My daughter has a best friend who is a boy...they are 6, and want to have a sleepover?

Question

The boy's mom is okay with it completely, but I am not sure about it. I know that they are best friends, but they also have 6 year old crushes on eachother. I don't think anything funny would happen, but i am not really comfortable with the idea, nor my wife. What do you think?

Answer 1

careful my son is 4 and him and his best friend (who is a girl also 4) ended up playing OB doctor where he was delivering her baby out of her dress.   she had her underwear on.  

we just made rules they are not allowed to have the door closed and they cant be on the bed together (we have caught them laying on top of each other too)

they also have gotten curious and looked at each other too

so as we catch them we have talks and they don't repeat the things but we never thought we would've had to think about stuff like that with 4 year olds they get along so great and we are good friends with the parents as well

Answer 2

I definately understand where you're coming from.

Let them have a sleep over. They're 6. They'll fall asleep relatively early. You can put them in seperate places to sleep or have them bring their sleeping bags.

Answer 3

eh i was babysisttin two 6 year olds a while ago that sound like yours. they would play a game called roy and elizabeth or something like that and i would walk in on them french kissin. who knows what they were doin when lights were out. woulda never thought it coulda happened

Answer 4

Let them have their sleepover.  If you're concerned, just supervise.  But really, unless they've been exposed to something on tv or one of them has been abused or something, they're not going to be remotely thinking about s*x, and being an age where neither has hormones surging, they're not going to be interested in it, either.  My daughter had sleepovers with her best friend, who is a boy, up till age 8.

Answer 5

If you are not comfortable with it then you need to say no.

Six year olds are curious about their bodies, and putting them in a situation where they could explore is not a good idea.  Trust your instinct.

Answer 6

They are 6 year olds, dont let your imagination go crazy, its perfectly innocent.Let kids be kids while the can, Im sure everything will be fine.I have niece thats 6 and she has a boy classmate come over and play all the time.Remember they are just kids, thats the furthest thing from their mind.

Answer 7

I don't think you have much to worry about. All of my friends are boys and i had sleepovers until i was 11. I would either sleep in their sisters room or on their brothers bed in the same room but if they came to my house, we would sleep in sleeping bags.  They just want to do what other best friends are doing. Good Luck!

Answer 8

they are 6, they are friends. They wouldn't even care that they are boy and girl, let them have their sleepover

Answer 9

It's up to you and either decision that seems right to you is the correct decision.

In our home, we only have single gender sleepovers.  We have friends who have boy/girl sleepovers, and we don't feel it's wrong - it's just not for us.

Be well.

Answer 10

sooooo....... let them remain children without your perverted sexual hangups ruining their friendship.

Answer 11

I would suggest a pretend sleepover. They get to do all the fun sleepover stuff, movies, junk food, games ect. but you go pick him up at bedtime. We have done this with girls who are afraid to sleepover. Its kind of a trial run with all the fun and none of the drama.

Answer 12

Go ahead and have them do a sleep over, but then put them to sleep in separate rooms after they've had a chance to watch movies, eat popcorn, color and do all the things that 6 year olds like to do; teach your daughter she should always have her privacy and that girls and boys sleep in separate rooms.  explain to the boy's mom what you plan on doing so she can share the same message with her little boy; invite her over so you can both be present for a while to watch how they play together.  if there are any issues, they will come up and you will both be able to handle it.  they are just 6, and most likely are not thinking about "crushes" the way adults do...at least I hope...my little six year old son had a sleep over at one of his friend's houses (she's a girl)- he slept in a different room- my friend (the girl's mom) made up the guest room just for him, in the end he got really homesick, and we went to pick him up at bed time....never asked to spend the night there again but likes to go over to play...Good luck!

You can always split them up (your daughter in your room) and make up her bed for her guest...it teaches sacrifice at an early age...communication with the other parents is a must and you might gain new friends in the process!

Answer 13

if youre not comfortable then dont do it, i would listen to my parental instinct on this one

Answer 14

This may not be your opinion, but it's mine;

They are six, the most the will do is kiss which I highly doubt,

they are just friends.

Maybe makeup that you guys have some family get together on the night and just let him stay over for a couple of hours during the day for a play.

I mean they're six, they're not going to make out or anything haha.

Good Luck  :}

Answer 15

At six years old children really don't notice each other as much as you notice them.If you are so worried about something inappropriate happening sleep in the room with them. Six year old crushes are not anything like 13 year old crushes believe me.

Answer 16

If you're uncomfortable, don't allow it.  Versantl views are out of whack

Answer 17

Well, even if she was having a sleepover with a girl, she could still possibly do, well, stuff. My point is gender doesn't matter... plus, I doubt they're planning to have s*x. I mean really, 6? At six, I masturbated... but never would've thought to have s*x with my little 'puppy-love' crushes. I didn't even have a clue what the word s*x meant.

Answer 18

We went through this with my oldest daughter and her best friend and I understand completly your concern.  You don't think anything inappropriate will happen but you feel it just isn't right.  We let the kids have a sleepover here at the house one night.  They set up with us and watched movies and played games and then when it was time to go to bed we tucked our daughter in in her bed and her friend in in her brothers room.  They had the fun of getting to do the movies and games you have at a sleepover but we had peace of mind when it came bed time.  It was more like babysitting for a friend this way.  The kids had a blast and we did this several more times until they were about 8 then my daughter decided boys were gross and we didnt have to worry about it again until she turned 124 and decided they werent so bad after all.

Answer 19

Relax a little they are only six they're best friends and just want to do what other best friends do. If you feel uncomfortable with them sleeping in a bed give them  separate sleeping bags. Let them have their fun. x x

Answer 20

if u dont want to tell her no. Call him on playdates but im not so sure either.

Answer 21

I don't think its that serious, there only six. Its just a sleep over, let them have there childhood fun. Or if your that uncomfortable, make the sleepover a little bit bigger, invite other friends to feel comfortable.

Answer 22

Do you know how to say the word "No"?