My daughter is 10 and she hates the name we picked out for her.....?

Question

I am considering allowing her to change it legally, as long as she can come up with something I can at the very least tolerate.

Would you let your child change her name at the age of 10, why or why not?

Answer 1

Well, it depends if the name is related to her great great aunt or something, if not......You can.

Answer 2

here is a little secret...every child goes through this sooner or later. i did when i was around her age and my daughter has and shes only 6. i personally would not legally change it because she is not happy with it. i understand that she is the one that has to live with it, but if she hasnt changed her mind about it by the time she is 18, let her legally change it herself.

Answer 3

im sure its just a phase. she'll learn to love it. in the mean time, let her pick a nickname for herself and call her that.

Answer 4

Aw I think her name is cute, but I can relate on not liking your name.  My full name is Gabrielle and growing up it was mispronounced like no one's business.  I started going by Gabby when I hit 6th grade.  I would let my daughter change her name if it was something that important to her.  My parents refused to let me legally change my name and I'm ok with that, but still wish I could have.  I don't see too much of a problem with it.  I mean she will one day legally change her last name when she marries, so why not?

Let's see.....I think the name Sierra is pretty and original.  I love the names Delaney, Devon, or Cassidy.  Of course these are all Irish names :)  I have a small amount of Irish in me and my husband has a great about of Scotch-Irish in him.  Anyhow good luck on choosing a name for your little girl.  I have to say that if that is her in your avatar picture, she sure is a beauty!  I just wanted to throw a couple cute names out there for you.

Answer 5

everyone is like that when they are little. call her Jackie and find pictures of pretty and famous and really cool people who share her name (just type it into google images). and show her that cool people have that name too.

i wouldnt let my child change her name so young because i think she will later regret it. its a pretty name, and no child wants their name. would a rose by any other name smell so sweet?

Answer 6

i hate my name too, Christine, + i wanted to change it but it would be too much trouble - having to tell everyone to call you something new, gwtting used to being called that yoursel, making your parents feel like they ruined your life, etc. - so i just decided i'd make the best out of it, at least its not like there 3 people in my class with the same name as me

Answer 7

well it depends what name you picked out for her and how upset she really was. I would probly not just tell everyone to call her by some nickname.

Answer 8

I always thought that was why we had a middle name - for a second or as some have third choice to use if as we grow up we can use legally without having to change by deed poll.  A nickname would be wise as at ten your daughter is still very likely to be changing her mind as she experiences new ideas and creates her own opinions.  It is a wonder that more of us don't wish to change our first name, particularly as it is such a personal thing and someone else chooses it for us. Good luck to you all.

Answer 9

I wouldn't do it legally, not yet anyway, but you can create a beautiful ceremony in your home to help you all 'adopt' her new name. Tell her that you think it's fair to want to use a different name, and that you'll use it, and when she's eighteen that you'll all go with her to change it legally.

Most documents have a place for legal names and then nicknames. As long as you enroll her in school with her nickname, there shouldn't be trouble. It can make doctors forms difficult, (my son just goes by his middle name but insurance wants his first name, so the office is forever wrangling around that one) however, if she feels you're being reasonable on calling  her by her chosen name, then she's more likely to understand that 'we must use Jacelyn for the doctors forms'

My kids haven't wanted their names changed, but I have a friend who's daughter, at the age of three, said that her name was now something different (I won't share because it is quite original). They totally went with the flow, and now ten years later, the name fits her so very well that people can't imagine that anything else had been her name. She's a beautiful, artistic soul that everyone is pleased to meet.

Answer 10

well i supose if she really hates it...what is her name it cnt be that bad or perhaps its kids in school who h8 it not her but sure theres nothing really wrong with letting her change it. kerry xx

Answer 11

No lol leave her dye her hair pink too! Shes 10 thats why not, a 13yr old was raped the other day and not able to have an abortion as at the age of 13 a child is not considered reponsable enough!!! Its a phase and she knows you feel bad as you have obviously shown her, and is playin on it like kids do!!!!!

Answer 12

why dont you call her jackie or lyn for a while but dont change it

my daughter wanted to be called ash when she was 5 i dont know where it came from

also if she dosent come to like it why dont you call he by her middle name?

Answer 13

Just call her something else for a while, she'll get over it. I remember I used to do that to my mother, too.

Answer 14

Sorry, I would just say too bad.

Interestingly, that was the exact same age I hated my first name. I started calling myself by my middle name - and told everyone to call me that. However, once a Social Studies teacher gave me zero on a test, because - oh, he was smart - there was no one in his class by that name I was using - I sure went back to my real name in a hurry.

Don't do anything about her name, it's just a phase.

Answer 15

thats a little too young for a child to change her name. wait till she is like 15 (because when your 15 you make better desitions!!!).

Answer 16

Kids go through things when they are trying to find their own identity.  Some dye their hair crazy colors, others try and change their name.  Anything to assert independence.  So I would say that this is what she is trying to do and while I would empathize with her I would not allow her to change her name legally.

Answer 17

ABSOLUTELY NOT!! You can let her go by a nick name or maybe her middle name, but to allow her to change it legally at just 10 years old i think would be a horrible mistake. All children go through phases like this and as parents its our responsibility to keep them from doing something they WILL regret later. I think your daughters name is beautiful, btw!

When i was young I didnt like my name all that much either because it was so different. I wanted to be Ashley...lol! Now that im older I LOVE my name and it holds such special meaning to me because my dad gave it to me.

Answer 18

Well, my brother name is Alexis and in the 80's it was a fine name for a boy,but as he got older he had everyone call him Alex,because he said he had a girls name. I think call her what she wants and if you tell her school the will call her that as well. You never know it could be a now thing and then she'll grow out of it or maybe she will be like my brother he changed his own name at 26, but I still call him Alexis and he is fine with it from us just not in front of his friends. So call her what she wants to be called,but I would say wait she mit just start loving her name or decide to change it her self. My name is Amaris and now everyone calls me Amy and it's OK because only my true friends and love ones know me by my name.

Answer 19

I think its a phase... hated my name when I was younger bcuz it was too different but grew to love it as I got older. My oldest sone wanted to rename himself "Sabu" when he was 8 and yeah, sorry it wasn't gonna happen. He's used to his name now and I think will get past that whole thing.

Answer 20

I would not allow it.  The kid is 10, meaning they change their minds constantly.  When I was her age I hated my name.  I have two names, Mary Rae.  I hated it because kids used to call me all kinds of terrible names.  I never ended up liking my name until I was in high school.  Now, I love it.  You daughter will just need time to get used to it.  Trust me, she will.  Now that I am older, I have learned to appreciate it.  You are the parent, you liked the name, that's all that matters. Trust me, your kid will find other things to hate later on.  If you allow your daughter to change everything that doesn't go her way, you are going to find that you have a very bratty kid on your hands.

Good luck