My dad says he'll hurt me

Question

my dad smokes marijuana daily and has about 15beers a day and he emotionaly abuses me like he said im a worthless peice of **** on a stick and that im just a ***** and he says that if i ever tried to turn on him he'd bash my face in before the cops had a chance to arrive and since he just recently broke his right humerus ive had to do everything for him and be by his side 24/7 with him constantly emotionaly abusing me and i cant take it anymore so the other night when he twisted my arm i kicked him in the balls and bashed a glass cup over his head and my mom never does anything when hes threatening me and hurting me..what should i do? i cant call the cops on him because hes a retired army vet so thats how he gets his benefits and if he goes to jail over a year he'll lose all his money and my free 4 years of college will be taken away and so will my sisters and i cant be the reason that we never go to college but im only 15 and i cant live her another 3 years because im not sure if ill be alive by then...i know this question is long and im not sure how to explain things but if you can plz give me help itde be appreciated! Thanks :[

Answer 1

No1 deserves to go through that c.r.a.p.. As for your mother maybe she doesnt have any fighting spirit left in her.. thats sad to hear hun... there's gotta be another way of you being able to get into college without his benefits surly that isnt the only way... I'm only saying this bcoz I suggest u stop being a slave to your father and his emotional s.h.i.t wall call the cops get the dam law involved so that you dont grow up to be a miserble adult. (like your father)... If he cant do whats best for you and your sister than you have to try and do it yourself...

I know it sounds like that I'm telling you that you need to grow up but thats not the case @ all... You are @ that age now where you can think for youself, so think about your future and safety... K

Sorry for being blunt.... But I hope this helps...

Answer 2

Most likely, he won't go to jail for more than 2 or 3 days.  CPS can and might take you and your siblings out of the environment for a while, and your father would have to attend court mandated anger management/therapy sessions.  The results from this could go a couple of different ways.  Do not, at this point prioritize college.  There are many ways to pay for it, especially if you have no support from your parents.  You need to take care of yourself, and any other family member which may fall victim to his abuse.  I suggest, you talk to a school counselor, or other relative who may be able to help you out.  If worse comes to worse, don't hesitate to escape to a friend or relatives house, and call the cops.  

Answer 3

THE BEST THING YOU COULD DO IS WHAT SADIE SUGGESTED.

IF SCHOOL HAVEN'T STARTED YET THEN YOU CAN TRY TO TALK TO SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST. AN ADULT THAT CAN MAKE WISE DECISIONS. LIKE AN OLDER SIBLING OR EVEN A STANGER IF POSSIBLE.

Answer 4

my dads the same way =/

Answer 5

This is too serious. You and your siblings are in danger for sure. Your Mom is weak..shame she cannot protect you. Talk to your school guidance counselor, maybe she can help you. But it sounds like home life is too violent for you to stay in. I wish I had something more concrete to tell you, but I just think you need to get out of the situation, and if it means losing benefits, then so be it. At least you'll be alive. But talk to a counselor, maybe she can point you in the right direction with either the police or social services.

Answer 6

Your mom has to know what this is doing to you and finally you blowing up and doing what your pop deserved has to show her something.....   Vet or no vet your dad needs help.. He is an abuser and a drunk...  Probably even an acholic..  You can call the cops.  The thing to do is go down to the Police station and talk to the chief and tell him exactly whats going on....  He will trully understand whats up and will help you...  Say dont you have any aunts or uncles or grandmother you can go live with for a while>?  I do wish you luck...  God bless from Grant M in Pennsylvania  

Answer 7

You have to get your mom involved and talk to her about it.  The cops should know this, and they will protect you so don't worry about it.  You don't deserve to be treated that way, and your dad sounds like he has some serious issues.

Good luck and I hope everything gets resolved.