My daughter is 15.,struggling and private,dealing with changes to help move her in a more posotive direction.?

Question

how can i encourage her out of her heaviness.she only wants books seems depressed

Answer 1

You don't say what changes you are talking about. Changes in school, home, with her body? It makes a big difference. I would take her to the doctor for a check up and talk to the doctor about it. Maybe she is truly clinically depressed. Hormones can do that.

Answer 2

Have you tried spending more time with her.  Like just going to lunch together or have a mother daughter date night and hit a nice restaurant just the two of you?  I always loved doing that with my mom and it gave us time to talk about fun things in a different setting rather than just being at home.  Sometimes when your at home, it feels like work trying to get in a good time to talk.  

Books are not necessarily a bad thing.  It's great that she likes to read.  Although, I do understand how that can lock you out from the world if that is all you do.  What kinds of books is she reading?  Maybe try to plan an activity that would be in the interest of what she's reading.  For example, if they are books on nature, maybe check out the botanical gardens together (just an example).  

Hope this helps a little.  Good luck :)