My dad scolds me when he feels bad, what should I do?

Question

He usually says:I risk my life to earn enough money for you wretch to eat and live, and you never think about how to repay me back, what is the use to raise you?You are very selfish and ungrateful! Then I reply that I am not like that, he says dirty words to me.

When he says these, I always feel very sad and i cried a lot, and I think I am not like what he thinks,I'm just not very sensitive,that's all.

Please help me to solve this problem and thank you very much!

Answer 1

ask him what he wants you to do around the house that will make him feel you are not ungrateful .......then do them......this will change his thinking about you.

Answer 2

  sounds like ur father is under alot of pressure, but thats no excuse for him acting like that. 1st how old are u ?. if u are under the legal age

then sit down and have a TRY to have a calm talk with him, ask him

what is the problem, and why does he talk to u in that manner, and what does he mean by repaying him back ?.or what does he want from u ?. then try to change and make a difference.let him c it and maybe he'll change too. if he doesn't then something is eating at him deep inside and and he has to take it out on someone and ur that someone.i'm betting that he's a single parent am i right ?. well anyway

try to get him some help if all else fails. good luck.

Answer 3

well..... it pretty much sounds like your father is under a lot of pressure. does he have problems at work? maybe you should ask how he is going and try to help him. He is just obviously stressed and getting annoyed with you is the easiest thing. So I reckon that you should deffinately just talk to your dad. Don't be affraid!

This will work!

Answer 4

No one has the right to make you feel like that and you don't owe anything to anybody, especially your parents. You didn't decide to come into that family, they made that decision when they decided to have a child so you shouldn't feel bad. Since you are doing everything that you can they should be proud of you but alas, the world is not fair. I'm sorry you have to go through this but the important thing is to not listen to that kind of talk. Try talking with him about how this makes you feel. If they still don't change, talk with a counselor at school or a friend. You need to let your dad know that it is not your fault and that he has no right to talk to you like that.  

Answer 5

Did  you ask to be put here by him?

Guess not. So he has a responsibility.

And, how would he want to be repaid? Doing chores (which is something i believe all kids should do)?

Or something else?

Just moaning isn`t going to solve things - so unless he is constructive in his criticism (this is wrong because... and this is how it should be...) then it`s just a load of hot air.

Try and have a talk when he is in a good mood - and explain that you need some pointers as to how he wants to be repaid ..