My daughter's 12, and...?

Question

She's wearing heavy makeup to school.

I'm talking about eyeliner, *vibrant* eyeshadow, foundation, mascara, and lipstick. She looks like a birthday cake for god's sake.

I leave for work about 6 in the morning, and don't come home until 7 at night. By then, she already has it off. Now how do I know this? I stayed home from work yesterday, sick, and I saw her before she left for school. I can't believe my wife doesn't have a problem with this.

What should I do?

Answer 1

She is growing up and is nearly a teenager.

She is bound to experiment with things like this, but prehaps she needs to be guided. Perhaps by your wife, or an older teenager who she feels comfortable with.

She will want to grow up and feel mature, so dont shout at her or tell her your oppinion on what she looks like. Get s nomeone to guide her to a look which is mature and sophisticated, yet natural and less vibrant.

Or even take her out on a special treat to see a makeup expert, you often get them at boots / john lewis at the makeup counters and they will do your makeup for you and tell you what looks best.

Answer 2

Tell her that makeup ruins the skin, and it ages a person's face. Tell her also that people will think she's trying hard with have a caked face. Caked face is definitely not a good look for ANYone. Also say that she'll thank you when she's older for not letting her put tons and tons of makeup on, because yes, it definitely ruins a person's face. Tell her that people might get used to her wearing a lot of makeup, and when they actually see her without makeup on, they will think she doesn't look good. Only allow her to wear some. To make her appear more natural. Not too much foundation (try only a little concealer on the parts she needs it the most), either mascara or eyeliner, and NO vibrant eyeshadow. Maybe allow only a bit during a special occasion like a formal party. Also, no lipstick but just lip gloss.  

Answer 3

well its all on how you feel maybee you should talk to you wife about how your feeling and how to deal with it and both of you should make the disition on if it apropreaite at this age to wear heavy duety makeup

beacuse it depends on how you look at things so, if its not hurting her health or if attraction that isnt approprete for some men but i personal think you should talk to your wife ~ comunication is the key!

sincerly , jessica

Answer 4

i would maybe take the heavy duty stuff away and put some lighter stuff in its place. just so she will have makeup but not that much.

keep at least one thing of hers that is heavy duty because at least she has one thing.

you can also talk to your wife and daughter

hope i helped

<3

ps  i am also 12

Answer 5

talk to ur wife and ask her if she wore that much when she was 12 she probably didn't and ask ur wife if she could spend a couple of hours to do a "spa day" with ur daughter on a saturday. on that day neither of u should tell her that ur doing this to teach her just tell her it's for fun. have ur wife put a facial mask on her, do her hair, do her nail, and other stuff like that. when she takes the mask off have ur wife do her make up in a more approtiate way. have ur wife and u compliment her A LOT and tell her how pretty she looks with that make up. maybe she'll change her mind and start doing her make up differently.  

Answer 6

You can scare her out of it by telling her that the make up she wears has toxins in it and will give her cancer when she's older. Or you can say it will dry her skin out so she will be wrinkly when she's older or acne sooner. Or you can just make something up thats worse.

You can tell her schoolmates might think badly of her for wearing so much because they probably do.

At least try to compromise on make up. Let her wear some. If she also needs the foundation, like if she already does have ance, try get that fixed. Take her to a dermatologist so she doesn't have to cover it up at school. Which also suggest talking to her about why she wears the make up. Maybe its a self esteem issue?

Answer 7

i think you should talk to your wife.  12 is definitely too young to be wearing this much makeup.  maybe your wife has different standards though.  you should also confront your daughter and ask her why she feels she needs to be wearing this much.  find out what her friends do, and other girls that she sees at school.  figure out a compromise for this like just wearing less makeup, since it is so heavy.  and some makeup can be really harmful to your skin...she probably doesn't know what an affect it will have on her skin in a couple of years.  good luck!

Answer 8

Maybe you should ask her to put less on.  If you think it is too much than you should do something about it.  She's probably wearing it to attract boys.  Talk to her about it and say that there are other ways to get a boy's attention without wearing so much makeup.  

Answer 9

she's probably just going through a phase. she'll get over it as she gets a bit older. leave her to it for now.

Answer 10

wow, 12?

i dont plan to wear any makeup until

i'm at least 18!

well,don't scream at her and tell her

to never wear any make-up again.

that will probably want to make her

do it even more.you should probably tell

her to tone it down a bit.for example

light lipgloss instead of lipstick

either eyeliner or mascara, not both

and definately to drop the foundation.

keep telling her she has a beautiful face

hopefully she'll wear less and less makeup over time :)

Answer 11

ban the makeup from her or have a chat with her and tell her that she is way too young for makeup and that if she really wants to wear it she should keep it to a minimum, besides makeup gives you pimples

Answer 12

wow, i'm 14 and i'm only allowed to wear eyeshadow.

I know girls like that.

I would talk to her and tell her to tone it down.

She really shouldn't be allowed to wear makeup until she is a couple years older but thats just how i was raised.

Answer 13

hahahahaha

very funny

i distinctly remember you saying in another question that you are 14 and i dont think, well i HOPE you dont have a 12 year old daughter

Answer 14

reason with her...

tell her that she doesn't look good, that it just looks bad and really un-natural

tell her that she can wear some, but just make it look natural

Answer 15

It's time for the 3 of you to sit down and talk about this. That is way to much!! I would imagine that kids are talking behind her back and making fun of her. You should bring  that point up to her, Noone wants to be made fun of

Answer 16

if there is no Mom in the equation, assumed as you should be asking her instead of us, call the counselor at school and ask for input

Answer 17

You guys need to spend more time with her. Seems to me, like she's not getting enough attention from you guys.You need to spend more time with her but, you need to discuss the makeup issue with your daughter. Explain to her, that there is a time for everything. And, it's not yet time for make up. She can wear light makeup like a discrete lip gloss or lipstick like LipSmakers, mascara etc. But, definitely you guys need to work less and spend more time with her. If she grows unattended she will grow wild.

Remeber you don't have to wear makeup to be pretty (:  

Answer 18

Well If she's 12 thats the age girls tend to feel

they need to wear makeup but at that age she

shouldn't be wearing that heavy. Another thing

Is: "Peer Presure" I f other girls In her school

Are doing that same thing she could feel preassured

to it.

Now, Since you don't like this talk to her tell her

you don't want her wearing all that makeup. If she

doesn't reason talk to the school about banning too

much makeup. If that doesn't work  Try agian with

you're daughter, And If she still doesn't reason

Get harsher Like: Grounding Throwing away makeup

Things like that. Now ONLY do that IF you've tried everything else

The reason you're Wife is probably fine with it Is

Is because she went through the same thing, but talk

to her too.

I really hope everthing works out,

Crazy Read Head :)

Answer 19

take away the eyeshadow and foundation. i think everything else is fine :]

Answer 20

honestly? i dont think that you should take her stuff away like that. thats definetly not the right thing to do and i think she will get embarassed. Dont tell your daughter that she doesnt look beautiful without it on also because that will just lower her self esteem and create many problems, instead you should just be gentle with her. Tell her that she doesnt need all that makeup on and that she should just keep it to a minimum because she looks beautiful naturally.

but again dont embarass her because even if she is just 12 she still has just as much feelings as anyone else

Answer 21

I'm sorry but i think your over reacting I'm 12 and i wear loads of makeup she oviosly knows what she is doing like shes making herself look like a clown.honestly i think in her year there would be a lot worse like just eyeshadow foundation mascara nad lipstick in my year people wear bronzer foundation blusher eyeliner so dark its gothic mascara about 6 different colours of eyeshadow and red lipstick honestly they look like dolls but as all the older peaps say we in a phase and we will soon get out of it and it stops after a while my sis is now 15 and she just started calmin down with makeup like just ligh shades.

hope this helped

Answer 22

TAlK TO HER! ask her why she is puttin on makeup all of a sudden. she might be doing it for a certain purpose to attract guys and all.  

Answer 23

Talk to your wife and tell her that boys, teenagers and young men look at a girl/woman with lots of makeup on like your daughter and automatically assume she is a s**t and sleeps around.  Your wife will start yelling saying that is a stereotype, etc., but you can't change the way people think, and a young girl is not mature enough to handle the raging hormones of boys who are not brought up with good morals.  Other girls at school probably talk about your daughter and call her a s**t too, and this is another burden your daughter should not have to bear.  You know that as a father it is your job to protect your daughter from people that may harm her, including herself, so tell your wife you are putting your foot down and from now on it's mascara and lip gloss, end of discussion.  That's what I would do.  I think your wife is just out of touch with how kids are these days.  

Answer 24

i would talk to your wife or your daughter...

ask your wife why she lets your daughter go to school like that because it is possible that she doesn't know.

ask you daughter if she would mind lightening up a little, try for compromise instead of one side or the other.

Answer 25

Talk to your wife, then try to compromise with your daughter. Full foundation is too much for a twelve year old, but let her wear a tinted moisturizer and maybe concealer if she needs it. Don't let her wear lipstick, but let her wear lip gloss. For eye makeup, maybe just subtle brown eyeliner and maybe neutral eyeshadow if you're comfortable with it. Also, you could tell her that she can wear this only if you don't catch her taking heavier makeup to school. If you do catch her, take away everything she has.  

Answer 26

i think ur the 12 year girl..

Answer 27

When i was 12 i had bad acne andlow self esteem so i shoved foundation eyeliner eyeshadow and blush all over my face. Everyone kept telling me id look better with less makeup.

Now im a freshman in high school and i have really good skin.

Its good for 12 year olds to know how much to apply...my mom never told me anything about makeup.

talk to your daughter and wife,

Answer 28

jeesh!!

Well you need to talk to either your wife or daughter about it if you don't like it.

Answer 29

well to be honest im suprised that the school hasnt said anything let alone im 13 and i wear foundation and eyeliner and were not allowed anything else.

i think you should talk it through with your wife and your daughter.

Answer 30

hide some of her makeup u dont want her wearing and then talk to her about it . . . thats more embarassing for her!

Answer 31

Okay, well 12 is an okay age to start wearing makeup, but she really should be keeping it to a minimum. You should definately talk to your wife and work something out.