My daughter,me and my fiancee....race issue?

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My daughter,me and my fiancee....race issue?

i am 1/2 mexican and 1/2 filipino,my fiancee is mexican,but my daughters father is biracial (blck and white),my husband knows that she isnt his daugher,but he is the only father she has known (shes 7 months old,,i left her father when i was pregnant with her) but my fiancee's family doesnt like the fact that A)i am mixed,B) my baby is mixed and C) my future kids with my fiancee will be mixed,what is up with this?...do mexicans not like when their (step)grandchildren,or daughters/sons in-law are mixed? when i was with my ex-boyfriend,my parents had no problem with him being mixed,they actually were happy i was going out of my race(es)..but idk why his parents dont like me...im a VERY good mother,im still in school,i go to work,and i still take care of my baby and of my husband. im respecful to them,so i dont get it..could some1 please help me out?

im bringing this up because,they had a little get together for the 4th of july,and they baught all the grandchildren/step grandchildren/nieces/nephews little toys and things,but my daughter got nothing,i was so hurt that they would treat my daughter like that

Answer 1

Is he your husband or Fiancee? You keep going back and forth.  

Answer 2

you and your husband need to sit down with his parents and talk to them about the issues, i hate ppl like that  

Answer 3

Congratulations on your marriage! First off, does your husband support you? As long as you've got your husband to support you, then nothing else matters. Don't go to the get-togethers. Avoid all contacts with his family. Just live your happy life with your husband and don't worry about what others say.

Answer 4

They sound like ignorant racist neanderthals. Some people are still living in the dark ages when it comes to mixed relationships, you've just got to hold your head high and ignore them, you could try to get your fiance to discuss this with them.

Answer 5

Wow that is a cruel thing to do to a child. I would tell your fiance how you feel and the BOTH of you talk to his family and tell them this will not be acceptable and that you two love each other and they will treat you and your daughter with respect.  

Answer 6

Look you need to stop stressing if ur fiancee`s family doesnt like ur mixed race then tell them to stick it,ur marrying them not him,talk to ur fiancee about this issue and try to work it out....if they still dont accept you then forget about them and move on with ur life....

Answer 7

You have taken care of your child since the day she was born and so has your husband who has been there for your beautiful daughter!

you should not even worry about your ex boyfriends parents because you know what there messing out on this little girls life that they don't want to be apart of!

I just think your ex boyfriends parents are really crazy to not love there grand daughter weather she's mixed or not!

now that your married to a great guy you should just move on with your life with your daughter and your husband and move on because your ex boyfriend and his parents are messing out!

Answer 8

Come on you are just settling for this guy for some reason I don't know? You should be with a man that loves all races! and especially if its between you as a family. Really this makes no sense...You are going to marry a man that A) Doesn't like your race B) doesn't like your daughters race. I mean they didn't even get her anything on July 4th but the rest of the kids got something. You say your a good Mother which I believe in some ways you are but why would you raise your daughter up with a step Dad that doesn't like her skin colour or race. That's sick!!!!!!!!! Like why is he with you then? no wait a minute...why are you with him? Like this sounds to me like you are going to be asking another question down the road maybe only even a year into your marriage. the question will be "why doesn't he love me anymore" You know there are questions out there that people can only learn them to know them but when it comes to the heart, then only you will know the real answers to that.  

Answer 9

Some Mexican families are very traditional and don't like the dating of other races. My husband is Mexican and I am white and his family love our son. I think that you might want to express your hurt to your mother-in-law and tell her why you feel that way. Also, don't put to much stock in your in-laws thoughts. You should also tell your husband that he needs to tell his parents to treat your child right or else they won't be seeing him until they do. Good luck and just continue to be a great mother.

Answer 10

personally i would not want my daughter to marry someone  with a child better yet a child that is black and white.

Answer 11

Why do you think there are so many mexicans?  Because for the most part they don't go outside of their race, it is looked down upon, as it should be.  You are seriously s******g with the natural order of things, and obviously you are pissing off some people in the process.  Your parents are pathetic being so happy about you mixing races, but that may be because they are not proud of their own and want it breed out.  Next thing you know you will be getting it with the dogs to you can mix species as well.  

Answer 12

This is a really bad situation.  I can speak from experience, get out now!!  It will not get better and you need to look out for the best of your daughter.  You don't want her growing up with self esteem issues or any other type of issue because she is mixed...