My daughter is 13 and I told her today she could get her bellybutton pierced?

Question

She's 13 years old. We are going to Aruba in June of 2009. I told her that if she made honor roll all 4 quarters this school year in 8th grade (90 or above average) and made English honors for freshman year (9th grade) the following school year beginning in September 2009 - she could get her belly button pierced in May 2009 before we go to Aruba in the end of June. (We find out what classes she is placed in May of 2009.) She is a beautiful English student, and I don't think she will have a problem at all making English 9H but I still want her to make honor roll all 4 quarters. Am I right in doing what I'm doing? Should I let her get it earlier, later? Please give me your opinion, thank you! (By the way, I'm on my daughters Yahoo account because I don't have one.) Thanks again and have a great weekend :)

Answer 1

She is your daughter so ultimately it is your decision. I was allowed to get mine done when I was 14 nearly 15 (now 24) but I HAD to find a doctor that would do it not some dodgy peircing place. your conditions sound fine to me

Answer 2

13 is young however, it sounds like your girl is on the right track. If she did that well in school, and will continue to do well (which it sounds like she would anyways) then i would let her. Obviously shes not flunking out of school and wants it to go show boys. and plus, i hear kids are asking for piercings in a LOT worse places (like nipples, my 15 year old neighbor girl got her nipples peirced WITH parental consent!!!!! what mom does that!!!) but a belly button is NOT a bad place. plus, i got mine when i was a freshman in high school and i didnt go off flaunting it or anything...i just had it to have it. good luck! your kid sounds like a good kid.  

Answer 3

sounds like something she will really work hard for.  

Answer 4

i think its good to make her wait.  if its something she wants this badly, she will 'do whatever it takes' to get it, and it doesnt seem like youre asking too much of her if she is a good english student already.  kudos to giving her motivation not to let her grades slip :)

Answer 5

hmm i dont know much about what you should do

but my mom took me for my 16th birthday

that was my present

Answer 6

lucky her. im 14 and my daddy still wont let me.

Answer 7

13 is alittle young to get your belly button pierced. I want to get mine done, but I'm 16. So it's alright. :)

It's best to wait. :)

Answer 8

I think she is way too young for a body piercing. I wouldn't be offering such 'rewards' until she's at least 16.  

Answer 9

yep let her wait

Answer 10

I don't have kids but someday when I do, I don't think I'll allow them to get anything pierced (except ears when they're older) while they're still living in my house.  Once they're 18, they can do what they want, but I'm not going to support them getting a belly ring, tongue piercing, etc. while they're children.

Why does she want her belly button pierced?  No one should be seeing her stomach anyway so what's the point?

Answer 11

I don't see any problem with this, as long as you haven't set the standards so high that they'd be impossible or very unlikely for her to meet.  A lot of kids couldn't do it, but if your daughter is a good student and you think she has a reasonable chance then it's fair.  But remember that school gets harder every year - 8th grade is more or less the start of high school for the brightest kids.  My kids have had experiences where a small mistake cost them a whole letter grade or a teacher set impossible standards or didn't let the students know how they were doing until the very end of the term.  So give that some consideration and maybe build a little leeway into the deal, if you think it's appropriate.  It's still a good incentive for her to keep her grades up.

The other thing I would look into is how long it will take for the piercing to heal.  If she's going to be showing it off in a bikini or swimming with it, make sure it's done well ahead of time.  Check with a reputable salon.  

Answer 12

yes, it think you are doing the perfect thing.

you know it is somethign she really wants, and she knows it is soemthing you really want

she isnt just getting her own way, so she wont fall into a path of spoilt behaviour, and at 13, many of her friends will most probably have it done, or will be getting it done soon.

it is a very good compromise to something that normally begins large arguements between mothers and daughters, with mothers caving in around the girls 14th birthday anyway.

But you are making her work for it, and deserve it.

I think you are absuloutly right.

Answer 13

Yes but just so you know english honors is a WHOLE different ballpark. I would know.

Answer 14

Sounds like a good way to work up the priviledge.

Answer 15

I having her earn it it good. You should probably make her wait so that she doesn't get too used to getting what she wants. You might want to check on the whole salt water with new piercing things. I don't know if it does anything but better safe than sorry.