My daughter got invited to a birthday party and has known about it for a week.?

Question

I have asked about the details a number of times, but she keeps forgetting the invite at school. Now she tells me that the party is tomorrow after school. I am so mad that she did not give me more time to get a gift. It is too late for me to get one by tomorrow. My inclination is to not let her go. She often acts irresponsibly and I think she needs to learn a lesson. She is almost 10. Or should I let her go, but we will have to bring the gift at a later date?

Answer 1

I'd be mad too. Take something away from her for a day, like TV. That way, she will get some reading done, which seems to be missing from kids' lives these days.

I assume her friend about 10 as well... let her go to the party and drop by Target and get a $10 gift certificate. No sense in her being embarrassed when she arrives. Or, better yet,  make HER get in line and get the gift card (and work for the $10 too)

Answer 2

My daughter is 8 and is finally getting better about stuff like this. We've had a lot of days when things get left behind or forgotten at school. After missing a few events such as this one because we hadn't been informed of it, she realized she'd better start remembering to let us know!

Answer 3

how long does it take to buy a gift.. 10 minutes, run to walmart and grab something, its a kids bday party you dont have to scourer the globe for something special.  Let her go to the party

Answer 4

Let the poor thing go. and ya it only takes like 30min. to go get something.I mean gosh!

Answer 5

natural consequences.  She didn't bring home the invitation on time, so you didn't have enough time to go get the gift.  Let her go without a gift or make one herself tonight.  She can explain to her friend why she doesn't have a gift.

Answer 6

why ask us if you have time to buy a gift? we dont know if you live 5 minutes from the nearest store or 2 hours. but you knew there was going to be a party...im sure you knew the age, and whether it was a boy or a girl, you could have bought the gift since you knew it was coming up.  so your daughter gets her irresponsible streak honest. if youve already told her she can go i dont see a reason to cancel on her because you  BOTH could have handled it a little better.

Answer 7

Well i think that she shouldn't be allowed to go if she has a lack of responsibility. My littleset sister is like that but keeps forgeting her homework so she is failing 4th grade and has to repeat. She says she just forgets but i think really she is just lazy. So really i think u should make up your mind in what would be best...just send her with no present. SHE can explain to HER friend why there is no present...or why she was not able to go.. Then maybe next time she will remember. And do what u asked

Answer 8

Is there no way you can get a gift at all? cant you pop to a big supermarket or something? If not, I would put money in a card...kids of taht age love money...and I would explain to the Mother why there's no present. I think at 9 you can forgive a little forgetfulness...I couldnt bear to make my daughter miss a party.

Answer 9

I think you should let her go without a gift. Maybe let her make her friend a card or something. Or maybe if your daughter has something she hasn't opened yet and doesn't want it. If your little girl's friend is a real good friend she wouldn't care if she brought  a gift or not! I remember when my mom used to tell me that same advice. If she forgot the details than don't get mad. Only if she forgets on purpose. Maybe you should just let her go under some conditions. Let her go if other of some of her good friends are going. Or maybe you should call the parents of the girl's birthday party. If she acts irrisponsible then dont let her go. Maybe you should let her do some of your chores. Maybe like mopping or cleaning around your house. Take or feed the dog or fish or whatever kind of pet you have. If your daughter is irresonsible than she won't do the chores. If you tell her that she could go only if she does the work than that would prove that she could be responsible. I would be pround that she took her responsibility to a higher level. It would be a step for her and you and that would mean you would get her to do something good ans stress free once in a while! I would be very proud of my little girl if she did that!

Jamie

Answer 10

Just get the kid a Kinder surprise and some gum.