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My daughter's behavior is getting worse?

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basically my daughter has been getting in trouble at school for excessive talking. She is in Kindergarten and will be going into first next school year. I want to help her over the summer to control her outbursts but everything we have tried is failing us. Any suggestions that may have worked for you?

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  1. Just ignore everything she says for awhile. Kids don't like being ignored. Soon she probably won't talk as much. Hitting her will most likely cause anger and hurt. Hope it helps!


  2. We have this problem with my boyfriends son as well and we have found that we have worked out a system at our house and at his moms that for every frowny face or straight face he brings home on his behavior chart from school we take one day of his video games away.  Ex. If he gets 2 sad faces during the 2wks when he comes to our house on the weekend he doesnt get to play video games of any sort for the entire weekend.  It has helped alot cause this is something he is big on.  We had tried many other things and they failed so when we took something he felt was important to hime he started doing better.

  3. I was seen as a chatty kid myself and ....everyone always saw it as "problem." Focus on the positive things! Try finding her strengths (art, reading, math) and teach her to excel in those subjects. Later, after the school year, if you that it is affecting her school work then you should start to worry. Beware of your child being diagnosed with ADD of ADHD.

  4. My daughter is in 3rd grade and has had problems with this since Kindergarten. She is well behaved at school she just tends to talk to those around her, generally at the wrong times. The problem is generally in the beginning of the school year and after getting into trouble enough she is good the rest of the year.

    When I start getting notes home from the teacher I generally respond by asking my child to be moved away from the kids she likes to talk to. A few times she has been moved to the front of the room sitting in front of where the teacher stands. Last year my daughter's teacher moved her from the group table to a single desk. This upset me the first time I went into the room and saw her sitting alone. I spoke with my daughter about it. She told me she didn't like it and it hurt her feelings. I spoke with the teacher and shortly afterwards she was moved back to the table. She didn't want to go back to the single desk and she quickly learned when to talk and when not to talk.

    Try to talk to your daughter about when she can talk in class and when she can't. If she gets too many notes home start making consequences for her actions. Make it a weekly thing. You could give her one warning each week,meaning she can get into trouble once a week for talking. After her warning she loses her favorite toy for a day or two, she can't watch tv, she can't play with friends or outside for a day, etc. If she is good all week you can reward her with something small.

    Good Luck!

  5. spank her butt

  6. i was a talky kid and went on to be a very talky person.

    yes it got me in alot of trouble over the years but nothing really seemed to stop.

    if you're really concerned talk with the teachers and tell them, they should be able to help control it.

    also try explain to her that she'll get in trouble(maybe exaggerate a little to get her to listen)

    but otherwise i wouldnt worry about it too much,

    x ava

  7. Collaborate with her teacher...this won't work now since it's the end of the school year, but you could try it next year. If your child gets in trouble for talking in school, she should have a consequence at home as well (like time-out, removing a privilege, etc). If you are consistent 100% of the time, this should help :-) I have substitute taught in a lot of kindergarten classrooms, and it's pretty normal for a lot of them to be talkative. At that age it is really hard to be totally quiet all the time, and to remember when it is okay and not okay to talk. I'm sure she is not the only one in the classroom who has this problem, and as she matures and gets older it will probably be less of a problem :-)

  8. some kids just talk alot

  9. You need to talk to her about behaving in school and let her know that if she misbehaves, there will be consequences.   If you find she's not listening, doing as she pleases or talking way too much, give her a warning or two.   Let her know that her current behavior isn't acceptable.  This way, she'll start to understand what behaviors aren't right.

    If she continues to misbehave, take away her favorite toy, outside playtime or her favorite afternoon snack.  

    Be firm and be strict.   I'm not saying run a jail, but it's important that she learns to listen and respect by a young age.  

    If all else fails, talk to her doctor and see if he can reccomment someone who specialize in behavioral issues.

    Kids do talk and sometimes they don't listen, especially in Kindergarten.   However, there comes a point where it's TOO MUCH and not normal for her age group/social development/future behaviors.

  10. If she's always talking to the same person or people, she should be moved to a different table so she can't talk to them in class.  My daughter and her best friend had to be split up so they could learn.

    Talking a lot isn't really a terrible behavior issue...there are so many that are a lot worse...but maybe taking your daughter to places where she has to practice being quiet would show her that everyone has to be quiet sometimes.  Tell her about the indoor voice and the outdoor voice, like we all do for toddlers, but tell her there's silent too, that we have to use when the teacher is talking.  Tell her if she can keep from talking to her friend constantly at school, she can invite her friend over some afternoons (or weekends, whatever works with your schedule) so they can do all their talking then.  She also may do some growing up over the summer, and outgrow the problem on her own.

    Since it's her first year of school, she's probably just really excited about having so many people her age to socialize with.

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