can not get away with hurting you, especially if you still have the marks on your neck.

  I know you must love your father, but that is no excuse not to file a complaint with the police.

  If you decide to stay with your father for the rest of the time & your father scares you again, by getting drunk & punching himself & or tries to hurt you, if he scares you full stop, call the police, tell them who you are & where you are, tell them that your dad is scaring you & you want them to come. If you need to cry when you're on the phone, then cry. The police will come.

If your in the Us the number is 911, if you're in the UK it's 999 ( I'm sure you know that ).

If & when they do come, you can give them your mum's phone number, the officers will call her & tell her to come pick you up or ( hopefully ) they will take you to her, she will also probably be advised not to let you visit your father again.

Good Luck. Chin up hun. X :-)