My daughter 1st grade daughter has been suspended?

Question

My daughter has been suspended for ALLEGEDLLY throwing a rock through a car window. It was an accident, of this I am sure. But my concern is from where the vehicle was parked and the window that the rock went through clearly shows that my daughter was in the middle of the parking lot when this occurred. I see this as neglagence on behalf the dutys who are suppose to be watching my child. What if she had been hit by a car? or some crack head snached her up? Why was she in the parking lot? Also, there were 2 other girls there with her when the accident occurred but they were not questioned or even identified. I am confused as to what acctually happened. What should I do?

Answer 1

Ask your daughter exactly what happened. Where was she, what did she do and when? Which of these things are allowed? Why did she do the things that are not allowed? Who were the other girls with her? And write it down! Tell her that you are going to talk to her teacher and you need to be completely sure of what happened beforehand. Then go talk to the teacher and get the other side of the story.

It's not an accident, and you need to stop seeing your child through rose coloured spectacles before she gets into serious trouble. You don't throw rocks by accident. Thank goodness it was a car she hit and not another child - do you know how much damage a rock thrown hard enough to break a car window would do to a child's face?

Your daughter needs to learn to behave. Yes, if she sneaked out past the adults on duty, then that's an issue - but how many kids are they watching? If every kid in the playground decided to leave, do you really expect them to be able to prevent it? They couldn't. It's your job to teach your child that she doesn't do things which the duty staff say she can't do - EVEN IF she could easily do them behind their backs.

Answer 2

Usually an administrator does the suspending, so you may want to go to the principal, unless he or she did the actual suspension.  If that doesn't work, try your local area superintendant or district superintendant.

Answer 3

First talk to the teacher. Find out where the teacher was when this happened. Since the teacher is the one who was supposed to be looking after her, she is the one who should be questioned. Once you find out more about the situation from her teacher, you can go to the Principal and talk to them about her being suspended.

Answer 4

i would talk to your daughter and see what she says. And with the information she gives you go further with your intuition. I would find out who was in the car and see if she happened to know them and if not watch her as she leaves school. Kids talk in no time you will know who is responsible. in the mean time just enjoy you and your daughters day from school. Let her know that even if she did't do it that throwing anything at a car is dangerous for everyone and leave it at that.

Answer 5

First, find out what happened and get it all cleared up in your head. then call a laywer and ask for his/her advice on the subject. Like "What do you think about this?" or "I really don't know if this is something worth taking to court or what!" AAnything like that should help you. And just go from there. Whatever happens, happens. I just advise you to look more into the situation and ask from a professional's point of view. (A lawyer)

I hope I helped and Best of Luck!

milly♥

Answer 6

you go to the school for a full explination. But I am sure your daughter has been told that the carpark is off limits. She chose to go there, then she chose to throw a rock (which I am sure you have taught her not to) and now she has to pay the consequence of doing it.

Answer 7

Ogm, I would be tearing a school apart.  

I would first talk to my daughter about what happened, and why was she in the parking lot unattended by an adult.  Give her a chance to tell you exactly what happened.  

Next step would be to talk to the principal of the school and ask the all important, why was she in parking lot anyhow question.  With my being a smarta$$ I might have actually started out with, Why was there a car on the playground?, but that wouldn't help this situation.  I would explain the the principal that while I understand that what my child did was wrong, that what they failed to do could have been dangerous for those students.  

Then I would contact the school board and file a complaint, as well as my local paper.  The headline : Schools suspends student, after they failed to do their jobs.  Yeah that would rattle some cages.  I would never deny that my child did wrong, but I would sure as h**l scream about what the school did.

Answer 8

The first thing you should do is get off the defensive. The less defending you do before having the facts, the less foolish you'll feel if she isn't innocent and the less likely she will be to lie. She either did it or she didn't. Experience taught me long ago that children will lie to get out of trouble. Duhhh. Did she confess? How do you know there were two other children who were not questioned? You should schedule a meeting with the principal, your child and her teacher. You should take with you a list of questions. Who witnessed it? What happened exactly?

If she is guilty and threw a rock at a car, it probably wasn't an accident that she threw the rock, just that she didn't hit where she'd aimed.  I would be concerned about that. Was she aiming at another child?  If so, it could have been much worse than a suspension. If she did not throw the rock you need to let her know that you believe her. But be sure before you back her.

You have a very good question as to why she was in the parking lot. She would be the first person to ask. If it was during school hours, her teacher would certainly be the second. But one wrong does not wipe out another.  Settle the first, her suspension, before tackling lax school security.

Answer 9

First, I would talk to your daughter. Hear everything she has to say about it. Then go to the principal. Ask why the others weren't questioned and if anyone actually say your daughter throw the rock. Ask youe daughter who the other girls were. If the principal and/or teacher doesn't want to do something about it, I would go to the school board. If no one saw your daughter do it and there were other girls there, no one knows exactly who did it. It's not right for your little girl to be suspended and the others get nothing.

I hope things get straightened out for the two of you! It's gotta be a tough situation. Good luck!!

Answer 10

Talk to the Principal and if that doesn't help go to your School Board.

Answer 11

Yes, it is part of the schools fault because your daughter was in the parking lot.

But you should also teach her that its not good to throw rocks. People get arrested for that, and put in jail.