My daughter's going into 1st year?

Question

My daughter is 12 and starting High School after the summer is done (we live in scotland) She was horribly bullied in her last months of primary school, and I don't want her to be bullied in High School. I was wondering what I can do to make her seem "cool" and "popular" so as no-one bullies her. She's had a tough time and used to be really confident, but after her friends started being mean to her, her confidence just plummeted. I'm worried in case the older ones (or the ones her age) bully her.

I have no problem with her wearing make-up, using hair straighteners, I don't mind. What should she wear on her 1st day, clothes-wise, hair-wise and makeup-wise. Thanks in advance!

Answer 1

Heyhey,

well, i'm in 5th year in scotland  and i was bullied..well left out in primary because i was the shy one! I still am! But in high school  the girls 'popular crowd' noticed my weakness and picked on me. I didn't use hair products and my hair was so frizzy and i had no branded clothes. Your child could feel really bad if she gets called names cos of not having what you should have at school, so buy her some top quality clothes =] It's so petty to bully because of that..but they will grow out of it, well most people do (Yn)

You should get a good pair of ghds and nice makeup for the first day. Make sure her uniform is all neat, and do up her tie, if she's wearing one =]

If bullying happens, tell someone straight away, the longer it goes on the worse it gets..=/

xx

Answer 2

for hair she should have a pouf wear the hair down take her bake and make a little poof at the top of her head...http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=h... but the bangs hanging out in this pic put up to....makeup....some foundation on her face and neck to make it blend in eyeshadow glitter baby blue preferably..shiny lip gloss........clothes abercrombie,aeropostale,limited to,jc penny....let her wear some ear rings two holes in each ear first hole wear hoops 2nd hole just a little diamond pink that goes for both ears!!!!hope this helps oh yeah and shoes... wallabee clarks....very cute!!!http://www.bennettsclothing.com/images/c...

Answer 3

She should always dress in good clothing and take good care of her health. Like wearing brand name clothing and not to be scared of other bullies.

Answer 4

You shouldn't really change your daughter...

Have her join activities where she can meet other kids from her school. Like an after school sport or a hobby class she likes. The older kids usually don't bully the younger ones unless the younger ones come at them. They usually mess with the kids in the same grade. You can't stop a bully but you can have her act like it doesn't bother then and ignore them. And have her try to make her friends who can help her feel welcome.

As for clothes, shop any where. As long as it doesn't look like you got it from the childrens section of a store. Then she'll be fine.

And you can't get popular in one summer,  It's something that just happens.

Tell her that she pretty and that she looks nice. Have the whole family do it. Have friends of hers [if she has any] have them say nice things to her. And have her say nice things about herself

Answer 5

Sadly it has nothing to do with appearance. It is all about personality and body language.

If she appears weak then she will get picked on.  

Answer 6

I know how easy it is to worry about your kids, because I have done it myself. My youngest starts secondary school in Sept too, and I worry about her being bullied, or getting in with the wrong crowd. However, I try not to let her know my concerns. Be confident around her, say positive things, and encourage her to invite her friends over during the holidays. Allow her to build up her confidence, and her social network. Try not to let her see how worried you are, then she will believe that you have confidence in her and her abilities to handle people.

Be aware of the term 'self fulfilling prophecy'. If she thinks she is going to be a victim, then chances are she might be one. If she thinks she is going to be ok, then chances are she will be. Worry about it if it happens, and be there for her. Enjoy the rest of the holiday.

Answer 7

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