My dad seems to ignore me?

Question

My relationship with my dad was very close. I would ask him everything, go to him with my problems etc,. Now, whenever I walk by him he grunts and rolls his eyes. I make him dinner (like always) and he just walks by me and eats. This wasn't how everything used to be. He used to come home from work, and give me and my brother hug, now he just gives my brother a hug and ignores me? I asked him if anything was wrong and he just walked away from me. I asked my mom if anything was wrong at work for my dad, and she said everything was perfectly fine. He acts all happy around them, and then gives me a look and grumbles. I tried to not let it get to me, but i'm on the verge of tears?

Answer 1

Ask your mum to organise a meeting between you, your dad and your mum watching over. Tell her not to tell your dad you're not involved. Sort it out, and use your mum as a communication bridge. If he tries to avoid any conversation, get your mum involved, and make her question why he is like this.

It sounds like your dad has discovered something displeasing, possibly about you...there is something he is hiding definately. It is probably not work related.

In the meantime, try and get a conversation going. Make it genuine, not an attempt to see why he is acting so strange.

Last of all, might I suggest that this strange behaviour is only temporary, and that this will eventually wear out?

I feel so very, very sorry for you, but you must have heart and repair your relationship with your dad.

Good luck!

Answer 2

hes not being fair with you...and what hes doing is stupid. In my opinion there as to be a reason...someone just doesn't do that...it seems like hes a good father, but u have to talk to him and know why hes acting this way...even if it means you have to show him your tears.



i wish you the best of luck...and trust me i know its hard and i know how it feels...cause my father has been emotionless...he never congratulated me nor told me happy birthday when it was my b-day...luckily for me i had a great mother and older brother

Answer 3

Well you didnt say how old you are, but i am assuming that maybe you are growing up and is trying in his own way to get ready for the time when you leave the house. You should sit him down and really try to talk to him. And if that doesnt work, talk to your mom, maybe she knows more than she is telling.

Answer 4

Think of 5 years ago, then think of now.  Is there anything significantly different in your behavior or activities?  Is he aware of this?  If so, maybe he is uncomfortable with the changes and has difficulty relating to you as warmly as he did.  Is there anything significant that has happened in his life, particularly in regards to relating to a daughter?  Perhaps he learned that all his coworkers and friends daughters of your age were involved in behaviour he disaproves of.  Maybe you could talk with him and your mother at the same time and explain how you feel and ask him about his change in behavior.

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There may be something big going on in his life.  Its true that you are older so his relationship with you will change, but what you have described is unusual and not really healthy.  I think the best thing you could do is explain the situation fully to your mother and ask her to get the three of you togather for a long conversation where you can discuss it.

Answer 5

You really won't know until you speak about it to him. Ask him if he is disappointed in you, which usually gets a father's attention, don't let him walk away from you, stay with him until he'll talk to you and try to figure out what's wrong. It may have been something you've done that he knows about, or he may not like how you act. Who knows. Speak with him. Good luck.

Answer 6

It could be many things. You are getting older, being a young lady somtimes make dads a little unsure of how to act. We were daddys little girl yesterday then talking about boys the next. Somthing may have been done or said inadvertantly. It could be anything. there isnt time or space to get all the details communicated on this site. Below is a hot line 3 to people that can help you. They will talk with you on the phone so that it is a one on one conversation. They are in a much better position to help you, than anyone here.