My daughter has no friends at school, should I take her to therapy? She seems very depressed and not social.?

Question

I'm very concerened and don't know how do go about this.

Answer 1

how do you know if she has no freinds... and i would say dont send her to therapy because if shes at the high school/ middle school age its going just to make her mad at you too.

Answer 2

you should not take her to therapy, it will lower her self-esteem. But maybe move her to a new school and see if she makes friends, or if you have a relative you should send her to the same school so she knows someone and has someone to talk to.

Answer 3

If she came to you and talked to you about it, and you don't feel like there is any solution you can think of, then I would say yes.

But you haven't given a lot of info. That seems to me like you haven't talked to her about it. What if you find out what is really bothering her?

By just being there to listen to her, that alone is a big part of therapy. Sometimes kids and teens feel powerless and just need to feel like someone will actually listen to them and aknowledge that what they have to say is important.

When she talks to you, be sure to just listen at first and don't give judgements or advice of any kind.

If you need clarification, ask more questions. Ask as many questions as you can to uncover the root of what is really bothering her.

You should also repeat back to her what she told you, in your words , just to clarify and reaffirm her feelings.

Empathise with her - let her know that you understand how she feels, something like, ":I can see why that bothered you" or "I would feel bad too if that happened to me."

Once  you have done ALL these things, work with her to think of a solution. If it helps, write down all the possible solutions with her. Even write down the silly things to get it flowing. Then, have her cross out all the ideas she doesn't like. From the ones that are left, see if you and her can devise a solution.

Together, you and her can gradually implement a plan to help her with whatever she is going through. This itself will be therauputic, just knowing she has so much of your support.

However, if you don't feel like this process is even possible with her right now and she is not willing to cooperate, maybe therapy is a good last resort.

Answer 4

the person above me is exactly right.

Answer 5

Talk to her and make her understand there is some problem but not with her and if she goes for therapy then problem could be solved. Take her only if she understands and wants to go. Otherwise she will feel like you also think she is the problem and she will feel the same for her and the situation will be worse. Good luck.

Answer 6

well first of all try to talk to her. Don't push a doctor on her .How old is she..

Answer 7

If she has no friends the cause is likely a lack of social skills. While she'd probably develop them eventually over time it could take a very long time. Best thing is to find a therapist who specializes in social skills therapy. Honestly the stigma that people have about therapists is stupid, ignorant, and counterproductive. Believe me when I say that years of social rejection/isolation will be far more damaging to your daughter than having to endure going to a psychologist. This isn't even considering the depression which would warrant seeing a therapist just by itself.

Answer 8

Why does she need therapy?  Dosen't sound to me as if she needs it.  She's not one of those with a bunch of friends so what?  She's probably a loner, so what?  This doesn't indicate the need for therapy.  Why not just leave her alone and let her be who SHE is.

My middle daughter is very quiet and is much a loner.  She loves to go to cemetarys and do stone rubbings, sometimes she will take her sketch book and schetch her surroudings.

Answer 9

try therapy

after she finishes it, this  summer, you could send her to summer camp for a week so she came make all new friends.

it's not the best idea, i know, but i hope it helps