My dad was cheating, and now my moms depressed, i don't know what to do?

Question

Okay, so my dad had a relationship with this woman over the phone, and i've seen text messages on his phone saying," i love you, miss you," and she sent some saying" i'm here take your time, i past by this neighbourhood and imagined one of these houses being ours" That hurt me so much. So i got home from my trip, and my brother confronted my dad, he said he was just talking, he said he would never cheat on my mother, he would divorce her before he ever cheated, and he wouldn't want to hurt us. So then my mom found out, and started full on screaming her lungs out, saying things like" i hate you, ahh, I'm such a bad mother right? i wanna die" and i couldn't handle it, i had to take my little sister outside, because it was painful.

I'm mad at my dad for cheating, but i also feel bad. and i'm scared for my mom, shes been depressed before, and it could happen again. I;m just so scared, i wish this never happened. and I don't know what to do. all i wanna go is run away, help?

Answer 1

You shouldn't have to put up with that.  Unfortunately, there's not much you can do because you are a child.  Running away is not a good idea.  Try not to let your parent's drama affect you too much.  Stay focused on school and don't make any stupid decisions.  Remember this hurt and pain and confusion when you grow up and have kids and don't put them through the same thing.  Then maybe something good will come out of this whole ugly situation.

Answer 2

http://www.psychotherapy.com

                                      --good   luck,. bye,.,

Answer 3

First of all....it sounds like you are a child and you should not worry so much about this....let the adults work it out and enjoy being a child...it doesn't last long

Answer 4

your dad is a jerk

Answer 5

Well parents can be selfish and what you need to do is let your parents deal with their issues on their own,And ask them to do this in private and keep you and your siblins out of it.

Answer 6

You aren't in a position to judge. Relationships are complicated and there's always more to it than meets the eye and two sides to every story You need to stay out of it and be supportive.

Answer 7

As hard as it may be, you need to let your parents work this out by themselves.

I am so sorry that you know so much about it to begin with.

I know you are hurt but, running away will not help this situation.

Do you have any family members that you could speak to?

Or maybe a counselor at school?

Try to be calm and pray for the best.

Good Luck.

Answer 8

its not your problem, i know people now that are adults and are still suffering the throw backs of dads affairs. concentrate on your self for now and look out for your siblings, thats the bravest thing to do.

Answer 9

The most important thing you need to remember is none of this is yours or your siblings faults and that your mom and dad love you all very much, even if they are unable to express it efficiently for a while. The sad fact about marriages today is that most of them will end in divorce. It is not fair, but based on what you've said, you need to brace yourself for that possibility. It is normal and perfectly understandable that you will be upset, scared and sad during this time. If you have friends who have been through a similar situation, talk with them when you need to vent or need support. Concentrate on those activities that make you happy and feel good.  

Answer 10

I know exactly how you feel. ITS NOT YOUR FAULT. and god knows and i know you hear that alot. Don't let them or yourself drag you into this. Only your mom can choose if and when she can be happy again, till then... Enjoy being a kid, and dont forget that BOTH your parents love you, and though IF you dont hear enough then go ahead and make sure they know you love them too.  

Answer 11

Sweetie, there is nothing you can do. Just ride it out and home for the best. Adults don't always make the right choices and there is nothing you can do about those already made.

Let your mom know you love her and that you don't think she's a bad mom. This is a hard situation but again, there is nothing you can do to change it.

Good luck.

Answer 12

DONT RUN AWAY YOUR MOM NEEDS YOU TO BE STRONG WITH HER.  TELL YOUR DAD WHAT YOU THINK BUT TRY TO BE RESPECTFULL DONT CUSS AND YELL JUST TELL HIM WHAT YOU FEEL AND WHY YOU THINK WHAT HE DID WAS WRONG