My daughter's bus driver said this?

Question

My mom and I explained to her that not everything that people say is always right, and that while she may feel that she is right, that it's not true. We explained that there is good music and that there is bad music, just like there is good TV and bad TV.

Answer 1

I think you handled it well.  It's a good lesson for your daughter to learn that different people have differing ideas and beliefs.

My daughter's grandmother told her that The Golden Compass was a movie that would make God sad if she watched it.  I just laughed when she told me, and said that God's got more important things to worry about than what movie you watch!

There's worse things a kid can do than listen to rock music!

Poor bus driver!  Some people just can't accept that not everyone thinks the same way they do.  That's how wars start.

Answer 2

Not unless the bus driver is pushing the subject. Just explain to your daughter that some people believe different things and what you believe in your family. If the driver does it or something similiar again, bring it up to the drivers supervisor.

Answer 3

First off, your daughter is 6.  I know you want to believe everything she says, but you have to realize that kids take things out of context and don't repeat it exactly as they heard it.  The bus driver may not have said it exactly this way.  But, then again, she may have said exactly that.  You don't know.  Kids exaggerate.  I would simply let it go this one time, especially if she is to continue riding that bus.  But if anything else is said, you should confront the bus driver and ask her what is being said.  You need to get both sides of the story.

Answer 4

If you feel that you need to do something about it you could either confront the bus driver (which could cause big problems...learned this from experience with my nephew) or contact the school about it. I wouldn't do anything about it just yet, but if it continues to be a problem then I would definitely step in. This lady has no right to put these ideas in your child's head & I highly disagree with her also. That's just crazy talk. Just keep a heads up on it & make sure that your daughter lets you know of any conversations that she has with her bus driver. Or simply just tell your daughter that the bus driver told her something that wasn't true & not to listen to anything she says to her anymore. Your choice. Good luck with everything!

Answer 5

Bus drivers seem to always have 2 sides to them.  My sister had problems with a bus driver and luckily they have cameras on her daughter's bus and a review of the tape showed a different person than what she showed to the parents.  I am a Christian and I don't believe in some types of rock music but she could have just told the kids that she doesn't listen to that music because she doesn't like it.  She shouldn't be condemning the little kids.  If everyone was allowed to do that then you might get a Satanist as a bus driver next year who is pushing the kids to enter a cult.  There does need to be some type of boundaries.  You should either talk to the bus driver or the superintendent of the school.  Whomever you feel comfortable with.

Answer 6

ummm why would you want to confront to her about this? just don't....tell her not to listen to people.

Answer 7

I wouldn't bother with the bus driver. She obviously has her own beliefs.

I would talk to your daughter and tell her that other people have different opinions. It doesn't make them wrong, just different.

Let her know what you believe and what is ok for her to.

Answer 8

I would confront her.

I was in 3rd grade when I was told a similiar statement.

My mom however didn't confront the woman who told me this. I wish my mom had stood up for her beliefs and told the woman to not tell me such things.

I would kindly let her know that you don't appreciate her saying those things in front of your daughter and ask her to refrain doing so again.

Answer 9

He's probably a fundie, and I find it very ironic that most fundies end up in the lowest paying jobs.

Answer 10

I would confront the bus driver about this. She's having an influence on your child when she shouldn't be.  Her job is not to instill her "values" into your child its her job to get her to and from school.  This would bother me very much if my neice told me her bus driver told her this and I would confront the driver.  Just explain to the driver that it is not her place to do such.  If she doesn't get it then take it up with the school.

Answer 11

I wouldn't confront the bus driver. However, advise your daughter to listen to herself and you rather than te bus driver. Ask her to tell you if the bus driver says anything like this again. If it happens again, talk to the bus driver for a minute when your daughter is dropped off. If it happens after THAT, call the principal of your daughter's school.

Answer 12

The most important thing you should do....you have already done. Teaching a child to think for themselves and to ask questions of people THEY trust when they have questions of their own, is a BIGGIE when it comes to raising a child into a self confident productive adult. Your child initiated this conversation and geared it to find  out what she wanted to know. She wanted to know wether or not rock music was really from the devil or not. She got her answer and kudos to both her and yourself that she asked questions instead of blindly excepting what an adult told her as fact!!  I wouldn't rock the boat on this one because it will just keep the issue alive in the childs mind and maybe open the door for the driver to put more of her beliefs into her head. "IF" this issue comes up again then I personally would write a POLITE note to the driver asking her to keep her christian views to herself as it is your responsibility to teach your child christianity and not hers. You might also point out that there are "LEGAL"reasons most schools no longer lead, or allow the students, to recite the lords prayer at sports events and/or with the pledge of alliegence at start of the school day!!   That would let the driver know you had strong feelings abut the matter and let her know you were not a dummy all at the same time.  It would not be a direct threat but......  LOL

Good Luck!!

Answer 13

i'd talk to someone higher up, like the principal.

Answer 14

ok u should get her off the bus and on another one talk to the bus station

Answer 15

i would call the bus company and not tell them who i am and just say that that lady said (so and so) and they can talk to her and let her know that she needs to wach what she says around those children because at that age is when they start to pick up what others say. . . . . . hoped i could help?

Answer 16

Yes! I would def. bring to her attention that they are 1st graders and everything she says to them they take in. They are at a age where they will believe just about anything. I would confront her.

Answer 17

Well i don't think it's a big deal. Just tell the bus driver to not talk while dirving with a bus full of little kids, it's quite distracting and you must make a good example for the kids sake.

everyone has their own beilefs, don't worry about it..

i wouldn't be suprised if a BUS DRIVER said this..HELLO. Low paying job...all makes sense doesnt it?

Answer 18

I would let either the school bus driver know you feel it is inappropriate or make an annonymous report to the school so they can report it.  Bus drivers are not allowed to talk about religion and she should know that.

Answer 19

if u want

Answer 20

First tell your child not to talk  and discuss with the servants and drivers and learn any thing from them. The time is short and you have to make sure that the child goes to school on time and return on time. Please also find out if the child is left alone on the way.

First instruct the drive in front of your child and tell him mildly not to talk to the child during the bus ride and concentrate on safe driving. If he does not follow your instructions, go and tell the principal of the school and tell him the needed security data about him and the security measures to be taken.

Answer 21

While I wouldn't get confrontational about it, I would talk to the bus driver and let him know that his statement was inappropriate and unappreciated.

Answer 22

Talk to the bus driver calmly and say you'd rather she didn't offer opinions like this in front of your impressionable 6 year old. Sheesh. Some of the stupid things bus drivers say. There are plenty of times I don't agree with what kids on the bus say but I keep my opinions to myself.

Answer 23

I don't think that will help I have dealt with the rock music is devil music ploy be for people will be people and you can't change their thoughts.

Yes it's wrong for the driver to tell a first grader her opinions.

But what can you do but ask her not do discuss such matters with children.

This is from someone who listened to bands such as.

Rez band.

Stryper.

Petra.

Barron Cross.

White Cross.

Mylon levever and Broken heart.

Answer 24

If rock music is the music of the devil, at least the dude jams.

The bus driver is totally off his rocker, I am a professional musician, and whilst I may not be a Christian, I know what music is; a form of communication and expression, in a rock song, you can either curse God, or praise him, or sing about whatever you want.

In my music, I try to compose instrumentals to make people think, and to make them universally happy, no matter what they read from it.

You could talk to the bus driver's manager, or your school about this, unfortunatly, this is a case of "he says, she says", and it's your word against theirs, if they denied it, they can't even be formally reprimanded.

Answer 25

That was completley out of line( the bus driver) She had no right to say that to a 7 year old. You should confront her about her remark and ask her to keep her opinions away from your daughter.

Answer 26

I would,or contact the transportation office or school,since these are not things first graders should hear and will give them the wrong idea.

Answer 27

I wouldn't confront the bus driver. She has her own opinions and believes about things. I would just explain to your daughter that.

Answer 28

that is completely up to you if it is a public bus from a public school they should have to keep religion to themselves just like the schools have to do

Answer 29

Yes definitely talk to the person higher up than the bus driver. How rude, seriously if I was in this position I would have stormed down there first thing this morning and told her she's a bus driver so drive that god d**n bus and leave the education to the teachers!

It's the last thing her bus driver should be telling her. I would write a formal complaint and ask for this to be followed up imediately and you'd like to know the outcome.

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Answer 30

I would not waste my time with the bus driver. Your child will find many people in their lifetime that will say things that are untrue and they need to learn these lessons. You can not protect your kids from everything so this woman actually helped you teach your child more about life. You would teach your child more bad than good if you talked to the bus driver. If you want to add a second life lesson on to this one you can teach your child that even though some people have views that we disagree with they can still be good people and should be respected.

Answer 31

well        ur not doing a good job otherwise ur gd would have said...let me ask my grandma....but your right she has only one job unless she suspects abuse..i home school because...i dont need freaks opinions blasted to my kids...and ps ... im a civil servant...ya your a wuss to come here first and not handle your business...why ask us if your so in love and god fearing why wait.....get real