My daughter doesnt like me because she thinks i am not smart enough.what can i do?

Question

My daughter doesnt like me because she thinks i am not smart enough.what can i do?

Answer 1

Don't pay any attention to what she thinks. She has no clue of what real life is.  

Answer 2

Be up to date. use the internet, subscribe to informational stuff. than you'll be smart than your daughter

Answer 3

Is that you mum?

lol, just kidding.

All children think they are smarter than their parents - I guess its just human nature.

Your daughter and you will become great friends as time rolls on, and you will both rely on each other for lots if things - a shoulder to cry on, a voice on the other end of the phone, you get what I mean.

Answer 4

Well, many if not most children have parent issues in the process of growing up (So you’re not alone there!) It’s a part of their developing a identity of their own, distinct from their parents. But it may lead to conflict of views, and periods of hostile interactions.

Mothers, especially the stay-at-home ones, put a lot of effort into bringing up their children. Their time is consumed by their various child-rearing tasks as they nurture and protect their offspring. Many also sacrifice their careers.  So, their personal development takes a back seat to ‘mothering’ and sometimes even becomes static. They’re sensitve to this being pointed out, and deeply hurt with their children saying they’re “not smart enough”...

As the children grow older, their need for constant motherly attentions diminish. Their interests become exploring the environment around them, and eventually fitting into the secondary circles of school/peer groups/workplace. Mothers used to years of subjective involvement, can find it difficult to let go. Their protectiveness, often perceived as overly controlling, is resented...

Seems to me the issue you mention probably is more to do with unmet expectations than with child-mother attachment and love. I’d suggest you allow your daughter some space, so she respects yours too. Channelize your energies into your personal development that you haven’t looked at for years.

Make some honest assessments yourself or get feedback from others to understand the ‘neglected’ areas you need to work on for self-improvement.  You might start with appearance - hair, make-up and clothes – so you can actually see and enjoy the change. Then resume with your earlier interests, or take up new hobbies or skills. Smarten up in your own eyes, and your self-confidence will flow. Your daughter too will be proud of you.

Answer 5

she is not mature enough. she doesnt have respect u. she will *** 2 know wen no one will pay heed 2 her in the world.

Answer 6

Your question is very much identicle to that of mine.  My daughter is 13 and now her attitude towards me has altogether changed.  She finds me way behind contemporary fashion.  She has recently developed dismissive attitude for anything I do, speak, my dressing.  When sometime I have to drop her at her school, she sends me off from far as if not wanting her class mates to see me.  Being realistic about myself, I would say I am not having such a discardable personality.  More often than not, she snaps at me at slightest provocation.  Sorry rather than answering you, I have stated telling my tale.  But my understanding on this issue is that at a certain stage in their growing age, these puberty syndroms do surface and they go through turbulent phase.  They can not manage their emotions which often lead them to develop hateful approach to their own people and poor parents are always become prey of their outburst.  So this is very common with every child.  So take it easy and taken it in your stride.  The generation gap that always remains down the centureies that can not be bridged up.

Answer 7

Remind your daughter that everyone is different and that her journey through life will be easier if she accepts this.

Answer 8

Love her and let her know that you love her very much, sometimes kids tend to be a bit cruel with their parent, due to the peer pressure and everyday stile, point out her positive behavior, and how much she makes you proud everytime she does something positive, if your child is a teenager, all the acting out is a cry for positive attention, don't allow her to disrespect you, but love her and let her know that you will be there always no matter what... Good luck!