My daughter has the mouth of a teenager. Timeout isn't helpin,any ideas of what to do to stop her behavior????

Question

I am at a loss because she is very intelligent. I am embarassed this is not how i thought i raised her to behave. I am out of ideas to discipline her to get her to not have such a disrespectful mouth and attitude. Please help. Books don't help there isn't anything regarding this issue unless i read adolescent books but shes only 4 going on 5.

Answer 1

Take away her favorite toys (T.V., Computer, Video Games, Doll Babies, Barbies, Etc.)

Time out for longer.....

Answer 2

Tell her very clearly what kind of things she is not allowed to say, what words she should not use, and that you will spank her if she still does. If she doesn't comply, spank her. Time outs never help with this sort of behavior, giving her a sore bottom may.

Answer 3

don't soap her mouth, that's horrible and poisoness, and i remember when my dad did that to me once, it only made me worse.. grounding isn't that great either, they don't really understand that.. what you have to do is take her things away like previously said, don't give her her own way and maybe put her on a naughty step.. if she says no count to three and if she doesn't go you go and place her there and tell her she can't leave until you say so.. (DONT FORGET ABOUT HER) and if she comes off.. you stgart going and getting her favourite toys and tell her that she's not getting them back until she stays on the naughty step and she'll eventually learn that if she says or does bad things she'll go to the naughty step and if she doesn't go to the naughty step she'll lose her favourite things.. try it!

Answer 4

take away things she likes to do for example take tv away for 2 days.

Tell her she has to spend 1 hour on her bed thinking about the way she behaves every time she is disrespectful.

Answer 5

have you taken anything away? her priveleges?  swimming pool?  going outside?  you have to ground her for a long time until she breaks.

Answer 6

you have allowed this behavior in the past now have fun trying to break the nasty habit

Answer 7

This seems crazy, but it has worked very well for my sassy 7 year old.  She hates vinegar.  So I literally put a DROP of vinegar on a spoon and she needs to eat it when she can't control her mouth (or apologize).  I also used this technique but used baby food spinach for my son.  I obviously tried time outs first, but this was my last resort, and it worked!!!

Answer 8

WHOOP THAT BUTT, NO ONE DOES THIS ANYONE AND THEN WONDERS WHY THEIR KID IS SO BAD

*SHEESH*

Answer 9

soap her mouth the good old fashioned way

Answer 10

ground her and take away her favorite things, then tell her if she wants them back, she has to earn them.

Answer 11

Where is she learning the words and behaviours? Obviously somewhere where consequences are absent.

Soap is a terrific idea, because it addresses the source of the offense (her mouth) in terms she can understand.  It is SUPPOSED to be unpleasant and humiliating, and as long as you do some research, it's not at all physically harmful.

Time out and removing privileges are good ideas, but as you know, not very effective in the long term.  When logic and reasoning with her don't work, fear (in this case, of a soapy mouth) is a magnificent motivator.

Answer 12

A good swat on the rear will help her to think before she opens her mouth. Disrespect should not be tolerated.

Answer 13

don't ever use soap in the mouth, it's not necessesary and it is disgusting that any parent would even resort to that cruelty.

I would say no more warnings. Tell that from now on as soon as she is disrespecftul and talks to you in a mean tone that she will sit for 4 minutes (one minute per year of age). I know you said time out isn't working but #1 it takes time and #2 you have to be extremely consistent. Even if it means she gets up and ends up right back for saying something bad. You have to let her know that you are serious. No warnings, if she has any leeway she will use it and continue to test you. Eventually if she does not want to keep having to sit she will stop. Make sure the time out chair is in an open space in a room where you are like a kitchen chair in the middle of the floor and use a timer or the microwave to time the 4 minutes. When it beeps you remind her why she was sitting and tell her you expect an apology.

make sure you model respectful behavior as well.

Answer 14

It is just a faze.

Answer 15

I would take away privelages as well.  But, where is she getting this from?  Is she around older kids alot?  Maybe at daycare?  Or is she watching things on TV that she shouldn't be?  Even some of the shows on the Disney Channel are geared towards "tweens" but the younger kids still watch them.  Is she going thru any changes at home?  Or maybe she's picking up on stress from other members of the family and is acting out this way????

Answer 16

Call up Supernanny if u can't think of anything else.

Answer 17

since time out is not working, look at her favorite things and take away one of them for her bad mouth.. if that does not work take away another favorite thing.  i would tape what she says, and play it around people that she cares about... good luck