My daughter? and What should I do? ?

Question

What should I do, my daughter met a guy online - via Myspace who lives in California and I believe is in his mid 20s, My older daughter read and saw the text messages that he sent my younger daughter who is only 13 years old and it was very explicit content of him. my 13 year old has history of self-harming and thinking about suicide. My older daughter said my younger daughter said he talks about suicide when she has to hang up with him and I'm afraid he'll lead her more into that and talk her into thinking on suicide as she has a history of. I don't know what to do yet, but I think she's to close to him and if I get her away from him, she'll hurt herself or do something else. What should I do, take away her phone, and block him? Get him arrested? I don't know on what she'll do? It's really not that easy either.

Why is she doing it though, for getting love? feeling love.

Have someone to talk to. She's afraid of talking to me

or her siblings or any of the people I got to help her.

We live in Florida, and she's 13 year old girl.

I am a single mother of 5 girls and 2 sons.

I am getting her help, I have in the past it isn't working.

She's got a younger sister who's only 10 I don't want her follow in that either.

Answer 1

DO NOT TELL THE GUY ANYTHING> DON'T LET HIM KNOW YOU KNOW.

First thing you need to do is confiscate the phone, try doing it while she is sleeping, and get the number of this guy, then turn off the phone!!!!!!!! Chances are he isn't from California and he isn't in his 20's. Myspace predators lie about their ages, put up fake pictures and make up fake profiles. Once you have the number, call the non-emergency line to the police department and ask to speak with an officer on duty. Explain your situation and give all information you have on the guy and the phone number! He can be tracked by his cell. But chances are good, that he knows that.

I was a suicidal teenager also. Try to talk to your daughter and see if she will open up. But don't accuse her of anything and do not tell her she is stupid. Young girls trust men like this because they don't know any better or they want the attention. Tread lightly. But you absolutely need to notify the police.

This guy can find out where your daughter is by tracking her cell phone. So take it, get the number and turn it off. The police will probably use it as bait, and/or evidence. If you think this will cause her to hurt herself, you might have to see your family physician and have her assessed.. she might need to be hospitalized for a short time period.

This must be incredibly hard for you. And I am so sorry. I will pray for you and your family and I hope you can handle this situation. If you need someone to talk to, please feel free to contact me.

Answer 2

Do whatever you have to do!  Call the police, take her phone, her internet, lock her in her room, ANYTHING!  I would definately report it to the police though.  He is a child predator and your daughter could be in danger.  Do not try to be her friend, just tell her exactly why you are taking these actions.  I would also recommend you take her to a counselor.  Good Luck!

(Personally, I would also contact this guy and tell him that she is 13 and that you have his information and that you are reporting him to the police.  If you have a male friend or family member who can call that may help even more.  But definately let him know that he is breaking the law)

Answer 3

its hard because your a single mother so the best thing i can suggest short of beating him within an inch of his life is to let the police handle this pedophile. save any and all explicit messages from him and show them to the police. your daughter on the other hand is a tuff one because they think they know it all at that age. she may have to spend time in a psyciatric hospital for a few weeks and be sraightened out. its for the best.  in the long run she'll thank you.

Answer 4

i agree with b-mama-alwayz

she has a great point.

i would listen to her advice.

Answer 5

First off let me say I think you are a very strong woman to be raising all those children on your own and I commend you on that! I say report him and have them arrest him or whatever because he cannot offer your daughter anything good! Next I say please take your daughter to a doctor and explain in detail your daughters problems and mental state. She will definitely need medication and therapy and, possibly will need to be admitted for long term treatment! This will be for her own good and you should not worry because the consequences of not getting treatment for her are unfortunately grim. I also think that you should have someone to talk to regularly, if not a therapist then a friend or relative because being a single mother is very hard and stressful especially if you ar dealing with problems like this. Seek help and all will eventually turn out alright. It will be tough but if you can raise 7 kids on your own you can get through this! Best wishes and luck.

Answer 6

I agree..call the police.  Take away her phone and everything..not to punish but protect.  Your 13 year old daughter has a myspace?  If so..that is the FIRST thing I would get rid of.  Getting your daughter into counseling would be a good idea as well...right away.

Answer 7

Honey, CUT OFF HER CONNECTIONS. Computer, phone, everything. Make her live LIFE without technollagy. I understand you are trying to please your daughter, keep her safe, and not lead her into any harm. But a long the way there will be people who decide to get into the hands of wrong things and doings. Take the bad away from her, and then talk to her sit her down, and say listen, and from there into the conversation don't yell and be very open minded tell her what she is doing is wrong, but be nice. she might be afraid to talk to you because, you haven't built trust. so give her your trust and find help to some sort, like a camp. god bless! -marty jean baker

Answer 8

Call your local police/computer crime unit..hopefully they will help you track this slime ball down and stick him in jail with his good buddie bubba.....

Answer 9

You need to contact the police ans see what they have to say.  Then I would try to get any proof you can and call the guy.  There's a good chance your daughter has lied about her age, and he sees nothing wrong with what he's doing.   You should also get rid of the internet.