My dads always having a go at me and i want it to stop!

Question

Ok so my Mum left use two years ago now and ever since then I have stood by my dad but my dads always having ago at me and it seems like everything what I do isn’t good enough for him. He has said before that the biggest mistake his ever done was to have kids. I don’t go out often because I fill sorry for him because his on his own. He has threatened me many of time that he is going to chuck me out unless I apologise to him when I know that his in the wrong. He picks out the tiniest things and he makes them in to a big deal I mean I have lost my mum as well and I don’t think he understands that and a girl needs there mum. I mean it wont hurt him to just cuddle me now and then and be proud of me and what I do but I don’t think he realises that his pushing me fervour and fervour away and I’ve tried talking to him but he don’t listen and I’m getting to the stage that I’m really hating him and I know hate is a harsh word.

Answer 1

you need help try to explain to your father how hurt over your mum being go and then let him know that you need him to love and understand you or lose you to

Answer 2

Hey sweetheart..

well im sorry 2 hear about ur mum sweety..

well ur dad is emotional confused atm. because mum left u, he is really upset so he cant see u are in the same position. giv it time sweets, be patient, be with him. God can see all and will reward u for ur patience. why dont u try look for a job? help him with the household expenses,? this will make him feel more better and less stressed out :)..

hope all goes well for u :) x*x

Answer 3

Is there a possibility of you living with your mom for a while?  You might need a break from your dad.  He's just suffering, I don't think he means to be that way.  He probably sees his own pain as the worst in the world and so he takes it out on you a bit.  You should try to see if living with your mom for a while is possible.  Maybe another family member you're close to.  

I'd get emancipated.  -_-

Answer 4

Oh honey I am so sorry to here about this...it really isn't easy to grow up in such an environment.

I think you really need to find an adult who you trust that you can confide in - like an aunt/uncle/cousin/teacher etc so that you can get some support to help you deal with the situation.

I know your dad must be hurting right now because he lots his wife, but he cannot justify taking those feelings out on you. You are a child and YOU need HIM to look after you, not the other way around - you need love and support and it seems that your dad has forgotten that.

I am really glad you have tried to talk to your dad about this, and I am sorry he isn't ready or willing to listen and make some changes.

You have been really strong throughout the past 2 years and you are going to have to stay strong for a while longer honey - but you will get through this.

Firstly you need to enlist the help of a trusted adult who you can confide in and get support from, because you need all the support you can have to help you out here. Secondly, your dad cannot stop you seeing your mum...he can make it difficult for you, but you have said yourself a girl needs her mum, and you need yours. Since your dad won't listen to you when you speak to him maybe you should speak to your mum about this and see what the 2 of you can arrange between you? I also think you need to put down how you feel in a letter and give it to your dad to read - it is much easier to not listen to what a person says, but when it is written down in black and white sometimes it goes in a bit more, and also he can read it through more than once....

....at the end of the day you are the child in this relationship and your dad should be looking after you and your needs...I know it is frustrating but I think you should try once more in a letter to let him know how you feel.

Good luck sweetie x

Answer 5

well you can actually argue with him because your underage. i hope cause he is not by law aloud to anything then to kick you out. tell him off so he knows what he does is wrong.

Answer 6

you can either leave or stick it out. try to go to counceling. talk about your problems. maybe if you had someone to listen to u u might feel better. sorry about your mom. my dad left my family too.

Answer 7

You haven't lost your mother, darling, he's just trying to keep her away from you. And I think there's a reason why she doesn't live with him anymore ... and it's staring you in the face. He probably used to talk to her the same way he's talking to you now. You can do what she did, walk away. You can leave him and go to your Mum.

Nobody deserves this kind of treatment, especially someone who has stuck by their dad like you have. It wouldn't be selfish of you to leave, pet. Just phone your Mum, and go. Don't stay and put up with this abuse.

It might make him change, it might not. Either way, it doesn't matter now. You have your own life to lead, and he's only stopping you.