My daughter has been spreading lies about me

Question

should I confront her just let it be? She is 16 and wanted a cell phone. I wouldn't get it for her because she refuses to help out around the house. She takes off and won't tell me where she is going. An adult co-worker of hers got one for her because my daughter told her that I had bad credit, which is so untrue. Now my cousin that workes with my daughter thinks that the rumor is true. My cousin has a big mouth and will tell the rest of the family. The family reunion is coming up in a few weeks and I planned on attending but now I am too embarrssed to go.

Answer 1

If I was you I would take that cell phone and break it into a million pieces. That is your child not your family's. If you tell her no it should stay that way. Attend the family union and if your family comes telling you anything let them no who is the parent. You don't have to explain anything to them.

Answer 2

I would return to the cell phone to person who gave it to her and tell her that I am the parent and I decide if she gets one. Then I would ground her for her action. She needs to be punished for her actions.

Answer 3

The truth will come out.

Confront the person that got her the phone against your better judgment and ask them to please refrain from raising your daughter for you.  she is 16 and your responsibility, not a co-worker's responsibility.

Then you need to ask your daughter for the cell phone and give it back to the person that thought they needed to mind your business. Let them know they overstepped their bounds.

It is time for you to nip her attitude problems in the bud and let others know you are in control.

Ask yourself who is the mother and who is the child here?

WHAT YOUR DAUGHTER NEEDED INSTILLED IN HER NEEDED TO BE INSTILLED IN HER AT A YOUNG AGE. THE FACT THAT SHE HAS ALREADY BEEN PREGNANT AND HAD AN ABORTION TELLS ME THAT SOMEWHERE SHE MISSED OUT ON SOME VERY IMPORTANT INFORMATION.

Not yelling, caps were stuck.

Answer 4

confront her & tell her co-worker to take the phone away 4rm your daughter, and tell the co-worker the truth about you

Answer 5

And if you don't go it will look like the rumors are true.  I suggest you take away her house key and next time she takes off without telling you where she goes lock the doors and don't let her back in.  You can tape a piece of paper on your front door with the names and addresses of homeless shelters in your area and tell her to seek shelter there until she can behave correctly.  With her being 16 you can consult your local social services and find out if she can be placed into foster care or emancipated.  If she becomes emancipated you will no longer be responsible for her...maybe it's time to use a little "tough love"  

Answer 6

One silly rumor and you are embarrassed to go to a family function?  That's even sillier than the rumor itself!  Who is the 16 year old here?  NOT YOU!

Here's what you do, and in this order:

A.) Take away new cell phone from daughter (she is a minor, after all!)

B.) Let adult co-worker know you don't appreciate them stepping on the toes of a responsible parent who has rules and guidelines for their children.  Hand the phone back to them and let them know that if you find it in your daughter's possession again you will file Harassment charges against them.

C.) Pick out an outfit for the upcoming function and get your hair done.  Daughter can go in whatever outfit YOU pick out for her.  She will lose all privileges she has: TV, home phone, Computer, Stereo, etc for one month.  Curfews will be set and she is to be driven to and from work by you or a responsible family member.  No friends are allowed over and she cannot go to anyone else's homes.

D.) Go to family function, have fun and if one person asks about credit problems simply say, 'What credit problems?  Last I checked, my credit was perfectly fine.  Thank you.  Can you pass the margaritas?'

Be a parent, don't let your child bully you and start to have some fun!

Answer 7

ok first of all don't be too embarrassed to go cos you will look guilty and why are you letting your daughter run rings around you? you need to crack the whip! she is 16 and we all turn into little madams at that age but you need to sort her out now before she gets out of hand.i am in no way questioning your parenting as i am a mum myself and i no how hard things can get! just sit her down and explain that she has hurt you and ask her why she behaves like this? tell her she can be treated like a young mature woman when she acts like one it will not take 2 seconds for her to tell you where she is going instead of just taking off but tell her you need to no for your piece of mind incase anything happens.

hope all goes ok and enjoy yourself at you reunion you deserve it!